Posted on 10/20/2023 12:31:50 AM PDT by Varsity Flight
https://www.rd.com/list/dating-deal-breakers-for-men/
Good up to date list of what Men really want with women
1O5. Bronzers tanning boothers.
106. Too much perfume
107. Heavy hair spray
Then men need to stop sending the message that looks trump all.
I've seen enough crazy/hot matrix comments and of course, as I mentioned before, the *guilty/not guilty* judgments based SOLELY on looks.
but you think that means you can just treat people like crap because “I’m Hot” deal with it... then you are a very very lousy human being.
I do? Where did I say that? Or what did I post that even implied that?
Why would you presume I think that way?
Well I have never gone the way of personal ads nor would I venture on that road. My work has always brought me into meeting people and that’s where I meet those I have dated.
I never said you did, but did you read my original post. Looks so not Trump everything else…
If a woman thinks all she needs to do is look good and that makes her a catch she’s fooling herself
Congratulations,& May you be well!
Then men need to stop sending the message that looks trump all.
“Then men need to stop sending the message that looks trump all.”
The idea of the article basically, listing what men prioritize. Trust being listed first.
Men can/need more. That’s the idea of knowing the true woman, and not the “put on”
The article...m
That’s the Zombies.
More of them, as the feminist and govt. deficits have taken them out of the home, and having them work full time
Both have standards for each other. I can point you to multiple studies which show that men tend to be realistic about their own attractiveness and rate women on a 1-10 scale with a standard bell curve. Women however tend to considerable over rate their own attractiveness and view 80% of men as being “below average”.
https://medium.com/hello-love/women-say-80-of-men-are-below-average-bab0b8af2606
If either sex can fairly be accused of thinking they deserve a 10 even when they’re nowhere close themselves, its women.
That description fits some though obviously not most.
I think 3rd wave feminism really gave women a very skewed perspective which has caused a lot of problems. Women rate 80% of men “below average”....ie they’re not interested. This means most women are only interested in a small percentage of men. This enables these men to be players and a lot of them take full advantage of that. They can’t marry all these women so the majority will get played and dumped.
If women aren’t themselves in the top 10-20% and can’t get one of these guys, and if they don’t figure this out when they still have at least some of their youth to offer, their chances of ever finding a good man, getting married and having a family fall off a cliff. Most guys in their 30s - especially if they’ve got their heads on straight and have built a solid career - aren’t looking for women in their 30s who the guys know don’t really want to be with them particularly - they’re just desperate to be with somebody before their chance of ever having a family is gone forever.
Things were a lot better up til the 70s when couples got married earlier and they each had a much more realistic view of themselves and the kind of partner they could get. Not only men but women too reported being much happier then than they do now.
Everybody has to find their partner attractive. So that's necessary but not sufficient unless the guy is really shallow and foolish. You have to live with that person and they will be your partner after all. You'd better have compatible values and be able to get along well.
Case in point is the *guilty/not guilty* verdicts lobbed about on FR whenever a woman is accused of a crime. It's all based on looks. Character has nothing to do with it, nor does the rightness or wrongness of the actions.
Its an obvious joke. Lighten up.
If men want women to know they value more about them than looks, then men need to act like looks are not all they value in women.
The vast majority do. This would be like accusing women of only caring about a man's height and the thickness of his wallet. Obviously most women care about that. That's fine. I understand the biological/evolutionary reasons behind it so I don't negatively judge women for it - but by the same token if that's ALL she values, that's obviously very shallow and foolish on her part and not likely to lead to a good outcome.
This is a huge problem a lot of young women have particularly if they are attractive.....taking all the benefits they get from it for granted. They think they're just that great or that it will last forever and they're entitled to it. It comes as a rude shock when they hit the wall and start getting treated like everybody else. I've seen plenty of them get very bitter about it.
And no, this isn't just to bash women. Its the exact same phenomenon with somebody who is born to a rich influential family and thinks they then got where they got because they earned it when in reality, it was all just given to them because of an accident of birth.....ie "he was born on 3rd base and thinks he hit a triple". Its the same thing with pretty women. The smart ones realize their good fortune and get the most value for it they can because good looks doesn't last.
Hard-loving
I don’t know what that means. I suspect it’s not what comes to mind.
Agreed.
Not based on my experience and the conversations and comments I’ve heard from men.
It’s not very funny when they are doing it on a thread where some female teacher has taken sexual advantage of a teenage boy. And holding the another reason to homeschool list, it happens virtually all the time. I see it constantly.
“Do you give them “The Test”?”
Of course. Doesn’t everyone? Can’t be too careful these days.
Men having to pay for the women on dates is one of the things that’s you will never hear feminists howl about!
If you were talking about a 13 year old boy, OK. If you're talking about a 16 or 17 year old boy the truth is most guys would love to be "taken sexual advantage of" by a teacher so long as she was remotely good looking. Yes, it should still be treated as a crime, but a 16 year old boy who sleeps with an attractive teacher will view himself and will be viewed by other students as a lucky guy, not a "victim". Boys and girls are not the same. We ought to recognize that. We used to.
Well then your experience is outside the norm. The numbers back up what said and I provided a link to show it.
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