Posted on 04/26/2017 6:18:53 AM PDT by BJ1
Fast forward to my 38th birthday. I was still single, and the world of dating had changed significantly in the last eight years. Tinder and Bumble, the dominant dating apps, offered countless options for single men and women, but made the experience of dating entirely impersonal.
Dating amounted to small talk with a stranger, who you had briefly interfaced with online because you each thought the other attractive. The small talk was a prelude to hooking up, and there were no expectations even of a text the next day.
It was brutal. And after trying my hand at it, I was no closer to finding the love of my life or starting a family. If I needed statistics to back me up, I had them. In 2014, marriage was on the decline, as was the fertility rate in the United States.
I had one real option left -- and that was to attempt to get pregnant alone.
(Excerpt) Read more at cnn.com ...
Babies in your 40’s are a gift, a reaffirmation of life. They cushion the blow when the older sibs go off to college and the world.
Babies in your 40’s have the benefit of a more experienced Mom & Dad with more exposure to museums, travel, culture, books because they come along on a wide variety of excursions(and nightly story time) earlier in life. Family traditions are more developed and these kids have sibs that are old enough to interact with them as role models.
ROFL!!!
See #141.
Really.
Go read it.
ROFL!!!
That sounds wonderful both for your Grandkids & for you.
Dating apps designed for a one-night stand disgust me. I’m a man. I like women - a lot. But if I were dating again, I would not go to those sites even once. “Hook up” and then never hear from that person again - what’s the point, other than it feels good?
As for this woman’s choices, I’m not impressed. I would not have chosen to raise a child by myself. Parenting is too important to attempt that two-person job solo if there is an alternative.
I have a friend who has trouble with dating so she went the “married guy” route.
Sometimes my wife abuses me as well when we have sex.
I look forward to those nights the most.
That’s awesome! I figure, if it wasn’t okay for women to have babies at age 38 or thereabouts, then fertility would shut down before that age. But women are able to have babies even into their 40s if it isn’t their first kid.
People criticize that woman who had 18 kids or whatever. But if you love your husband and continue to be intimate with him and God sends you kids, well, then, it’s meant to be!
Actually. I thought 141 was the poster trying to be nice, making the point that she was stepping away from the aggressive nature of your prior posts.
And for an "objective looks" at the chances for Downs according to maternal age, even the chart I posted is like something out of "How To Lie With Statistics," since it visually makes that very low 4% risk look "high." Instead of displaying it like this
It would have been more visually accurate to display it like this:
'Twas always thus...men need to be responsible for their choices and actions. Women? Not so much.
She's a selfish person. That doesn't wear well in relationship.
Oh my! You are correct. Worst part of the story. She felt she just HAD to use her own genetics. Sheesh. I’ve had children of my own genetics and not, and there is zero difference in the connection. I guess you wouldn’t know that if you didn’t have any kids. Zero difference in the love on either side. Genetics is just a parlor conversation. “He got that musical talent from Me.” Who cares where they got their nose or their talent. They are still your children.
Baloney.
Of course, she could simply switch to Match or OKCupid and choose from a plethora of decent men who don't look like George Looney or Matt Dummyon, but that would violate her hypergamy instinct.
: )
I agree. That's why, after over 30 years, we still have sex at least 4 times a week. It takes being willing to spend time. If the guy takes the time to give her her orgasm first, then things tend to go better.
I think it’s reasonable, based on the article, that she chose to date men based on their looks/sexual attraction. Had this woman the chance to do it over again, I would imagine she would look for a different type of man. That is the advice I would have liked to see.
The Orthodox Jews do it right. When the kid is of marriageable age, their parents really take a good look at the kid and know everything promising (and quirks and faults) and look for suitable dating matches. No arranged marriages, just arranged dates in public with a boy or girl that would be a good match in many ways. Too much emphasis is on socioeconomic and “more religious than thou” like every other culture, but most of it is putting BRAIN into making a good match rather than just your genitals. The kids don’t have to like each other, the parents, matchmaker is told, and no hard feelings, and they go on other dates. It’s much smarter.
What vibrator are those for? Anal Intruder 1800????
I'm old enough to have known a lot of guys who tended to talk about their relationships.
I may vomit. I guess TMI means nothing to you.
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