Posted on 04/23/2008 9:56:59 AM PDT by Lazamataz
I am! I'm losing weight, dressing better, gelling my hair, and eating right!
Oh, you said LOCKS!
Cuz I'm dead-sexy, baby.
I was SURE you were writing satire, ie: quoting someone who has a total self-focus and then wonders why he always winds up so unhappy.
you are in SO much trouble!
but I do agree that single mothers require a HIGHLY cautious approach for the reasons that you mentioned.
I figured I would, but my purpose of my post was to help a freeper see a mistake and not make it again, not start a flame war so I'm not going to respond to any flames. However, if you look at those responses and what's in them and more importantly what's not in them they are actually making my case.
Another piece of advice that will likely get me flamed, is
Rule #3 - A Church is the worst place to meet a woman.
Again, not my intent to start a flame war just I've moved around a lot, and in my experience in every town/neighborhood I lived in there's been 1 constant and that is there is always a church where single people congregate and the doings & shenanigans that take place at that church would make any veteran Hollywood soap opera writer blush. So I would be very cautious with any woman I met in a church.
And when that child resents you for coming inbetween you and her mother; when that child openly rebels against you because her mother is now sharing her love....Im sure there are other good reasons why you should not date a single mother,
True, and you always have to worry about false abuse allegations and in Washington and maybe other states if the child comes to see you as a father figure you could end up still be financially responsible for the kid(s) if you break it off with the mother.
but what about single dads. Should a woman date a single dad???
I'm not a women or a single dad so I don't know, I would think it's different though, yeah, yeah double standard and all but that's life.
Ephesians 6:10-1610 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.
11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;
15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
I see your problem now. You’re all about looks. You will never be happy or satisfied. Woman do get old...plan on trading her in every 10 years? Got money?
I was kidding, but here: Yes, I do like a good looking woman.
The neat trick is, I can turn 'attractive' into 'Supermodel' in my head.
To me, Karen was a supermodel.
My friends now feel free to tell me that, while she was attractive, she wasn't NEARLY what I made her out to be.
I want someone pretty, of course. But the key is, pretty to me.
Starting this very evening, I begin taking care of ME.
I got flamed before b/c I think the same but from the other end of things. If I were to become a single mother I would never, ever date until my kids were grown. For the emotional reasons (it is too difficult on the kids no matter how great the guy is) and for the predator reasons. Ever notice how many little kids are beaten or killed by “mom’s boyfriend”?
Not worth the risk.
Bump to Talon DJ’s post!
Everything I would have said, but better.
*HUG* Laz.
My DH has a crazy ex, you dodged a big one.
This is why it's usually a very bad idea to rush into marriage. Especially if the other seems in a big hurry to do so, so you're married to them before you figure out who they really are!
If I was able to do it all over again?
No.
This....
This is what I believe.
Single mom or dad... whatever. You only get one shot. And if you blow it, or even if the other party is at fault, then for the sake of the children you remain single until they are grown and out of the house.
No dating, no marrying, no way.
Laz,
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish enough “Hello’s” to get you through the final “Good-bye.”
8^)
FF (Favorite FReeper) ping!
Please come on over and ping Lazamataz to help brighten his day!
8^)
Amazing that you should post this ...
... On my ex-wife’s birthday.
(tapping foot)
I'm still waiting for the wishes for hot, really obscene, sweaty sex!!!
In fact, she only was married once, back when she was like 19.
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