Posted on 02/02/2015 4:42:01 AM PST by servo1969
Somehow or other the word “feminism” never enters these articles, but where do you imagine that the modern habit of demeaning, degrading and ridiculing men comes from?
We are not talking about something that occurs behind closed doors. Being contemptuous of men, making them look like fools has become the new, modern way for women to attack men.
One might say that the assaults men commit against women are far more serious. One would probably be right. And yet, life is a two-way street and the feminist habit of assaulting men with derisive remarks must produce a hostile cultural environment.
To the feminist mindset men are chronically misogynist. Women who mock said men are merely defending themselves.
The men who are subjected to this form of emotional abuse—why do we not consider it abuse when it is inflicted by a woman on a man?—sometimes lash out in anger. Sometimes, they run out and cheat. Often, they simply pack up and leave.
All things considered, no man can lash out at a woman, physically or verbally. The culture is so hypersensitive to the incidence of male-on-female violence that the least hostile remark by a man will be grounds for indictment.
Since men are no longer allowed to get angry, more and more of them leave.
If you are asking yourselves where America’s absent fathers are, and if you note that a large number of children grow up without a father in the home, you might consider the off chance that some of these emotionally abusive wives have driven their husbands off.
And yet, ironically, these wives are ridiculing their husbands for not being very good… housewives.
It’s the modern feminist’s way of keeping her husband out of the kitchen. If you were confused by feminism before…
Aside from the fact that feminism has made it open season on men, these forms of emotional abuse are ways for women to validate the wonderful work they do in the home.
They are saying that their work is so difficult that no man can do it well.
Call it self-affirmation at someone else’s expense.
Heaven forfend, but enterprising young single women have occasionally tried to exploit the situation. One shudders to think it but some young women are not above poaching other women’s husbands. If they are as clever as I think they are, they do not do it by practicing the lessons they read in Cosmo and they do not do it by exposing a little more cleavage or hiking up their skirts a couple of extra inches.
The key to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his pride.
Are you a woman who wants to poach another woman’s husband? Try telling him this: If you were my husband I would never let you do the laundry.
Game. Set. Match.
Why has this topic reared its head?
It seems that Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler sent a text to his wife, one Kristin Cavallari in which he bemoaned his difficulties taking care of their children in her absence.
Apparently, this wealthy young celebrity couple never heard of Nannies.
Cavallari shared Cutler’s text with the world via Instagram. Ashley McGuire of the New York Post then reported it.
How much do you want to bet that Cutler risks being seriously mocked in the locker room once the new season arrives? How will this little problem affect his ability to lead his team’s offense? How many women will be happy to console the dejected QB?
The problem will not be that Cutler was overwhelmed by young children, but that he allowed his wife to make him look like a fool in public.
McGuire points out that it has become acceptable for women to make a mockery of their husbands:
It’s somehow become culturally acceptable for wives to mock their husbands, and this is bad.
Men don’t like to be mocked. Neither do women, but I rarely see a husband mock his wife, especially when it comes to being a mother. It’s a sort of sacrosanct territory that a man knows better than to stomp on.
And yet I see women mock their husbands all the time. And I don’t mean tease. I mean derisively mock and shame, to their face and behind their back.
Some women will say here—I know it because I hear it all the time—that they limit their derision to lunch with their girlfriends. Not only is this improbable but women are far less successful at hiding their contempt than they think. If a woman feels it and thinks it, her husband knows. It’s like the man who is cheating on his wife but who insists that she does not know. Don't bet your marriage on her ignorance.
McGuire remarks that one consequence of this new cultural attitude is that more and more children are being brought up without fathers. This despite the fact that some men put up with the abuse and stay in their marriages, regardless.
McGuire explains:
I’m not the first and I certainly won’t be the last person to say that there is a “fatherhood crisis” in America. A third of American children are now growing up without their dad in the home.
And while there are promising signs that those fathers that do stay with their children are becoming more involved in their lives or at least want to be, this is still an area that needs improvement in American society.
