Posted on 02/04/2024 1:54:47 PM PST by CMS
I recently lost my wife of 16 years to cardiac failure. Her loss has been devastating. We had a fight before we went to bed and our last words were not pleasant. When the alarm went off and I rolled over and saw her laying there eyes open and motionless, I knew I lost her. I'd give ANYTHING to tell her that I 'm sorry for the fight and to tell her that I love her one more time.
I called 911 and everyone showed up, and I was treated like a criminal that potentially murdered her for 3 hours until the coroner arrived and said it was cardiac failure. After that was said everyone's demeanor towards me changed and they became more sympathetic.
She always loved the beach and we went every chance we got. One of her happiest memories was when we were on a beach at Montego Bay Jamacia
I went with a beach theme for her urn, so now I feel she's forever at the beach
How nice. An urn that celebrates the joy of you both
She hears you.
I’m sorry for your loss. Looking down from heaven, I’m sure your wife understands you’re sorry about the fight. God bless you and lift you up in your time of grief.
You did the best you could. Nobody can ask more from you than that.
Your relatives did you wrong and owe you an apology, if they have not given you one.
So very sorry
It’s beautiful...
I’m sorry for your loss, prayers up.
I lost my Mother suddenly 2 years ago. I have been taking care of my dad since then so I understand.
Mrs L and I have an agreement. No matter what kind of a day we’ve had, no matter how much one has pissed off the other, the last words we say to each other at the end of the day are “I love you.”
Nothing is guaranteed.
L
Please accept my condolences and prayers for your consolation and peace.
Wow. My dad went through a similar event. He got up one Saturday and went about his morning routine. He went to wake up my mom about 8 AM and she was cold. He called 911 and when the cops showed up they were really ugly to him accusing him of all kinds of things until the paramedics showed up. The paramedics convinced the cops that she had overdosed on sleeping pills. Very bad day.
All the police, EMTs, etc were the ones treating me like a criminal
My relatives were very supportive. My aunt who lost her husband to cancer flew out here to spend a few days with me for support and my mother came too.
My wife and I are old now, and one day one of us will wake up and the other will not. We have tried to never go to bed angry, or with the last words being unpleasant, because ... you never know.
Your story touched me deeply, and strengthened my resolve to have our last words of the day be loving.
I pray that your sorrow eases and that you are able to find peace of mind and comfort in the way that you honored your wife's memory.
Easy to say and hard to do. Loose the guilt and remember the good times. Time heals but it takes a hell of a long time.
I’m so very sorry for your loss and believe you have shown her great love and honor. Forgive yourself, Love yourself. That is the best thing you can continue to do for her memory.
So sorry for your loss.
Yes, yes, and yes. (See my comment #14).
Deeply, DEEPLY disturbing.
Condolences to you for your loss.
Each time my lovely wife and I have “words” I then pray it will not be our last. Something to think about...
Very sorry for your loss.
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