Posted on 02/14/2007 11:24:30 AM PST by blam
Wife studies why husband ignores nagging
DURHAM, N.C., Feb. 13 (UPI) -- A U.S. researcher says some people just can't help ignoring their nagging spouses.
The research, which appears online in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, found that people do not necessarily oppose others' wishes intentionally.
Duke University researchers found that "some people will act in ways that are not to their own benefit simply because they wish to avoid doing what other people want them" to do.
Psychologists describe the behavior at "reactance" -- a person's tendency to resist social influences that they perceive as threats to their autonomy.
Tanya L. Chartrand, an associate professor of marketing and psychology at Duke University's Fuqua School of Business, said even "the slightest non-conscious exposure to the name of a significant person in their life is enough to bring about reactance and cause them to rebel against that person's wishes."
Chartrand said she undertook the research as a way to understand why her husband often seemed to ignore her requests for help around the house.
"My husband, while very charming in many ways, has an annoying tendency of doing exactly the opposite of what I would like him to do in many situations," Chartrand said in a release.
Yes, dear.
It's genetic. Either God invented us so that we'd ignore them, or we evolved that way. Either way, it's for the better.
Maybe you're just a jerk, Ms. Chartrand, and hubby has found a passive-aggressive way to get your goat.
But in your mind you're saying..........
I would say it is to their benefit in the long run, because just like a child's whine, they are not rewarding the nag.
So --- Just ask him to do exactly opposite of what you really want.
There, that wasn't so hard.
Easy. It's either ignore the nagging, move out, or face an inquest for her mysterious disappearance.
Wives don't do this to husbands....
;-)
Maybe the world doesn't revolve around you. If you want the housework done, do it. I doubt your husband walks around the house wondering why you aren't cleaning the gutters.
Ignoring women is natures way of preventing us from killing them.
Why does your husband ignore your nagging? Because smashing in your skull with a crowbar would cause too much fuss
Ah, the science of bitching; how gauche, we all know it's an art.
Ever since EVE asked ADAM "Does this Fig Leaf make me look fat?" man has developed selective hearing. It's a matter of survival.
I've already cleaned the gutters and done the house work. I don't have a wife.
Did you write the article?
If she had asked him THAT, none of us would be here. There is no such thing as a right answer to that question.
Who paid for this BS study? If it's taxpayers, I'm gonna be PO'd!
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