I think it’s reasonable, based on the article, that she chose to date men based on their looks/sexual attraction. Had this woman the chance to do it over again, I would imagine she would look for a different type of man. That is the advice I would have liked to see.
The Orthodox Jews do it right. When the kid is of marriageable age, their parents really take a good look at the kid and know everything promising (and quirks and faults) and look for suitable dating matches. No arranged marriages, just arranged dates in public with a boy or girl that would be a good match in many ways. Too much emphasis is on socioeconomic and “more religious than thou” like every other culture, but most of it is putting BRAIN into making a good match rather than just your genitals. The kids don’t have to like each other, the parents, matchmaker is told, and no hard feelings, and they go on other dates. It’s much smarter.
Often you can give good advice but with testosterone/mating instinct raging it falls on deaf ears.