But I can tell you one way that women can ensure that men won’t help more with their kids: Mocking them when they falter. Posting their “please help” moment of desperation for all to see.
To sustain her argument McGuire linked to an article from the Daily Mail. The article, by Frances Childs, dates to 2011. It shows that the problem McGuire identified had previously been identified.
As Childs described it:
Sophie pours another glass of wine. Shaking her head, she sighs heavily. ‘He’s such an idiot. I can’t leave him alone for five seconds. God knows what sort of mess I’ll get home to tonight.’
We all nod sympathetically. ‘Mine practically blew the microwave up last time I ventured out for the evening. He’s so useless,’ says Lisa, pulling a face.
She isn’t talking about her monosyllabic teenage son — she’d never be so rude about him. In fact, although the lad has been twice suspended from school and rarely logs off his incessant computer gaming, Lisa never ceases to boast about his incredible talents and intellect. It’s her husband of 17 years she’s roundly and publicly criticising.
Childs continued:
Our husbands’ sins range from never emptying the dishwasher to being emotional retards who are criminally incompetent at childcare and let our homes go to rack and ruin through lack of interest in DIY.
And I know we are far from alone. Get any group of women together and you can be sure they’ll talk about their husbands — and it will rarely be complimentary.
It’s become so commonplace to run down our spouses that Sally Bercow, publicity-mad wife of the Speaker of the Commons, felt totally at ease painting her husband John as a henpecked domestic drudge on national television.
Gleefully informing her housemates on the trash TV programme Big Brother that she makes John mop the kitchen floor and empty the dishwasher while she has a cup of tea, she appeared to think that belittling her spouse somehow made her look interesting.
I can’t in a million years imagine men talking about us with such vindictive nastiness. But belittling your husband has become not just acceptable but even de rigueur. And what’s worse, if you don’t participate in husband-bashing, you’re often cold-shouldered; it’s as if you’re a disappointment to the sisterhood, a sad little wifey.
The worst part, Childs avers, is that women have gotten into the habit of demeaning their husbands in front of their children:
More than once, I’ve seen mothers and children in cahoots, exchanging raised eyebrows over yet another ‘job’ that Daddy hasn’t done. In sharing tales about men’s incompetence, women are coming dangerously close to normalising a corrosive and lasting disrespect for fathers that can only have devastating consequences.
Research carried out by the University of Kent last year demonstrated that by the age of eight boys believed girls were better behaved and more successful than they were. Surely these negative opinions of their gender are down to boys growing up in a culture that routinely derides and ridicules masculinity.
As we know, slut-shaming is a terrible, terrible problem. Shaming one's husband, no problem at all.
Another victory for feminism!
Sounds like our household.
And my husband is the best husband in the world.
It's disconcerting to see a man teaching his son to hate women, that they're all just out for money. There are bad men and there are bad women but most are good I think. I love my husband dearly and I see many women on here who do. They have mutually beneficial relationships, just as it should be. They are helpmates to one another.
I’m actually not teaching him to HATE women; I’m teaching him to AVOID entanglements with women.
I don’t HATE rattlesnakes or cottonmouths (in fact in 2012 I liberated a cottonmouth that was caught in some poultry netting and would have died) but I do try to AVOID poisonous snakes.
First of all, I honor and salute you for your plan to fight those filthy, demonic savages. But for the love of all that’s holy, please don’t go into it with a fatalistic, what-do-I-have-to-live-for mindset. You truly never know what God has in store for you.
I don’t dispute that the courts and society in general are set up to favor women. But family behavior patterns can be broken.
My husband grew up in a broken home. After his parents’ divorce when he was eleven years old, his mother married a man who was abusive-—mainly verbal, but occasionally physical-—to husband and his siblings. His childhood was not an easy one.
The father, for some unfathomable decision, considered himself divorced from his children as well as their mother. He has rebuffed efforts by his kids to reconcile.
My husband’s family is filled with divorce-—in fact, the only couple to stay together was his grandparents. And us.
He didn’t let what he witnessed sour him on marriage, but he did know that he would do it once, and do it right...which dovetails exactly with my own point of view. We’ve been together for twenty years, and married for eighteen. Divorce is not an option for us.
