Posted on 08/31/2025 2:20:36 PM PDT by where's_the_Outrage?
Boomer parents moving back in with their adult children isn’t a new thing. Money has been the primary reason, for the most part, especially since many elders failed to save for their retirement.
The story you’re about to read has a slightly different premise. A couple decided to sell their home and travel full-time, but their sudden change of plans led them to move in
The woman initially welcomed the idea as a show of love for her parents. However, things got heated when she refused a longer-term arrangement.
After an episode of emotional blackmail from her mother, the author asks the internet if she is out of line. Scroll down for the full story.......
The author isn’t alone in her distress about having her folks move in with her. According to statistics by Pew Research, 23% of Americans find living in a multigenerational household stressful.
These sentiments are more common among adult children, accounting for 31% of respondents.
Multigenerational households have their fair share of pros and cons. Investment advisor Triton Financial Group pointed out one upside: a built-in support system. Caregiving becomes less of a burden for aging parents and younger children.
Relatives also grow closer to each other, strengthening family bonds. However, the most significant benefits are in finances since shared expenses significantly reduce living costs.
On the other hand, the deterioration of relationships can be the biggest drawback of a multigenerational home. It can be particularly true among family members who are used to living apart. The sudden co-existence under one roof may create conflict, especially when there are differences in beliefs and opinions.
The author seemed to have this problem, particularly with her parents possibly invading her personal space. It did cause some conflict between her and her mother, which is always unfortunate.
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Basically the parents sold their house and planned to be day trippers, but got tired and tried to stay with their daughter. Which was OK in the short term but the parents then asked for years and she said no.
As a retired boomer I am trying my best not to over burden my wife and daughter. So my plan is to move to Thailand and when I need caregivers my wife is to hire some full time (young and pretty) nurses to care for me, should cost less than $2K a month.
Rightly, or wrongly, Boomers have a reputation for being selfish. The “Me Decade” was their time, after all. Not all Boomers were selfish, of course. Some were literally self-sacrificing. But this story seems to involve Boomers who just wanted to live it up and travel the world, and expected their kids to pick up the pieces when it all fell apart for the oldsters. Feeds right into the stereotype.
As much as I’ve done for my kids, they better not even blink if I ever come to them for help. They are both doing very well, and will continue to do so long after I’m gone. I made sure of it.
If a boomer sells their home they’re idiots. Home values have tripled in 20 years. They cannot get the house back, they are homeless. Any boomer who put their kids into day care at six weeks should prepare for the same in their older years from their families. Period
That aside, prepare for the economy. We boomers need to help Trump fix the $40 triillion debt we oversaw. No day tripping. The generations behind us deserve more
The younger generation is selfish. They continue to want their participation trophy. Me, me, me
I think your wife should be free to hire some young trans nurses for you in your old age.
I didn’t oversee that debt.
I .oved out at 16. I would go bat crap crazy if my.mother moved in with me. After a two hour visit I am exhausted. And her addiction to daytime MSNBC and The Spew I would rather live in a cardboard box behind the grocery store than with my mother again.
I would expect more than 23% of Americans to find anything stressful.
Woman shouldn’t have to live with her parents if they’ve had a bad relationship, but I would think their social security and her resources could lead to a situation where both could have their privacy?
As a late Boomer, I was in grade school in the “Me Decade”.
What the oldsters are doing is analogous to a youngster borrowing $250,000 and partying for four years at a “college.”
People who expect their kids to take care of them in retirement sell their home? Did they consult the daughter? Does she get to say yes or no?
You’d just have to set some rules (written!) before she moves in.
No daytime spew for example.
Remove Thailand off the list after you find the YT video on why ex-pats lose everything when they try to retire there. The comments by other expats confirm it. It’s a set up.
Consider Belize.
LOL, lots of ladyboys there. However, my wife is very well taken care of financially (by me), so I would hope better from her.
One thing I have setup is that I’m worth more alive than dead (basically no life insurance). But she’ll have more than enough.
Be nice to your children as they select your nursing home.
And at the same time they are hording all the wealth and homes and need to have it forcefully taken from them.
It is like them keeping all the good jurbs but when they retire people whine about them not staying and helping to keep things running.
Society is schizophrenic when it comes to Boomers.
The only thing it agrees on is they are the cause of all problems in the world. Even the ones that happened before they were born.
Belize...
How are Gun laws?
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I’d expect better from you.
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