The Official Weekend Singles Thread—July 28-30

OhioWfan, Kate of Spice Island, Maximus Ridiculousness

[WFTR]

Thanks for the reply. You do have a flair for writing.

I hope that you didn't take anything I said as endorsement of promiscuity. Personally, I think it would be wonderful if people remained sexually pure until marriage at a reasonable age and then remained faithful within marriage until death. I think that's a good model for what the "average" life should be. When I say that I wish I had been more active in pursuing relationships, I don't mean that I wish I had a string of sexual conquests. Instead, I mean that I wish I had developed the skills and employed those skills to find a wife when I was in my mid to late 20's. Given that I wasn't able to attain this ideal, I am willing to be more relaxed about some issues, but I'm not just looking for easy sex somewhere.

I don't think that living a pure, Christian life is a waste of time. I am saying that within a Christian life, one must still work to achieve those things that are "God's will." Do you believe that your having more "electronics/computer/science knowledge" is God's will? Do you believe that you need to read and study those topics in order to achieve that part of God's will or do you believe that this knowledge will just come to you one day while you are praying? I think that one needs to pursue knowledge in order to have knowledge. On everything but relationships, the church seems to understand this point. On relationships, the church seems to think that we should just expect things to happen by themselves.

I'm sorry that you've run into so many women who have been cruel or selfish towards you. That situation would be frustrating, but it's not the situation that I was trying to describe. For the most part, I've not been disappointed with the character of the women I've known over the years. There have been women that I liked as friends but simply couldn't return their feelings for me. There have been women for whom I had those feelings, but they could not return my feelings. My point is not to complain about the women who've been in my life.

My point is that maybe some of the women for whom I had feelings would have been able to return those feelings if I'd had more skill at talking to women and been more careful to let them see me in circumstances where I'm at my best. One of the big reasons that I wasn't able do these things is that the church had discouraged those kinds of pursuits. Instead, the church told me just to "wait on God" for the relationships to happen by themselves. I want to see this bad teaching broken so that others aren't harmed by it.

Maybe I have been spared some very painful times that I would have had in a bad marriage. On the other hand, the loneliness that I've experienced has been very painful as well. I'd like to think that there was at least one path in my life that would have led to a happy ending. The "pray and wait" strategy didn't put me on that path. I'm not saying that the "screw around like a stray cat" strategy would have put me on that path either. I'm saying that between those extremes was the way that I should have taken.

Bill

[Rca2000]

Nowdays, whenever someone, ESPECIALLY a kid, starts jabbering about global warming and needing to "cut back", I usually respond this way::

"OK-- so I guess you will give up your playstation, your Ipod, your computer, A/C,microwave, cellphone, dvd player, big screen, and no more running to the malls. After all-- you have to do your part, too!!

They usually respond with "no,. someone else can do that!!"

Then I say-- "the someone else's say that ,too!!. So, either do what I said, or just SHUT UP, and stop rambling about things you don't know anything about"!!

That usually takes care of things!!

[pcottraux]

Wow. Cool. Welcome to our humble thread. Allow me to show you around.

(Fixing my hair, straightening my collar, checking my breath...)

[WFTR]

I tend to find that the more guys 'look' for women, the less likely they are to find one.

I've heard many people say this. For many years, I tried to practice it. I now no longer believe it. I think that guys who are "playing the game" for the sake of playing the game are often more successful than guys who truly want to find someone worthwhile. In one sense, they aren't really "looking," but they are going through all of the steps of finding.

What type of things do you enjoy doing for fun?

I've traditionally enjoyed outdoor activities, but I had a problem with the heat in my kayak last year. I've found that the incident has put a pretty big dent in my physical confidence. Right now, I'm having a great deal of fun keeping snakes as pets. I've wanted a pet snake for as long as I can remember. I always put that desire aside because I thought it would be a little too much to ask a woman to adapt to pet snakes. Last year was when I finally decided that I'd never find someone, so I've been giving myself to this new hobby quite a bit.

Bill

[WFTR]

LOL Thanks for the encouraging (and amusing) words.

[iluvgeorgie]

(Fixing my hair, straightening my collar, checking my breath...)

I grabbed my mints too. By the way, you look great.

[rzeznikj at stout]

I did. Nice country up there. Though there's not a lot on Madeline Island...

