As always, we like to remind people of last week's thread and offer folks the chance to bring forward any part of the discussion that they feel is appropriate. The topic was death and whether being single changes one's views of death and dying. The thread is at: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/1879545/posts .
Bonus answers:
1. What kind of car do you drive? GMC Jimmy
What kind of car would you like to drive? Jeep Grand Cherokee
2. What kind of car would your ideal partner drive?Something that runs
3. Your ideal partner just won $5000. How does she/he spend it? However she dang-well wants to! It's her money.
I have. When I was still living in Reno, I met a girl online and I went over to her house--or actually her parents house, since she still lived at home. Two things really turned me off about her:
1) Her gingivitis. As she leaned over to attempt to make out with me, I could visibly see how bad her gums and teeth had decayed. Now, I'm reasonably certain that it wasn't due to drug use--considering that she was moderately overweight and all--but it perhaps contributed to her very bad halitosis.
2) Despite the fact that she and I had been on two dates (read: two nights vegetating at her house), she felt compelled to say that she was madly in love with me.
Well, I wasn't. Nice enough of a girl, but she just wasn't what I had in mind. Bear in mind here, I'm not trying to come off as superficial with the whole gingivitis and bad breath hang up. She had other problems, including the fact that she would keep calling me every day for a good 5 to 6 months before she finally figured out I wasn't interested.
Anyway, that's just one of my many experiences. :)
Ford Taurus SES. Chrysler 300
2. What kind of car would your ideal partner drive?
Hmm... Probably a pickup.... but I could care less as long as he's happy with it and the city doesn't drag it to the dump by mistake. :)
3. Your ideal partner just won $5000. How does she/he spend it?
Any way he wants! :)
I met my husband on Match.com. Reluctantly joined after friends told me, no, begged me, to start dating again...I went on a 2 year dating hiatus - the best 2 years of my life before I met my husband, that is. Cleared my head, let me focus on my career, and more important, let me finally figure out what I needed/wanted in a mate.
Online dating services aren’t all bad. They aren’t all good, either. But it’s a good way to supplement “brick and mortar” dating...meaning, meeting people in “real life” through friends, etc.
I was a charter member of conservativematch 3 years ago. I made quite a few good friends from that site, and we still keep in touch. Over a year ago, a few trolls invaded the site and my friends and I left. It’s really lame over there now. The same people own CatholicMatch. If you’re Catholic, it seems like a good place to meet other Catholics. My friends that left Conservativematch have since started our own website for conservative singles. We only have about 50 members so far, so the discussions are pretty casual.(but hey, it’s free!) If you’d like to know more, send me a private message.
For instance, I admire a woman who would put the money towards paying debts, but if the debts are something other than student loans, a house, or maybe a car, she's not my ideal. I understand that many good people get into bad situations and must use credit to survive, but most people in a credit crunch are trying to recover from bad decisions. I'd be afraid of becoming involved with a woman who was in that situation. Even scarier than the woman who needs $5000 to pay credit card debt is the woman who has some debt but would use the money as a down payment on something else that she'd buy on credit.
My ideal would use some of the money to buy something nice for herself but would also put some of the money to good uses. If she tried to save or invest all of it, she's probably as tight as I am, and two people who are that tight might have a tough time. I'd like to see her give some of it to charity or some other good cause. Obviously, I'd like to see her invest some of it in her future. While I make a good salary, I'm not at the point where $5000 is just something that I could spend without thought, and I wouldn't be comfortable with a woman who could do that.
In terms of "something nice for herself," my ideal might get something like a good fleece jacket for taking walks on brisk fall days. A new pair of walking shoes would be another item along the same lines. A woman who would spend part of her shopping spree at a book store would be a woman with things in common with me. Giving herself a weekend road trip would be another way that my ideal woman might want to spend some of that money.
Bill
Yup. I tried Match.com for a bit. I also signed up for a match online site that was based out of England but stated right up front that I lived in Phoenix, Arizona and was only looking for a chat buddy (it was one of the choices).
Did you like them? Would you recommend them?
Yes, I liked them. I found it a good way to 'meet' single men. If I felt there was a desire to take it offline, I had no hesitation in doing so in a public place for lunch in broad daylight in my own car. And I have done so. Yes I would recommend them, but with that caveat ... ensure your own safety!
In general, how do you feel about online dating?
see above ...
