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I've been listening to all of you discuss adoption, and I know I am one of the blessed ones to have two new daughters (sisters ages 8 & 11) who have bonded with me from the beginning (I got them 8 months ago), and who are doing incredible. They are responsive, open, happy & loving. This is not the "honeymoon" period as is sometimes the case. My girls have been like this from when they were very little -- despite unspeakable realities they have endured. Thank God He chose me as a 1st time, single mother to give them the life He always planned for them to have, and to show them grace and God's love every day.

Just thought I'd share that not all adoptive families have serious attachment issues, but I know it's more common than not.

God bless those of you who are pouring out your lives to "the least of these" as Jesus commands.

That's all...

As I prepare to be a 1st time (single) mother of two older sisters (adopting through foster care) soon, I found below amazing..thought I'd pass it on. Next year is Mother's Day for me...(it is worth the read, trust me)....

Some Mothers Get Babies With Something More
Lori Borgman
Columnist and Speaker
http://www.crosswalk.com/family/parenting/1260314.html

My friend is expecting her first child. People keep asking what she wants. She smiles demurely, shakes her head and gives the answer mothers have given throughout the pages of time. She says it doesn't matter whether it's a boy or a girl. She just wants it to have ten fingers and ten toes.

Of course, that's what she says. That's what mothers have always said.

Mothers lie.

Truth be told, every mother wants a whole lot more. Every mother wants a perfectly healthy baby with a round head, rosebud lips, button nose, beautiful eyes and satin skin. Every mother wants a baby so gorgeous that people will pity the Gerber baby for being flat-out ugly.

Every mother wants a baby that will roll over, sit up and take those first steps right on schedule (according to the baby development chart on page 57, column two). Every mother wants a baby that can see, hear, run, jump and fire neurons by the billions. She wants a kid that can smack the ball out of the park and do toe points that are the envy of the entire ballet class. Call it greed if you want, but we mothers want what we want.

Some mothers get babies with something more.

Some mothers get babies with conditions they can't pronounce, a spine that didn't fuse, a missing chromosome or a palette that didn't close. Most of those mothers can remember the time, the place, the shoes they were wearing and the color of the walls in the small, suffocating room where the doctor uttered the words that took their breath away. It felt like recess in the fourth grade when you didn't see the kick ball coming and it knocked the wind clean out of you.

Some mothers leave the hospital with a healthy bundle, then, months, even years later, take him in for a routine visit, or schedule her for a well check, and crash head first into a brick wall as they bear the brunt of devastating news. It can't be possible! That doesn't run in our family. Can this really be happening in our lifetime?

I am a woman who watches the Olympics for the sheer thrill of seeing finely sculpted bodies. It's not a lust thing; it's a wondrous thing. The athletes appear as specimens without flaw - rippling muscles with nary an ounce of flab or fat, virtual powerhouses of strength with lungs and limbs working in perfect harmony. Then the athlete walks over to a tote bag, rustles through the contents and pulls out an inhaler.

As I've told my own kids, be it on the way to physical therapy after a third knee surgery, or on a trip home from an echocardiogram, there's no such thing as a perfect body. Every body will bear something at some time or another. Maybe the affliction will be apparent to curious eyes, or maybe it will be unseen, quietly treated with trips to the doctor, medication or surgery. The health problems our children have experienced have been minimal and manageable, so I watch with keen interest and great admiration the mothers of children with serious disabilities, and wonder how they do it.

Frankly, sometimes you mothers scare me. How you lift that child in and out of a wheelchair 20 times a day. How you monitor tests, track medications, regulate diet and serve as the gatekeeper to a hundred specialists yammering in your ear.

I wonder how you endure the clichés and the platitudes, well-intentioned souls explaining how God is at work when you've occasionally questioned if God is on strike. I even wonder how you endure schmaltzy pieces like this one -- saluting you, painting you as hero and saint, when you know you're ordinary. You snap, you bark, you bite. You didn't volunteer for this, you didn't jump up and down in the motherhood line yelling, "Choose me, God. Choose me! I've got what it takes."

You're a woman who doesn't have time to step back and put things in perspective, so, please, let me do it for you. From where I sit, you're way ahead of the pack. You've developed the strength of a draft horse while holding onto the delicacy of a daffodil. You have a heart that melts like chocolate in a glove box in July, carefully counter-balanced against the stubbornness of an Ozark mule. You can be warm and tender one minute, and when circumstances require, intense and aggressive the next.

You are the mother, advocate and protector of a child with a disability. You're a neighbor, a friend, a stranger I pass at the mall. You're the woman I sit next to at church, my cousin and my sister-in-law. You're a woman who wanted ten fingers and ten toes, and got something more. You're a wonder.

Happy Mother's Day.

Bry, you don't have to live in a garbage can to know what it smells like. The only way goodness and godliness will prevail is to have a few brave souls stray from the herd and stand up to speak against the wave of insanity. It begins (or ends) in places just like this forum, which supposedly attracts right-thinking people who love truth and freedom.