[rzeznikj at stout]

Was in briefly to fix my phone...

Have to work tomorrow, so I'm headed off to bed...

[proud_yank]

He wasn't going that route, he was trying to be scientific. I love replying like that too, but libs never seem to grasp the concept of 'cognitive dissonance'! They're our superiors afterall.

I love when the 'world traveller' libs get on their rant about SUV's. I don't even get into it with them, if I can avoid it. I'm thinking about starting an RNC Jar to put donation $$ in, for everytime I am fed their whining.

[proud_yank]

I think you have to be aggressive when you meet them, I was referring more to the 'bar going' crowd who seek gals.

Didn't know you were a paddler?? I'm not one for heat/humidity either. I'd prefer frostbite to sunburn.

What type of snakes do you have? I had a Colombian Boa as an undergrad.

[pcottraux]

Wow, thanks! We're off to a good start here.

Yes, I'm a hated man...and you know what that means.

[Maximus_Ridiculousness]

Hi, iluvgeorgie!

Welcome to the Singles Thread!

[iluvgeorgie]

Yes, I'm a hated man...and you know what that means. I once read a survey question that asked, "What would you rather be when you die: forgotten by all or hatefully remembered?" Guess what I chose. Lol.

[pcottraux]

Anyway, allow me to be your official tour guide.

The singles thread is posted every weekend, starting Friday evening and lasting through late Sunday night. Because it's summer, the thread's been a tad slow lately. But I guess that's a seasonal thing.

Each week, we have a new person (a sort of guest host) post the thread and write all the stuff that goes up there. Usually we have "couples," or two people who post the thread together. Often it's a male and female, but we're having a bit of a female shortage lately, so guys have been paired with guys (myself included). We're assigned a theme each week, and as you can see, all the married people who come here regularly were the posters.

Mostly all that goes on in the thread is general chatting, but a lot of it has a romantic angle to it.

We have actually a real-life boyfriend/girlfriend couple who met on the singles thread, Rockinright and Hoodlum91.

Oh, and we have our own hot tub, too:

I don't know who those people in there are right now.

[pcottraux]

I'm guessing the correct answer is "Hatefully remembered." I'm with you on that.

I was referring to your tagline, "All Great Men are Hated."

[Maximus_Ridiculousness]

Come now Phil, that's really you in the hot tub. Fess up.

[iluvgeorgie]

You are correct.

That hot tub looks awfully cozy right now. Relaxing. Jumpin' in and making a splash. I think the last time I got in one was in October. I flew into Bismarck for a job interview, and I went to the pool room while taking a study break.

[pcottraux]

Well, I hope I wouldn't have that dorky of a grin.

[WFTR]

Thanks for the clarification on the dating point. I now see much more what you were trying to say.

I first became interested in paddling in 1987. Unfortunately, I could never get into a situation where getting a boat was the right thing to do. Mostly, I could never afford a place to keep a boat. In 2000, I finally found that situation. I didn't paddle much until 2003, but I hit it pretty hard in 2003 and 2004. Last year wasn't so good for me, and this year is getting worse.

As a kid, I greatly prefered cold to heat, but I switched in the 90's. I was living in Oklahoma City and biking about 3000 miles a year. I'd come home from work with the temperature over 100 and get on the bike. I never had any problem with the heat. Strangely, I did start having some problems with being cold, but if I was able to prepare well, those problems never bothered me. Until last year, I never had that much problem with the heat while kayaking here in Louisiana. I'd go in the heat of the day and be fine. More recently, it's been more of a problem.

So far, I have only two ball pythons and a California kingsnake. I plan to get a thayeri kingsnake within the next month or so. I'm buying from an out-of-state breeder, and I don't think either of us wants to put a snake through shipping until the temperatures are a bit lower. Most snakes that die in transportation die of heat rather than cold. I also plan to get a crested gecko sometime soon. I know a local lady who breeds them, and they seem to be an easy species to keep.

Colombian boas are great snakes. If they didn't grow so large, I might have gotten into boas instead of ball pythons. What happened to yours?

Bill

[pcottraux]

And a complimentary towel will be provided, Ma'am.

Can't remember when the last time I got into a hot tub was. It's been a long time. I do remember turning as red as a lobster, though.