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Substitute thread up - will decide tomorrow whether we continue with this one or post new one with earlier article.

Keep positive and please try not to argue

Great idea, Snugs, and I love your pictures of the Bushes and the Cheneys!

My mom loved all holidays, and for Valentine's day she'd bake soft sugar cookie cut-out hearts frosted in pink and red, YUM!

I'm just going to make one post in this thread and apologize to everyone for my conduct in the previous one, which resulted in it getting yanked entirely by the AMs. I'll say good night to all of you and hope you have a happy weekend.

I always liked Valentine's Day. I never had a boyfriend on Valentine's but in high school, neither did my two best friends. We used Valentine's as a day to celebrate our friendship. The three of us would have a party, give each other presents, and talk all night long. So I have very positive associations for the day. It meant a lot to me to be able to celebrate with them instead of sitting around, being depressed.

Repeat Courtship/Chivalry/Abstinence post due to--or is it in spite of--popular demand! LOL...

Well, it's Valentine's Day Weekend and millions of us are wondering when we'll find our Someone Special. What are some of the things that such a special one as we seek would expect us to be doing as we pursue them--or bide our time waiting for them to find (or recognize) us?

NEWS: I am engaged--not to any woman yet--(Gotcha!)--but in writing several books on dating, courtship and marriage. Later this weekend I will post some sections for reading and comments.

Meanwhile, a fascinating interchange about headship, chivalrous courtship behavior and the Pope...

...and a related thread

...and while THIS article might overstate the situation, a minister addressing the singles group I attended a few years ago suggested that singles in a lot of cases don't marry for one or both of two reasons: fear or selfishness. He sure stepped on some toes--including mine--and he was absolutely correct.

THIS thread would tie in with that.

Lastly, here's a post that seemed to resonate with quite a few people:
"In the case of dating or engaged couples, it is generally the woman who sets the sexual tone of the relationship."

TRUE, because so many males are thinking only with their 'lower brain' and are not being the guardian God intended for them to be. Yes, a man IS to be the guardian of his betrothed's chastity until the honeymoon. (Engagements need not be years long--witness the Old Testament marriage of King David with Abigail, for example--and to be valid, need a real wedding date commitment.) Indeed there are males (and females as well) out there who surrender their self-control to their sex drive. If the male is intent on gratification (in other words, is undisciplined in this area) then in yielding to his tempation, he surrenders the responsibility to say no until the proper time to the woman. This is a perversion of headship. In such cases, hopefully the woman uses not just emotion but also wisdom to determine if the guy will stay around to raise any children procreated. Our single-mother epidemic would indicate that this is not the case.

Please chime in with your thoughts! And--let's look for positive things to say--and gentle ways to indicate disagreement.

Happy Lord's Day Singles Ping! Two very interesting threads are linked below, possibly we could put replies on THIS 'official' thread for everyone's convenience. Be sure to ping the person you are replying to and let's have some fun!

Dating Web Sites Get Cold Shoulder From More Users

An unofficial weekend (substitute) thread - Feb 9-11 (the dark side?) [NOTE--ACTUALLY VERY POSITIVE!]