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First of all, I honor and salute you for your plan to fight those filthy, demonic savages. But for the love of all that’s holy, please don’t go into it with a fatalistic, what-do-I-have-to-live-for mindset. You truly never know what God has in store for you.

I don’t dispute that the courts and society in general are set up to favor women. But family behavior patterns can be broken.

My husband grew up in a broken home. After his parents’ divorce when he was eleven years old, his mother married a man who was abusive-—mainly verbal, but occasionally physical-—to husband and his siblings. His childhood was not an easy one.

The father, for some unfathomable decision, considered himself divorced from his children as well as their mother. He has rebuffed efforts by his kids to reconcile.

My husband’s family is filled with divorce-—in fact, the only couple to stay together was his grandparents. And us.

He didn’t let what he witnessed sour him on marriage, but he did know that he would do it once, and do it right...which dovetails exactly with my own point of view. We’ve been together for twenty years, and married for eighteen. Divorce is not an option for us.

There ARE good women out there (and good men).

I am teaching my son to avoid things that can greatly harm him or do him long-term damage. You truly never know what God has in store for you. I don't know. Therefore, I will attempt to kill as many ISIS savages as possible, and if God sees fit for me not to take a 7.62x39 round in the face, then so be it. If he sees fit for me to go out like one of the 300 Spartans, then so be it. I don’t dispute that the courts and society in general are set up to favor women. But family behavior patterns can be broken. If my 2nd wife chooses to suicide-bomb the family, MY choice will be to leave the broken "courts and society" behind to crap on someone else, and I will burn my bridges behind me. When I receive my new passport, establish Skype contact with "The Lions of Rojava"--the Kurds, and am vetted to join them (i.e. show I'm not sympathetic to ISIS, inform them of my military background, etc) I will first attempt to reason with the current wife, and failing that issue an ultimatum. If she turns down my ultimatum knowing that I will disappear forever, I will then purchase all equipment that I need that I don't have, then fly one way to Sulaymaniyah International Airport in Kurdish Iraq, get met at the airport by the Kurds, then after that, whatever happens, happens.

HA...My mother was married 4 times (I only knew 3 of them, my father was the 2nd)...my husband’s parents were married near 60 years, and I think they hated each other more every year ...in other words...neither of us have had good role models...both of us had one divorce, and swore we would never do it again....and haven’t...but, it is NOT easy....it’s COMMITTMENT with some love and understanding thrown in. (30+ years here). I learned how NOT to do divorce from my parents .... and how NOT to parent also, altho I can’t say I was the greatest, but I was better than they were...

BUT, you are right...today’s culture has made marriage (especially non religious) a passing fad...something easy to get in and out of, with women getting the financial fruits in most cases. It is nasty out there, unfortunately, for those looking for marriage. I have merely tried to be a role model for my son...and he is a great Dad and husband....luckily. Doing that seems to be the best thing a parent can do.