The official weekend (substitute) thread (9-11th Feb 2007)

9th February 2007 | Snugs

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Next week is Valentine's Day which for some of us if we are single can be depressing on the other hand we do not have the dilemma will We buy the right bottle of perfume, wine or box of chocolates. Will we pick the right restaurant, movie or play.

Instead of concentrating on the lack of a partner at the time of year lets look at the positives of our lives as singles. Places we can go, things we can do without having to negotiate with a partner.

Some may have children or elderly parents which means you are restricted but even so these are family members that most times offer unconditional love and support even if at times it does not seem like it. A partner gives love but often conditional love, a relationship that has to be worked at rather than being born into. There are great rewards in both and pressures in both.

As singles we can also appreciate and enjoy seeing happy couples this Valentines and sympathising with those who are just acting it out and being thankful once again that being single is preferable in many cases to pretending.

Be positive lets think of happy past Valentine Days maybe as a child for a lot of women when your father made you feel special. I know several families where the father always sends valentine cards to his daughters even though they are grown just to make sure they are not forgotten.

Come on all lets have fun and not dwell on what we do not have but celebrate that what we do have.

[DollyCali]

Thanks Bev, those are clever.. I thought I had some somewhere hiding in "my documents"..a very large folder with many very large subfolders. How is DIL(recent widow) doing?

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

Wow, sounds like quite a day. Praying for peace and health for him and all your family now.

[kitkat]

Do you by any chance have Helen O'Connell singing Green Eyes?

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

Happy Lord's Day Singles Ping! Two very interesting threads are linked below, possibly we could put replies on THIS 'official' thread for everyone's convenience. Be sure to ping the person you are replying to and let's have some fun!

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An unofficial weekend (substitute) thread - Feb 9-11 (the dark side?) [NOTE--ACTUALLY VERY POSITIVE!]



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[MountainFlower]

morning, spirit!

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

Morning, Flower and all. I'm out the door to church and will check in later.

[MountainFlower]

heading out the door, right behind you, for church! ::griN:: be blessed!!
later everyone!

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Not having read all of it but what I did I second that.

[rzeznikj at stout]

Gracias...

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I hope you find what you need at present whether it be a relationship or just contentment in your current situation.

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Hi sorry I bailed out earlier but was a heck of evening with dad being taken ill thankfully now sorted - he is of course very tired today.

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I can understand that

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True friendship certainly is how sad that many find that we have too little "real" friends.

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Something that a friend said to me once stuck with me and I think is good advice.

The test is not can I live with this person but can I live without this person - not in a clinging dependant way but in a positive sharing all life's trials and tribulations.

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I think you right Kate but we also have to be prepared to act if the opportunity arises and not run away because of fear or past failures part of it is up to us to recognize it when it comes.

At present I cannot even think of it because of responsibilities with dad etc somehow that gives me peace and contentment but is it also an excuse - only time and my conscious can really answer that.

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Hi sorry I bailed out last night but life was hectic

[stephenjohnbanker]

Happy 21 dude!

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That is the Peugeot 206 but both were sort of cult vehicles in the UK and are still sort after especially if in a good condition.

The Golf I believe is still in production and is loved in Britain.

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I am glad in a way I missed the worse of it then.

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I think you have your priorities right and eventually hopefully the right person will come along to share your life but as you say one has to learn to be content and happy if that does not happen and not to be defined by whom we are with but to be secure in ourselves first.