Posted on 01/04/2023 9:56:49 AM PST by Lazamataz
Recently, I lost a friend of over 40 years. It was his choice to terminate our friendship.
We had known eachother since college. We reconnected on Facebook for many years, about 12, and rather suddenly tore into me for a variety of criticisms.
A little background on him: He recently lost his wife of 30+ years then promptly got covid. I offered my condolences and told him he could reach out for anything at all. Then, upon hearing nothing back, I left him be.
I noticed him corresponding more and more with a younger Facebook girl. No worries, not my business.
I wrote a simple little post about Jesus not returning anytime soon and this girl (I'll call her Amy) got into a big tirade with me and other people, expressing she hated religion, didn't believe in Christ, and called people who did a 'disease' and a 'pestilence'. I didn't much like that, unfriended her, and eventually blocked her. In the meantime, my old college friend expressed some of the same sentiments, even tually posting outright blasphemes. Told him I was none too fond of all that.
Well, he responds with all sorts of attacks.
I'm "too long-winded' and he never reads my political essays." Ok, fine.
I'm "occasionally funny but I try too hard." Actually, it's quite the opposite. I post what makes ME laugh. If you laugh, fine, if you don't, that wasn't my intent anyways.
I "think I'm so damned smart." I'm aware I'm slightly above average but there are plenty of people smarter than me.
I "slept with his college girlfriend Joyce." Um, no. Joyce was exceptionaly beautiful and I have always been average looking. Even if I had been inclined to try, she never would have even considered me.
All this was out of left field. No idea what provoked his attacks and his decision to terminate our friendship. I did find out that this Amy chick apparently was his go-to person in dealing with the grief of losing his wife. She apparently considers herself a Wiccan witch. Not healthy, but not my business.
So I am left with a friendship of over 40 years, destroyed. I have experienced some stages of grief over it. But I will (and I have to) accept it.
I was going to say something very similar: her wiccan witch pussy ain't gonna be worth it in the long run.
I didn't want to say pussy on the thread though. ;-)
Yeah, those kinds of things hurt.
My DL now hates me and therefore I haven’t been able to see my 3 Grands for over 17 months after 11 years of very close relations/loving interactions with them. BUT...I had 11 beautiful years with them that no power on Earth can take away from me, and they will all turn 18 eventually, Deus vult.
Things change, life is nothing but change.
You had a friend for 40 years...what are you complaining about?
(In the middle of the night, in the dark, alone, I do grieve for my Grands. Hurts like hell. I’m with ya pal.)
Seems like your friend’s new girl is calling the shots. He’s all in, and doing what he’s told - even abandoning a friend that the girl doesn’t like, because in his grief he doesn’t know what to do otherwise.
He’s handling his grief by abandoning ALL stability; thrill-seeking maybe. Eventually, he’ll have moments of clarity and see that he’s not himself. He’s destined to lose himself if he doesn’t wise up. You might choose to help him if he reaches out, but it’s a gamble.
It’s on the internet ... it must be true!
You’re good.
Leftists are weird. Wife’s uncle abandoned a bunch of us over nothing, and believe me, he needs us a lot more than we need him. But we’d take him back. We’re better people. It’s up to him.
We should find an excuse to get together this year, since our road trip we didn’t make last year to pee on the Guidestones has become moot. I should be freed up quite a bit come Spring.
I love FReepers for their practical advice!
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Cheer Up Folks,
We are overdue for a ZAP !
Looks may attract women, but they don’t keep good women. There are lots of coldly handsome men, men who look great but are crude or stupid, etc.
There are many things more important to women than a man’s looks - though young, immature women may not have grown into that yet.
Want to lose friends?
Just start doing better than them in life, especially when they consider themselves better than you.
How does someone who thinks they’re ‘better than you’ become a friend in the first place?
I don't have a scope on my M1A. The recoil does not seem terrible. I got dinged a second time in the same spot sighting in a 444 Marlin model 1895 with heavy loads. I did not learn the first time. I think I was wearing the wrong colored socks. I think I am going to give it another try with even heavier loads, but different socks.
“A liberal friend, never married, never had kids, barely worked, etc. - has the same level of maturity from 30 years ago and still believes he knows better on everything and became rude about it too.”
Funny how that exactly describes my former friend.
The absurd teenage like behavior that he knew more was enough to bury it all for me.
Nobody likes being around folks like that.
Sadly so many people were wearing masks long before Covid. Betrayal is a hard pill to swallow. Jesus promised to “never leave or forsake us…” Hang on to Him. Sounds to me like he lost the most. Stay strong! Your Freeper friends are routing for you🙏
Picture of Joyce...??
Sounds more like he was your friend while he was benefitting from the relationship. Any "lifetime" friend who is going to part ways over the things you cited was never a true friend. My guess is that he has found someone who strokes his narcissistic personality better than you. Take the "L" and move on - life's too short to do otherwise. Good luck...
Been through that, but not with a 40 year friend.
You make me laugh, and have for many years. If we were to meet, I’d call you friend. Oh, and even though I was, at best, a 3 in appearance, I was hit on by multiple 10s, high school, college, sitting in a doctor’s office, etc. Never understood the importance some place on ‘good looks’. I do have some regrets on passing on some of the 10s. I passed on all of them, but usually that was a good thing.
“IF ANY OF YOU CONSIDER ME A FRIEND, SOUND OFF.”
First, we need a sanity check. Post pics of 3 females of varying “loveliness”, and tell us who you’d HIT!
I don’t know how old or healthy your friend is, but the elderly can sometimes get cranky and don’t want to see anybody - even friends of 40+ years. You are in my prayers pal.
I can’t post a pic of Joyce, all I have is those nudes when we were rutting like reindeer in heat.
HS friends, long gone now.
No worries Laz (unless I meet a Wicca witch).
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