Posted on 01/04/2023 9:56:49 AM PST by Lazamataz
Recently, I lost a friend of over 40 years. It was his choice to terminate our friendship.
We had known eachother since college. We reconnected on Facebook for many years, about 12, and rather suddenly tore into me for a variety of criticisms.
A little background on him: He recently lost his wife of 30+ years then promptly got covid. I offered my condolences and told him he could reach out for anything at all. Then, upon hearing nothing back, I left him be.
I noticed him corresponding more and more with a younger Facebook girl. No worries, not my business.
I wrote a simple little post about Jesus not returning anytime soon and this girl (I'll call her Amy) got into a big tirade with me and other people, expressing she hated religion, didn't believe in Christ, and called people who did a 'disease' and a 'pestilence'. I didn't much like that, unfriended her, and eventually blocked her. In the meantime, my old college friend expressed some of the same sentiments, even tually posting outright blasphemes. Told him I was none too fond of all that.
Well, he responds with all sorts of attacks.
I'm "too long-winded' and he never reads my political essays." Ok, fine.
I'm "occasionally funny but I try too hard." Actually, it's quite the opposite. I post what makes ME laugh. If you laugh, fine, if you don't, that wasn't my intent anyways.
I "think I'm so damned smart." I'm aware I'm slightly above average but there are plenty of people smarter than me.
I "slept with his college girlfriend Joyce." Um, no. Joyce was exceptionaly beautiful and I have always been average looking. Even if I had been inclined to try, she never would have even considered me.
All this was out of left field. No idea what provoked his attacks and his decision to terminate our friendship. I did find out that this Amy chick apparently was his go-to person in dealing with the grief of losing his wife. She apparently considers herself a Wiccan witch. Not healthy, but not my business.
So I am left with a friendship of over 40 years, destroyed. I have experienced some stages of grief over it. But I will (and I have to) accept it.
None of the rest of you better bail on me.
Maybe the person you thought was your ‘friend’ just isn’t there anymore - or never really was.
People can change drastically throughout life.
You should have banged Joyce if you were going to get blamed for it anyway.
You are not alone in situations like this.
These last few years have seen many of us losing those we thought of as friends or fellow travelers.
My sincere condolences.
CJB
Laz, you have a lot of friends here.
Nah. First and most importantly, I *never* mess with a friend's lady. Secondly, Joyce would NEVER have had me. She was a 10; I was, at best, a 6.
Almost all of the friends I had in High School and College went hard left while I stayed middle to middle right...needless to say they don’t like talking to me and I’m ok with that, Jesus, my wife, cat and dog love me and that’s enough
Some friendships last, some don’t.
Just one of the many things I no longer worry about as I get older.
You are right. IF ANY OF YOU CONSIDER ME A FRIEND, SOUND OFF.
F### em. Sounds like he was never your friend anyway.
Sad thing is, this one lasted 40+ years.
I don’t know you well enough to consider you a ‘friend’. But you’re always very amusing...
I don’t know you personally, but I always enjoy your posts.
He was. He just about-faced. More's the pity.
get a dog.
Yeah I get it. It sucks.
My wife was great the first eight years we were married.
The last eight were pure hell. People change.
You still got us so that should more than make up for it. 😂👍
Thanks. Sorry about your losses, too.
Friends are overrated. But what do I know? I’m a misanthrope.
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