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The article bemoans the loss of men to porn. While that is true, the author doesn't realize how her own words show the way society pushes men away
1 posted on 06/22/2025 2:02:49 AM PDT by Cronos
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This it funny. I drove myself crazy chasing females. I was a walking hardon. Then again none tried to sue me for maleness or having a bulge in my shorts. This was back in the 60’s/ 70’s. I’ve been married for 53 years. The girl has always had a house, money, and kids (2) to care for. It didn’t seem that hard. Guess my mom and dad raised me right. I wonder if there’s a connection to my happiness and that?


2 posted on 06/22/2025 2:12:56 AM PDT by Equine1952 (I)
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BTTT


3 posted on 06/22/2025 2:20:45 AM PDT by nopardons
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I am sure conservative women that take care of themselves with pride in their appearances ,have loyalty, affection and compassion don’t worry about where the real mean are they are quietly sleeping next to one right now with a dog or two between them both sleeping the sleep of the righteous.

Porn is not the issue. Woke mind virus is the issue.


4 posted on 06/22/2025 2:25:05 AM PDT by GenXPolymath
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Go out in the woods and find a bear.


5 posted on 06/22/2025 2:34:03 AM PDT by Steely Tom ([Voter Fraud] == [Civil War])
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Men use porn to substitute for the love they need. Almost all men, who use porn, do so because they aren’t feeling loved by women.

Women have made it clear in the dating world that only the top 20% of men can expect love. The rest are told they have to do without. They do without, until they are in their thirties when women are willing to return, because they’ve come back down to earth. However, most men feel gypped in life on that point when they are finally able to interact with women again.

That is why men are staying away. They perceive an unfair deal by the time they are in their thirties.


6 posted on 06/22/2025 2:34:38 AM PDT by Jonty30 (He was so fat that it took a year for his memory foam mattress to forget him. )
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There are plenty of men around until women hit the wall and all their youth is gone. Its women who are pushing the overwhelming majority of men away up until that point. The prospect of being with a woman who no longer has a single ay of her youth to offer, who's been around the block too many times chasing elite men who are out of her league, who turned down average or even above average men until that point and who he has to know doesn't really want to be with him but is now desperate and thinks she's settling is not very appealing.

It is not only not appealing for all the above reasons, but he's also got to worry that she will marry him to get the child or two she wants and then will divorce him (since she didn't really want him in the first place) and financially cripple him with alimony and child support for the next 20 years. He will at best get visitation with his kid(s).

Feminazis and the Courts have made the deal so lousy for men that they are opting out. Most men are not seeking a subservient woman who will stay barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen - the accusation feminazis will immediately leap to - but getting at least some of what they want and not getting completely raked over the coals if it doesn't work is not too much to expect. Its the minimum that men are going to have to get, or they're simply going to say no deal.

7 posted on 06/22/2025 2:47:16 AM PDT by FLT-bird
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Porn doesn’t try to take half of everything you own. For that much neither does any number of things men have chosen to spend their time on rather than chase women. Men have given up on women because the risks outweighed the benefits. Forget about rejection, men were afraid of losing their jobs, their money and even their freedom for dating the wrong woman. Under those circumstances it’s no wonder men said “f*** it, I’m out” and living their lives their own way. This is certainly having an effect on stable 2 parent households. And there is certainly blame to go around. But a lot of it must be laid at the feet of feminists who have told women they can “have it all” for the last 50 years while demonizing anything to do with men. NOBODY can have it all. Not women, not men. Nobody can. It’s an irrational and unobtainable goal. Porn isn’t the disease. It’s just a symptom.

CC


8 posted on 06/22/2025 2:48:49 AM PDT by Celtic Conservative (Pedisequus parasiticus es popularium!)
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Good morning. I don't have a NYT subscription. The excerpt posted here is interesting enough that I would like to read 'the rest of the story'. Could someone please add the missing text?

I am hoping the author reaches the conclusion that toxic femininity shares blame in the relationship quandry. I don't need to be fixed, just accepted for my differences.

10 posted on 06/22/2025 3:00:08 AM PDT by Kudsman (I am Coal baby! Burning for you. )
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"There was something mutual from the start — wordplay, emotional precision, a tone that felt attuned."

Good grief. Yeah, that will attract a manly man. Hey Rachel, try something like: "I had my doubts that Rodgers would work out well with the Jets, and I am skeptical that he will be any better with the Steelers. What do you think?"

Or this: "Ya know, I think that 'great taste, less filling' commercial with the two women wrestling around was one of the funniest beer commercials ever. What's your favorite?"

