Posted on 10/06/2005 5:47:00 AM PDT by Paul Ciniraj
“HELPER HINTS” SUBMITTED BY WIVES (Not listed in any particular order)
1) Be my best friend.
2) I need to know you call my name in your prayers
3) Hold me when I cry
4) Show and tell me that you love me often, and leave no doubt about it in my mind.
5) Show me your approval when I make a decision that is good.
6) Talk to me about what’s important to you and to me.
7) Listen to me and don’t treat me like I am stupid and don’t know anything.
8) I need intimacy, and not just sexually. Anyone can have sex, but it takes a REAL man to be intimate.
9) Make me feel wanted and trusted in the things I can do for you.
10) Don’t try to make me like your mother.
11) Remember that I am your “Help Mate.” I am not someone to be stomped on and just used for your “whims.”
12) Understand that I like to have our family near and want all relationships to be what God intended.
13) Comfort and hold me.
14) Be a one man woman.
15) Take the spiritual lead in giving me (and our children) direction and guidance.
16) Ask me for my help – it is good to be regarded as a helper and useful.
17) Make appropriate adjustments to your lifestyle and preferences as a married / family man.
18) Treat me with love and respect in the company of others.
19) Show appreciation and affirmation.
20) Tell me you love me often, even if you think I should already know this.
21) Show affection for no “reason” at all.
22) Make me feel as though I am still desirable.
23) Be devoted to caring, giving protection, and affirming your love.
24) Encourage me to realize my goals, and don’t put me down for trying something new. Try to understand how I feel and listen to me when I try to tell you something that is important to us or that is hurting us.
Hey, you know you enjoy these threads!
Life and death don't count.
I love this one! LOL
And visa versa
Oh and because I've waited soooooooo long I want a big ole diamond, a small wedding, and a very long honeymoon!
I love this one! LOL
And visa versa
Oh and because I've waited soooooooo long I want a big ole diamond, a small wedding, and a very long honeymoon!
Uh oh.
#2....if this is a second or third marriage, no question about past relationships, and drop the baggage, no one should pay for your past mistakes.
#3....other than financial matters never worry about 10 years down the line, leave that to GOD & live in the present.
I am glad that you liked that one. I have recently gained some weight and I have started back at the Y with a trainer. I am also swimming. However, it is very lonely and boring to go alone.
I would like to get married again some day. I would like a small wedding and a long honeymoon, too. I wear a size 4 1/2 ring, so I can't handle a big diamond. My fingers are not very long, either. LOL!
Hey, Scott! No uh oh here! You would have a small wedding and a long honeymoon! The diamond would be somewhat expensive, but look at it as an investment. :)
How come? A lot of men won't even cry then. Oh, and he cried during sad movies, too.
Silly boy! There are a lot of women who share my views. All the women that I know do.
Feminists in the new style, or the old?
What is the new style? I don't know any self-proclaimed feminists.
Jeez,
I'm sittin' here after a stressful day,
tearing up at what a wonderful list it is.....
And I see that folks think it's funny.
~~sigh~~
I'm never dating again, much less getting married.
I was born on the wrong effin' planet.
22) Make me feel as though I am still desirable.
I have been married for 25 yrs. I'm puzzled as to why its his job to make me feel as 'though' I am still desirable. I know for a fact that I am because of his actions not my feelings.
I know what you mean. I had a thin gold band and a very tiny engagement ring. I loved them and wore them all my married life until a year after my husband's death.
Describes my husband. Sounds like someone can't live up to these ideals so denegrates them.
No flames here. Your suggestions are good ones. And tell the little lady to stop watching Oprah and soaps! Ugh, that stuff will rot the mind. Get her 24 on DVD if she wants to watch something!
Oh dear! There really are good men out there, I swear. I'm doing my best to raise up three of them! Can you wait ten years?
Good luck and keep smiling.
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