Sadly her initial wisdom was not carried forward.
I’m sure the adoptive parents are putting on a brave front, as they had to be truly giving and decent people to take in the child, but you know this betrayal cuts them to the quick.
How cruel and thoughtless of the adoptive child and birth mother.
How is it a betrayal of anyone, if adoptees meet their birth parents? Why is it cruel? Please explain who is being cruel to whom, in your opinion.
Maybe the adoptive parents are happy for him and do not feel insecure or resentful.
Maybe he is a good son who sought their input and went ahead with their blessing.
Maybe he has reassured them and there is adequate mutual trust.
Not everyone goes at their parenting as if it has a price tag and keep a score because the kids owe them. They try to raise them with family values, but understand that life gives no guarantees, blood or not.
My guess is that he has not disappointed them. He waited a long time even to start a search.
Sometimes the birth mother is only acting in her own interests and the adoptees find out that painful truth.
A family I know was dissolved by the mother so that she could start a new life with another man. Some of her children were teenagers and they went off on their own. Others were given away or abandoned.
Many years later when both parents are long dead, her children ask extended family for answers, but we have none.