20 posted on 06/22/2025 3:19:05 AM PDT by Enterprise ( These people have no honor, no belief, no poetry, no art, no humor, no patriotism.)
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There was something mutual from the start — wordplay, emotional precision, a tone that felt attuned. It was brief, but it caught light. I remember saying to him, “Even fleeting connections matter, when they’re mutual and lit from the inside.” I meant it.

Utterance of those sentences alone make her undatable. Yikes.

21 posted on 06/22/2025 3:19:55 AM PDT by KevinB (I don’t really care, Margaret.)
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I am beginning to think being 100% invisible to women all my life has become a blessing in disguise.


22 posted on 06/22/2025 3:20:57 AM PDT by MachIV
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I stopped reading at the second paragraph. As I’m sure many others did.

She’s insufferable.


23 posted on 06/22/2025 3:22:08 AM PDT by Justa (Our constitution was made only for a moral and religious people....)
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American culture is rotten and broke. Yes, porn is part of that collapse but there is far more to it than that. There has been a war on men and boys, right from kindergarten onward. They have tried to eradicate masculinity and make men second class citizens, praising women and condemning men.

You reap what you sow. American society is broken. The culture is poisoned. What did they think would happen when they screwed around with God’s natural system that had worked for thousands of years?

I hate liberals and the left with a burning passion. Everything they touch today is destroyed.


25 posted on 06/22/2025 3:24:19 AM PDT by Freedom_Is_Not_Free (America -- July 4, 1776 to November 3, 2020 -- R.I.P.)
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She is soooo past her sell by date and so stupid she can’t do the math of birth rate and demograhics by race in the US for the last half century. Any man in her pool has been there, done that, been taken and ain’t riding that horse again.


26 posted on 06/22/2025 3:34:28 AM PDT by Badboo (A fascist is the one who wants to take your guns. That's how it always starts.)
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BTW, something that was behind the paywall:

"I'm 54".

There's your problem honey. By that age men are generally looooooong past having any romantic interest in you if you haven't been in a relationship with them for decades. You needed to get serious about finding a good man who was a match for you in the 1990s. When I say a match for you, if you're a 5 you probably needed to be looking at the men who were 5s and 6s. You'd have been very lucky indeed to get a 7...its tough to get someone two rungs above you on the ladder - let's be honest. The problem is that far too many women look at men and say nothing less than an 8 (ie the top 20%) is acceptable to them.....until they're older and no longer have much value in the dating market as a result and have FINALLY started acting reasonable wrt the level of men they're willing to be in a relationship with - by which point of course, its too late.

27 posted on 06/22/2025 3:36:41 AM PDT by FLT-bird
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"The article bemoans the loss of men to porn."

The author of the article is just plain bemoaning. She doesn't seem like the type to initiate. She may know what she wants but she doesn't know how to go about getting it.
28 posted on 06/22/2025 3:38:39 AM PDT by equaviator (Nobody's perfect. That's why they put pencils on erasers!)
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porn is the reason for men leaving women

i have to ask, if men left women, what are they watching?

its not that men left women, its that women are empowered, women never mature past age 15, they put a much higher price tag on flash and looks than personality. They chase after good looking guys until they are worn out and realize they no longer are worth much and then start looking for a man to settle down.

the old fashioned way was to get married before and guy is firmly established, you both work on a life together, chase dreams you both have and have kids.

Porn replaced the dreams of good men because women traded mens dreams for divorce which can destroy a man's life.

So, for men, its watch porn, or chase a woman who's eventually going to break you?

29 posted on 06/22/2025 3:42:04 AM PDT by Ikeon (5,365 times,I've already told ya. YOU CAN'T FIX STUPID)
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So I named what I felt. I texted him clearly, with care, not simply to declare attraction but to extend a real invitation to explore what was possible. I didn’t chase. I invited, leaving the door open.

That's probably where she blew it. Any outreach like that is seen as "chasing," and with this negotiating-a-business-merger language, it's really not appealing.

32 posted on 06/22/2025 3:56:33 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady (The greatest wealth is to live content with little. -Plato)
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“Wait! Come back! We’re not done belittling and emasculating you yet!”

MGTOW. “Got yer back, Jack...dem b$tches be crazy!”


33 posted on 06/22/2025 3:57:15 AM PDT by Adder (End fascism...defeat all Democrats.)
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Thanks ‘Eve’


34 posted on 06/22/2025 4:02:40 AM PDT by Big Red Badger (ALL Things Will be Revealed !)
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