Once upon a time, in a ward you know, a visitor attended on an average Sunday. It was a happy, pleasant ward, with great diversity. Children, youth, and adults of many ages sat together in sacrament meeting. The building seemed well kept, the leaders well organized, the lessons well taught. The visitor thought as she observed, "What lucky people live in this ward. What a warm, inviting place this must be. They must truly love one another." She decided to come again, not to look but to listen to what these people said about their relationships. This is what she...