Men use porn to substitute for the love they need. Almost all men, who use porn, do so because they aren’t feeling loved by women.
Women have made it clear in the dating world that only the top 20% of men can expect love. The rest are told they have to do without. They do without, until they are in their thirties when women are willing to return, because they’ve come back down to earth. However, most men feel gypped in life on that point when they are finally able to interact with women again.
That is why men are staying away. They perceive an unfair deal by the time they are in their thirties.
‘Body Count’ and ‘Me Too’ probably have a lot to do with men being cautious.
Or going elsewhere.
There it is.
The primary driver behind porn use is a dopamine-endorphin surge that reinforces the behavior through intense reward and craving.
Love and bonding involve oxytocin and vasopressin, but those chemicals play only a minor role in porn consumption.
Porn isn’t about feeling unloved—it’s about chasing a dopamine-endorphin-specific neurochemical high.
When we're in our 60's it's even worse for women. We flat-out don't need them anymore. For anything.
As we get older, we men value our PEACE more than anything else. Anything, and I mean ANYTHING that disrupts our peace gets jettisoned and the first thing to go is almost always relationships with women.
I'm coming up on 63. I divorced at 55 (a divorce I didn't want, but that's another matter). I dated around casually afterwards and honestly learned that the drama of today's women is just too much. I prefer peace in my heart and soul and my desire to live the remainder of my life according to Gods will for me over everything else at this point.
Why would I want to mess that up??