Posted on 01/30/2003 5:06:38 AM PST by Skooz
Please forgive the vanity.
I received this email from my mom yesterday morning. Amanda is my niece. She is 18 years old and she lives with my parents. She just started college on a full paid academic scholarship:
Hi, Just wanted to fill you in on the latest around here. Miss Amanda is dropping school because she's...............................are you ready................ take a breath....................pregnant. She's going with her boyfriend tomorrow for counseling before having an abortion. His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again. She wants him more than anything, so that's probably what she'll do. It's been a bad few days around here. She was going to wait until the end of the quarter (March) to tell us, but she got real sick a few weeks ago and came home. I think part of it was the flu, and part "baby" sickness. She still doesn't feel well. One of the worse things is he won't be 17 until April. So anyway.......I thought I'd give you a little shock to have with your coffee. I'll keep you updated.
Of course, we are stunned. I am really seeking some advice about what I can do or say. My entire family (except for Amanda) is staunchly pro-life. Her mother is beside herself.
Oh, and how about the "His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again" thing? How about it pro-choicers? She is being coerced into having an abortion she doesn't really want. She has said (in other correspondence) that she wants to keep the baby. Her "choice" is being made by the father's parents, who want to be spared the embarassment.
She went to see a "counselor" at an abortion clinic yesterday, and they scheduled the "procedure" for today. Of course, the "counselor" at the abortuary is just a salesperson whose job it is to sell abortions.
Anyway, I have run out of options. I have prayed and will continue to do so. I have offered to adopt the baby and have referred her to a wonderful woman who has dedicated her life to finding good homes for children who would otherwise have been aborted, but my niece is not interested. She is ready to have her baby killed to make her boyfriend's parents happy.
I really don't know what else to say. God help us.
God bless you and your family....and thank you for posting.
Scooz, your parents must be tough with your niece. Taking away a car and a phone won't cut it. They must tell her that if she wishes to do this abortion on her own (since she's 18 and doesn't need their consent) she will have to take on all the responsiblities of being an adult, i.e. living on her own, taking care of herself. Which includes paying for her own car and cell phone.
Please excuse any spelling errors or typos, it's hard to type while I'm crying. I will be praying for your family.
OK what's wrong with this statement? How old are these kids and how long do their parents have soverignty over them and what kind of people are they anyway?
Maybe this girl can be convinced to try something: Tell the boy and his family that she aborted the child, and have a "family emergency" come up that requires her to move out of state for a period of time. She can have the child and give it up for adoption.
After she returns and the kid (under pressure from his parents) dumps her anyway, she'll understand the magnitude of depravity that she was dealing with -- the parents pressured their son to get her to abort the child, then had him dump her anyway.
Oh, and when it is all over and she announces that she actually had the child, THEY can understand the magnitude of moral, upright behavior THEY were dealing with.
She's 18; he's 16.
and what kind of people are they anyway?
Blinded by, um, "love" I guess they'd call it.
Blinded by, um, "love" I guess they'd call it.
My age question was a rhetorical one. They were adult enough to screw but they are little children when their parents decide it's time to get involved.
My what kind of people are these was aimed at the parents.
When I first married her, however, she was a staunch 'pro-choice', career-girl femminist - hard core - but I loved her all the same, though [how could I help it... she was (and still is) absloutely beautiful, in both body and soul!]. However, these losses and our other life experiences have given her the insight to cause a complete turn-around in her heart. We finally did have two handsome and healthy sons, and she's now is a wonderful homemaker and mother (completely by her own choice). She chucked the job, came home and hasn't regretted a day since - those two boys are her greatest treasure. Oh, and she's also now a Freeper Conservative (Praise the Lord!) and even wants to join Second Amendment Sisters - now that's a turn-around!
I will tell you a story, though, that might help with your Niece. My wife was in her fourth month with her 6th pregnancy and she needed to have an amnio to determine the health of the fetus (after having lost every one so far). Of course, they do these things using an ultrasound and you can see the entire procedure from the 'inside' so to speak. Here was the fetus, floating in its' little world and you could see the needle being pressed into the womb. Carefully the Dr. slid the needle in and before he could begin drawing up fluid, the little fetus reached up and grabbed the needle - he held onto it, exploring it with his tiny fingers for a few minutes (it seemed like hours!) and the Dr. was forced to stay motionless and allow him to explore his new world... and after a while he quietly let go and went back to happily sucking his little thumb. That is the moment that he was no longer a fetus to me - he was our son... and so it is with your Niece.. her baby is not a fetus... it is her son or daughter, and it was from the very start. (That son is now a smart and handsome 9 year-old who takes Tae-Qwon-Do, plays baseball, gets straight A's.... and kills me at checkers every blasted time! :o)
The thought that the little fetus I saw in that ultrasound could have been legally aborted - and that thousands just like him are aborted every year - makes me physically ill... these little babies do feel warmth, sound, vibration, wonder, joy, and indeed love... and likewise they also feel the pain of being violently torn from their safe warm home and they feel the unimaginable agony of being mercilessly and physically ripped apart, limb from limb, in that horrible violation of mother and child.
The mother does not go free, either... she will forever feel an emptiness like none she has ever known or could even imagine. Her gut will ache whenever she sees little children and she will be frightened awake in the night from dreadful dreams of that unborn child. Even having subsequent children will not take away the sadness that will haunt her. I know all this is so... I have talked to women who have suffered abortions and this is universally true - ask one you know has had one and you'll see. The tears will surely flow.
May the Lord Jesus Christ - and all the Gods of all the believers in this world - intervene in this young girl's heart.
-TFOD's hubby
(Oh, and BTW, I am completely pro-choice. Yes, really. When you choose to lay down and make love - with or without 'protection' - you have made your choice. From there on it is God's choice, not yours.)
Ah, good point. The little stud muffin should bid his well-to-do parents good riddance.
The chances of that are mighty slim, I'm sure. Most apples don't fall that far from the tree. That the 18-year-old girl is so enamored with (and screwing) the 16-year-old product of those parents is the scary part.
The obvious answer is she should have the baby, consider adoption, and let the chips fall where they may with regard to young Romeo. Sheesh.
I am not exactly sure what to say as I too would be distraught if I were in your situation. I guess what I would do is tell her that the boyfriend will almost surely dump her even if she has the abortion. Tell her how much regret she will feel for the rest of her life. Goodness, if all else fails, go pick her up and make her go to a crisis pregnancy center. It sounds like she wants to keep the baby already, so she may not be too hard to convince. Just tell her, she will always wonder what her baby would have been like.
Geeze, if nothing else, describe the procedure and how much it hurts her and how brutally her baby is killed.
Excellent suggestions!. I believe you are correct that in all probaility this young man is now going to be out of this woman's life, no matter what she does. She's too much in the thick of things to see that. And if he's not willing to go, maybe she would go with her mother--or aunt.
The boy's family sounds positively evil.
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