There ARE good women out there (and good men).
Yes, it is very sad, isn’t it?
I learned from the first Lexus commercial that Lexus is a car for black people.
I thought Buick and Mitsubishi had the black market for cars.
And may the Lord answer your prayers. You sound like the kind of girl I was praying for many years ago.
To wit: Pray, but don’t spend your life waiting for Mr. (or in my case) Ms. Right to show up at your door.
Or spend your life telling yourself that you’ll move back home to (state) someday where you grew up and find some high school sweetheart. Trust me, that one doesn’t work out so well after all either.
Best wishes.
They are also taught, whether they realize it or not, that unless the man fulfills every want/need [esp. emotional] that they aren't good
— there was one lady at my church who, relating a story about spiritual growth, told about how God was working on her in relation to her husband and there was a breakthrough moment when she realized that she had been resenting the husband for not meeting her every emotional need/want and God brought it to her realization that He had provided the friends/emotional-support she needed and that her husband (a) loved her, and (b) was doing the best as he could.
This kind of also fits into the societal ideology where masculine traits
are dismissed as useless — a good example here would be logic in the legal-system. (Look at how soundly rejected an argument based on the Constitution is; even among conservatives
, just lay out that the Constitution needed amending to allow the federal government the power to do prohibition, but no such amendment exists for the War on Drugs and watch the emotional knee-jerk response.)
I can only imagine how much worse it is for women who are steeped and marinated
in feminist ideology.
HA...My mother was married 4 times (I only knew 3 of them, my father was the 2nd)...my husband’s parents were married near 60 years, and I think they hated each other more every year ...in other words...neither of us have had good role models...both of us had one divorce, and swore we would never do it again....and haven’t...but, it is NOT easy....it’s COMMITTMENT with some love and understanding thrown in. (30+ years here). I learned how NOT to do divorce from my parents .... and how NOT to parent also, altho I can’t say I was the greatest, but I was better than they were...
BUT, you are right...today’s culture has made marriage (especially non religious) a passing fad...something easy to get in and out of, with women getting the financial fruits in most cases. It is nasty out there, unfortunately, for those looking for marriage. I have merely tried to be a role model for my son...and he is a great Dad and husband....luckily. Doing that seems to be the best thing a parent can do.
I find it to be very relaxing.
> The Biblical admonitions are:
> 1) Husband, love your wife.
> 2) Wife, respect your husband.
>
> Result? Happy marriage.
This is very true, it also seems to me that both the husband and wife get the “harder job”. (It’s very easy for women not to show respect or disrespect, and it’s very easy for men to not show their love or cut it off.)
In a sense you're right; but instead of bred it's an all-pervasive taught.
It's a sort of learned-helplessness — society has for years been undermining the masculine traits
, just look at the low regard for logic in the legal system, there's a great emphasis on the emotional instead of building a logical argument from first-principles [Constitutions and the actual laws] — in short, everything that a male (boy, young man, man) does is either wrong or useless according to what society teaches.
That too...I simply love mowing.
I like watching girls mow the grass! :p
Two words: “Modern Family”
Even the gay fathers are idiots in that show. Every male in it is a buffoon.
That’s a hit show.
(Pv 18:21)How many women do you know that speak life, rather than death? To wit: How many are tearing down their man?
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.(Pv 14:1)
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
There aren’t very many female CEOs around right now showing the men how its done. Rometti’s a bust. Fiorina should be in jail, Mayer at Yahoo can’t hack it. GM’s CEO is up to her panties in recall suits.
I can think of one CEO that actually did a great job. EBay’s old CEO. I think she’s trying to run HP right now.
The world was supposed to be this grand and glorious place once women were put in charge of things.
Not seeing it.
I’ll say it - the world was better off when men were running it.
In WA state - nothing is done. Everything is studied to death. It’s not that they want to make an informed decision - they don’t want to make any decision at all. That’s one of the biggest vestiges of feminism - the avoidance of accountability.
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