As an adoptee I can tell you that the need to know the truth is very real, no matter how grateful we may be for our adopted families. We are not trash, and the judgmental comments here from those who have never walked in our shoes are appalling.
Incidentally, not all adoptive families are saints.
There are some adoption situations in my family as well. There are a multitude of situations where adoption is the best option, and a multitude of situations when adopting is the best option. It’s an intensely personal situation either way and one which takes an incredible amount of courage.
I hope someday to be able to hold a young woman in my embrace because I have missed her. She wasn’t mine, but I planned on bringing her into my home when she was born in order to keep her with our family. But her birth mother chànged her mind out of fear of wanting to up root the child...at some point in the future.
So, I didn’t have any say in the matter and nèither did any of the rest of the family. But if she were to seek us out for any reason, she would be welcomed with tears of joy and open arms. And so would her parents. We know it from all sides.