I read this, but I have no idea what they are trying to say.
For dating couples, the relationship itself tends to revolve around whether things are moving forward. Happiness with a partner depends on whether the relationship will grow into something more, whether a partner will support the dreams the other eventually hopes to achieve.
For married couples, the feeling that their partners are helping them to advance their relationships and realize their ideal achievements is still important. But the relationships of married couples, now more interconnected both practically and psychologically, tend to revolve around upholding the commitment made to their partners. Unlike dating couples, married couples also put a high premium on their partners’ support of whatever they determine to be necessary obligations.
Basically, what we typically see when dating as “important” becomes only partially important in marriage. For good marriages, an additional important perspective is the desire to uphold the vows of each other, keeping each other directed forward in a healthy fashion for the relationship.
This might mean keeping each other physically fit, spiritually strong, emotionally satisfied, etc. When dating, all that was encouraged was basically that a long-term dream was a general shared target and that marriage would occur.
I thought it was gnarble, too.
“I read this, but I have no idea what they are trying to say.”
Whew! I was feeling a bit inadequate for a minute.
;-)
The stuff you expect ‘em to do when you date, isn’t the same as the stuff you’ll expect ‘em to do when you marry ‘em.
You may be hiring a plumber to do the job of a pianist.