I’m actually not teaching him to HATE women; I’m teaching him to AVOID entanglements with women.
I don’t HATE rattlesnakes or cottonmouths (in fact in 2012 I liberated a cottonmouth that was caught in some poultry netting and would have died) but I do try to AVOID poisonous snakes.
Somehow you are attracted to bad (poisonous snakes) women. You have chosen poorly.
There a lots of good women looking for good men, and the screening process is often cut short by only brief courtship. If, after meeting a woman you find attractive, you will court her for 1 to 2 years before you marry, and postpone the sex til marriage, you’ll find out if she will be a good wife or not.
In your case, it might just be better if you go off to war and get killed. You carry some ugly baggage.