Posted on 08/15/2021 5:26:23 PM PDT by george76
If honor and loyalty is hateful to you, perhaps you should pray.
Praying to Beelzebub are ya?
“ How crappy of her.
What a betrayal of his real parents who raised him.”
A more thoughtful response could be; what an amazing gift of life the birth mother chose.
She chose life and not abortion .
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Just thinking about the parents who raised this person as if he was their own and how he was so selfish and uncaring he betrayed them in favor some genetic material donor.
He’s truly evil. Just used them.
So I guess you are a cowbird, too. Or you wouldn’t take the side of the brood parasitism.
This is not a betrayal of his real parents because he was contacted by and met his bio-mom.
There might be a bond formed eventually but it is not a parent child bond.
Sadly her initial wisdom was not carried forward.
I’m sure the adoptive parents are putting on a brave front, as they had to be truly giving and decent people to take in the child, but you know this betrayal cuts them to the quick.
How cruel and thoughtless of the adoptive child and birth mother.
How is it a betrayal of anyone, if adoptees meet their birth parents? Why is it cruel? Please explain who is being cruel to whom, in your opinion.
Cool story.. till I read the trolls in the comment section.
Many adoptive parents understand the benefit and the healing that their adoptive kids get from meeting the biological parents.
I know such a family and it benefited all parties to meet .
Maybe the adoptive parents are happy for him and do not feel insecure or resentful.
Maybe he is a good son who sought their input and went ahead with their blessing.
Maybe he has reassured them and there is adequate mutual trust.
Not everyone goes at their parenting as if it has a price tag and keep a score because the kids owe them. They try to raise them with family values, but understand that life gives no guarantees, blood or not.
My guess is that he has not disappointed them. He waited a long time even to start a search.
As an adoptee I can tell you that the need to know the truth is very real, no matter how grateful we may be for our adopted families. We are not trash, and the judgmental comments here from those who have never walked in our shoes are appalling.
Incidentally, not all adoptive families are saints.
Life must be very hard for somebody who hates other people so much.
You have my pity.
There are some adoption situations in my family as well. There are a multitude of situations where adoption is the best option, and a multitude of situations when adopting is the best option. It’s an intensely personal situation either way and one which takes an incredible amount of courage.
I hope someday to be able to hold a young woman in my embrace because I have missed her. She wasn’t mine, but I planned on bringing her into my home when she was born in order to keep her with our family. But her birth mother chànged her mind out of fear of wanting to up root the child...at some point in the future.
So, I didn’t have any say in the matter and nèither did any of the rest of the family. But if she were to seek us out for any reason, she would be welcomed with tears of joy and open arms. And so would her parents. We know it from all sides.
Sometimes the birth mother is only acting in her own interests and the adoptees find out that painful truth.
A family I know was dissolved by the mother so that she could start a new life with another man. Some of her children were teenagers and they went off on their own. Others were given away or abandoned.
Many years later when both parents are long dead, her children ask extended family for answers, but we have none.
Would you be OK with this story had it been the son searching for and finding his mother? Or would you consider that a betrayal of his adoptive parents?
I agree with him. She seeks self satisfaction without gregarious to the people who did the real work. Just because half of the experience ran down her leg doesn’t make her entitled to waltz in. Wipe you leg and STFU.
Well if the accounts are true then the son was looking independently at the same time as his mother...so to whom would you assign the most guilt or are both equally guilty of being selfish? Why just blame the mother? The son was looking as well!
Well if the accounts are true then the son was looking independently at the same time as his mother...so to whom would you assign the most guilt or are both equally guilty of being selfish? Why just blame the mother? The son was looking as well.
Surprised they got back usable results:
https://www.reddit.com/r/conspiracy/comments/o9k9k9/man_sends_lizard_saliva_to_23andme_for_dna/
I would see your point only if the lad’s parents sensed that there was disloyalty and ingratitude in their adoptee’s motivations. If they are supportive regarding what the son did then even God most high won’t charge the lad with the dishonoring of his adopted parents. Let the balm of Gilead be the rule of the day!
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