Posted on 12/03/2015 7:26:06 PM PST by rfreedom4u
In the past I have posted regarding my wife's mental illness and the tough times we have endured because of it. Now I am devastated to tell you all that our 19 year old daughter took her own life on November 23rd. She was diagnosed as bi-polar and was very distraught over her best friend's suicide last year.
I've never had to go through anything near this bad and I pray none of you ever do. The loss of one's child is beyond horrendous. So far we've been doing ok but there are periods of extreme grief out of the blue and many tears. She was laid to rest this past Monday.
I ask that anyone who is willing to please pray for my daughter and my entire family.
I’m so very sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter. Losing a child is the worst grief. May you be comforted by knowing that we are paying for you.
Oh goodness. God Bless you and the children.
Praying for you and your family, in Jesus name.
My deepest sympathies to you and your family!
Holy Spirit, comfort our brother and his family as they go through this heartbreaking season. Receive his daughter into Your kingdom. Grant her the peace and rest the enemy deprived her of here on earth. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.
Prayers offered for comfort and strength for your family and loved ones. Prayers for the repose of your daughter’s soul.
I cannot imagine the pain your family is going through. Prayers for you and yours.
I too have a bi-polar daughter...It makes for a rough row to hoe...Prayers up for you and those close to you...
Prayers up Friend.
I am so sorry for your devastating loss. Prayers of comfort sent.
Much deep sympathy....
rfreedom4u - I am so sorry. You have my deepest condolences and my prayers for you and your family.
He went steadily downhill but I couldn't say he was totally our of his mind or out of touch with reality. Just sick and not himself. I was prepared, but it was a horrible day beyond words when he finally did it.
If somebody had told me I'd have to live through something like that on top of everything else, I would have said, no, it is not possible. My grief has taken the form of a deadness inside. I don't think I will ever recover. I exist by distracting myself with the bigger world out there.
You will be in my prayers. It's hard to know how to pray for this situation. I will ask that God will give you some sign that all is or will be well with her and she will be whole.
Bi-polar has the highest rate of suicide. Had he lived, and I would now give anything to have him back, an impossibility, it could have been one worry after another. There is no good help now for mentally ill people and a shortage of psychiatrists. The people we do have, it's so hard to find a good fit or someone who can really help and not do more harm. But there are new medicines and treatment for bi-polar. My son always resisted going through the mental health system, maybe because he saw what it was like for me, I don't know.
It ended badly between me and my son as I tried to get him help but I wanted to see him one last time. He wasn't there, and I cried my heart out (don't cry too much, hold things inside) and am so thankful I was granted that much. His wife was totally in control, and her mother and I made the funeral arrangements. The mother told me that he had wanted to be cremated and his ashes thrown in the ocean. I couldn't bear the thought of it and said, if that is what you are going to do, I am through with it. Well what did I want? A traditional Christian burial even though he wasn't religions. It wasn't all I would have wanted but it was so much more comforting to me. I paid a little over half of the funeral because they had given me my way. Now that it is over, I want nothing to do with them because it just adds to the pain.
I resisted going to grief therapy and especially support group for suicide survivors but had to fight through it in my own way with some regular therapy.
Just a suggestion but concentrate on getting through the holidays. They (and a birthday are the worst). Don't worry if you're not putting on a good act for the sake of other family members.
It's not comforting, but if there is truly consciousness in the next life, she may be very sorry for what she has done. My son was not blameless, but what was done to him is hard to imagine. I have been left to deal with and watch the fallout from what he did.
His best friend and business partner and his young wife, pushed him out of the business. I won't go thru it all, but they were having an affair. After my son killed himself, she got pregnant and had a little girl. My son and she had a 3-year-old son. Can you imagine I have to think of my grandson living with a mother and step-father who were the cause of my son's suicide? One day my grandson may come to know of it; maybe it is better if he doesn't in this life.
I guess if I can share some of the pain he would have had to deal with had he lived, sometimes I get a little angry about it but mostly my heart breaks for him and not being able to deal with it. I have had anxiety, depression and dysthymia since my 20's and am used to living in very dark places. I know the sun will come out again for me if only for a short while plus I have learned to be grateful for things other people might not think about. My son didn't know how to deal with the pain and knowing that he was going to lose everything he had worked for.
May God have mercy on your daughter's soul and console you and your family . You will definitely be in my thoughts prayers. I don't pray like a fanatic, but when I am moved by something, I pray for others not knowing if it does any good or not.
There is another FReeper who lost a son to suicide, fatima. I never talked to her about it. I haven't seen her name on anything for awhile so don't know if she is still around.
There is nothing I can offer to console but my prayers, I’m truly sorry. I’ll pray for her, you can count on that.
Prayers for you and your family. God bless.
The tears and feelings you are having are OK. It’s what you do with the feelings that makes a difference.
God bless.
Please accept my sincere sympathy. Your family is in my prayers. May God grant you the strength to get through this trying time.
I am so sorry. Prayers for you and your family during this time of grief. It is unimaginable.
I pray our loving Father in heaven blesses, comforts, and keeps you near to his heart while you grieve. May He keep you safe from all harm whether physical, emotional or spiritual, and grant you peace.
Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.