Do you see online dating as being any different from the old personals magazines that we used to see in supermarkets?
No idea. Never used 'em. I don't even remember there being singles magazines.
Would you consider having a long-term relationship with someone whom you met this way?
Would. Did. Got engaged to the fella that I met thru the England online dating service. He came here for 3 weeks, and asked me to marry him during that time. We'd been chatting online and on the phone for 6-7 months before he came out. Then I went out to live with him in England for 3 months. It was during that last week of the 3 months that it all went south. Oh well. Could happen in any relationship, no matter how you met. He didn't turn out to be a serial killer or anything, just NOT my type and me not his, which we found out when living together so closely. Shame, but that's the way the cookie crumbles.
I drive a 2000 Oldsmobile Silhouette (van). Perfectly happy with it.
2. What kind of car would your ideal partner drive?
Really makes no nevermind to me.
3. Your ideal partner just won $5000. How does she/he spend it?
Not my $5000. He could buy whatever makes him happy (though taking me out to a nice dinner once would be appreciated to celebrate!)
Another one I’ve seen a lot of guys and gals my age have used is MySpace. I use that to communicate with friends and old coworkers, but I’ve never considered it in finding women to date.
1. What kind of car do you drive? What kind of car would you like to drive?
An 89 4-Runner, but I'd like to drive a four-door one-ton diesel so I can pull anything I want to.
2. What kind of car would your ideal partner drive?
Who cares? As long as it's not some poofy Prius or a people pod. Actually he'd probably drive a truck too.
3. Your ideal partner just won $5000. How does she/he spend it?
More SCUBA toys, probably.
Quickly dropping in...
Another site now is Facebook. Heck, there’s over 110 dating applications (and no, I’m not using any of them...)
One had a good experience and has been with his lady for nearly 20 years and married her about 5 years ago.
The other person met a few people and thought he had met the one but unfortunately she turned out to be a bit crazy and the family had so much baggage that eventually he had to exit from the situation which took him well over a year to start to recover from.
My take on this is regardless of where you initially meet the person and how the end results can be positive and can be negative.
On one level I suppose that if through an agency whether on line or not as long as each party is relatively honest in their views and interests then maybe you stand a better chance of being compatible with a person rather than someone you met by chance.
On the other hand we rarely meet people by chance most people we have as friends or a relationship with are through common interests whether they be social or professional so compatibility when we start up a relationship is probably similar whether we are matched by an agency or just meet someone.
Testing...did my post get lost to the ether??
Do you have any experience with any of them?
Yup, tried Yahoo!, EHarmony, Craigslist, Plenty of Fish, and one more
Did you like them?
I don’t like the fact that for the first two, they charge a pretty penny (EHarmony was pretty pricey as I recall),and there is not much difference between them all, when it boils down to it.
Would you recommend them?
That's a bit too subjective, really. BUT, if one doesn't have any other outlet, what can one do? I guess in this case, one really has to make change happen.
In general, how do you feel about online dating?
It's not the worst thing to happen, but finding someone via family, friends, work or some other thing one is involved in I think more preferable.
Do you see online dating as being any different from the old personals magazines that we used to see in supermarkets?
I don't know...never read those....they actually used to have them?? *I'm being facetious here, at least about the last part*
Would you consider having a long-term relationship with someone whom you met this way?
Yes
1. What kind of car do you drive?
Nissan Armada *inherited it after step-father died...it was the last vehicle my folks bought, and I kinda steered them towards taking a look at it when the redesigned Dodge Durango didn't quite fit their desire to be able to haul family....we are not petit folk ; )
What kind of car would you like to drive?
My 1967 Chrysler 300 fast-top, after it gets some needed refurbishment! Soon!!!
2. What kind of car would your ideal partner drive?
Anything besides a German-make car, Hon-duh, or Lexus/Infiniti. *Opinionated?? Who? ME?? *
3. Your ideal partner just won $5000. How does she/he spend it?
Lemme get back to you when that happens, OK?
1. Car models: I've always considered the car's performance & maintenance requirements more imortant than style, and from maker to maker these can change over the years. Whatever model has a good record / history at the time I am ready to buy. Well, comfort in the driver's seat is important, too.
2. Ideal partner's car model: whatever she would be happy with.
3. How partner should spend winnings: however she dawgone pleases.