this woman is a busy lady:
http://sarahlenti.com/
a relationship/marriage takes time and effort..
tinder didnt work out for her, so dating doesnt work.
really?
"My life was great on paper. I had done all the right things. I went to Stanford for graduate school. I worked at the White House under Condoleezza Rice. I had the opportunity to travel the world. I had loving parents and two wonderful sisters. And yet I felt unloved -- even unlovable. And also greatly conflicted."
this is the Great Lie right here. you cannot have it all.
"Actually, it was waking up single, every single day of my life -- only to be greeted by my career -- that felt selfish"
and stanford grad school didnt give her enough brains to see the problem here? she doesnt sound stupid, so my opinion is she is suffering from unrealistic expectations from life in general.
"Then my personal trainer and his wife, the first people to visit me in the hospital" sounds like her whole family isnt big on family.
"Why have I lost that hope? Truth be told, I have been vulnerable with a few men pre- and post-pregnancy. But rejection upon rejection by man after man will do it to you."
whats the common denominator? she is. lots of people have problems interacting with the opposite sex. she feels entitled enough to think its not her problem.
everyone has a image in their mind of what they want the world to be. some people adjust the image to the real thing (that would be well adjusted people) and some people try to pretend the real world is the same as their image. (this woman).
I would say going to Stanford and working under Rice might have left her with inaccurate perceptions of the way life works. Seriously that would be two real strikes against her to start with. Both of those situations cater to people who think they are the upper echelon. Using those things to define herself suggests “its all about me.”
Is the man supposed to have brighter plumage than that to be worthy, if so will he be just as self centered? The qualities that make a good husband are not defined in terms of which school, which clerkship etc. I think this woman was looking at the symptoms not the problem.
A child is not a prescription for a cure for loneliness and lack of fulfillment. Once that child is born its all about the child not about the parent. Maybe that will be a good transition for this woman and she will find a man with a child/children to make a family and with her new perceptions she will recognize his worth.