I rarely find in here only cynicism and arrogance. Very little courage of convictions. There are a few who raise their hand and speak up. I applaud them. The rest who make excuses -- the frog is slowly boiling.

Piper, you're a naive fool if you think exploiting this child by this sensational headline does anything to protect "our" children. WE protect our children. You and me. This is for entertainment purposes only, to feed the appetites of the worst parts of humankind. Don't hide behind your motive to protect the children. That has NOTHING to do with this and you know it.

STOP POSTING THIS REVOLTING STORY MULTIPLE TIMES ON BREAKING NEWS! YOU ARE ALL CONTRIBUTING TO THE DEPRAVITY OF THIS WORLD BY NUMBING DOWN YOUR READERS. SOME OF US STIL ARE REPULSED BY VILE, EVIL ACTS. MODERATOR, CAN'T YOU DO SOMETHING???????

Amen to you, for sure....

You guys in here are all PIGS the way you speak of the horrors this girl endured on behalf of protecting our country. How did they confirm it if she doesn't remember it? Fool, read the story! Can you READ? Yes, read before you post. That's always a good thing. I thought I was immune to the callous viciousness that is daily displayed on this board, but you all take the cake this time. To mock and scorn this announcement shows me first, that most of you commenting are all men, and 2nd, that you all must live in a vacuum void of pain, loss, grief or shame. Good for you. I'm happy for you. It's not how most of the world lives, but I'm glad there are some people out there who have managed to escape experiencing death and despair & unimaginable horrors of abuse. What's sad that on THIS board, is that you all are in the majority and the most vocal. Very very sad.

What I am hearing on most of these replies in here do not resemble anything close to the humility & compassion we are called to as believers toward those whose hearts become soften to the gospel of Jesus Christ. I personally heard her recently share with a caller the love of Jesus she sees others experience that she has never felt, and I was moved to tears as I listened to her genuine, broken response to the person of Jesus & His call to relationship with her that many of us have prayed for over the years. There is no room for glory in anyo fyou that the eyes of her heart are being opened to a personal relationship with God through Christ for the 1st time in this way? I am sad for all of you. I am sure that some of you posting your little digs know better than this. Those who have been forgiven much will forgive others much as well. Perhaps some of you need to experience the blood of Jesus for yourselves, yes? I pray so....because this judgement you are proclaiming does not represent millions of us who love the Lord and who rejoice for Dr. Laura as she comes into knowledge of her Savior.

Clara, are you okay? Maybe you need a nap...have to say, i'm not following you either...

but regardless of death penalty or life without...

this pretty bleached boy is STILL gettin' locked up for good...

of course, this is going on the confidence the prosecution is giving off that they have clear & convincing evidence he did it....

hopefully they're not just bagging it on the public sentiment for Laci & Conner. Let's pray it's in the bag with the evidence.

Yes, you definitely missed somethin'...

sorry

thanks, kayak...don't know how you guys know these things...

thanks...am having a great birthday -- my 39th, also!

How'd you guys find that out??? Wow! I have 17 minutes left of my 39th birthday --

have had a great day -- and you made it extra special! Thanks!

Anita (Office Manager)

resiliant & determined? I don't think so. Stupid, arrogant & egocentric?

Okay, maybe that, but determined? naaa....he's a total

JERK

He may not have Multiple Sclerosis on TV, but he certainly is bipolar in real life. Give the man his lithium! My sister is manic-depressive also, and lives on the streets. He sounds just like she does when she goes into her paranoid delusions.

Give the man his meds & some water! Pleazzzzzzze!

Geraldo is a pig, the most arrogant, grandstanding "reporter" (yeah, right) to ever be born. He would, I am convinced, sell his own mother for the right price. He is completely untrustworthy. A person of no character.

I am sending Fox a note to send him the hell back to Afghanistan where we didn't have to see his stupid face so often. This is ridiculous. He is a fool.

This is a distortion of the Christian faith in theory & practice. Asbury is very misguided in its response to this -- or at least that particular administrator is.

Preposterous that removing the flags somehow makes them more holy in the sight of God and the world. Discretion & wisdom is needed in dealing with these matters. This school / administrator used very poor judgement, and I'm afraid will pay a huge price.

Why would you use "Press Bias" and a question mark in the same sentence?

It is an oxymoron. The "PRESS Bias" stands alone without a question.

This is not true. Look at Robert Blake's case. They had a dead body, weapon, motives, and witnesses, but it took them one year to file any charges.

I know they're going to find her, and he'll be charged.

I sent Michael Moore a love note, stating the following:

Dear Mike:

I don't know you -- you don't know me. But I'd like to suggest that you clean up your act a bit -- and yourself --

and come at the world from a position of strength, character, and self-discipline so that your message will have more credibility.

Looks like you can afford a personal trainer, a chef, and a week with Anthony Robbins. Take the time to reflect and

work on yourself, Michael. Honestly, it will help improve your image so much.

Sincerely

A.C.

San Jose, CA

of COURSE this was meant to be tongue-in-check if you didn't catch it, but I really DID send it to:

mike@michaelmoore.com