Posted on 09/09/2014 7:45:10 AM PDT by tobyhill
One day after Ray Rice was cut loose from the Baltimore Ravens following the release of a video showing him striking and knocking out his then-fiancee, his wife is defending her husband and blasting the media for the pain caused to her family.
In an Instagram post apparently written by Janay Rice, she said she felt like she was "mourning the death of my closest friend."
"I woke up this morning, feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I'm mourning the death of my closest friend," Janay Rice wrote in the post. "But to have to accept the fact that it's reality is a nightmare itself. No one know the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret everyday is a horrible thing.
"To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass off for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific. THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don't you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happines away, you've succeeded on so many levels. Just know you've succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!"
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There, fixed it.
Hard to take the millions when hubby is unemployed, huh?
LOL!
I agree with you 100%. (we can both get flamed)
You asked a very interesting question. PREDICTION: She will leave with a theoretical one-half. However, our corrupt judiciary will see that it is ninety percent!
I had an abusive girlfriend who liked to get drunk all the time, and every three months or so she'd hit.
Put up with it for 18 months, then called the county police on her drunk a&&.
Thank you for the kind words. It’s still a very emotionally difficult thing to talk about even after all these years.
I’m so glad your story has a happy ending as well, many do not!
She should have been more explicit when she asked Ray to give her a little smack on the cheek.
I have no knowledge of the relationship between Rice and his now wife. I do question the NFL's handling of the matter, which appears to be driven by a political agenda. There seems to be no consistency in how justice is meted out.
Yes, I do, my brother found himself in that situation. It’s every bit as wrong.
A man calling the cops on a crazy woman is probably less terrifying than a woman calling the cops on a crazy man. Men are usually bigger and stronger and capable of rage.
Back then, the cops actually had to catch him at my house in order to arrest him for violating a restraining order (not worth the paper it’s printed on). So, if I have him arrested, once he makes bail, I now have an ENRAGED abuser to deal with.
When I moved out, I alerted the local PD to the situation and that he had threatened to kill me on more than one occasion. I called the police when he showed up at my house threatening me again. It took 45 minutes for them to respond. That is the exact moment I understood no one could protect me but me and embraced my 2nd amendment rights. I decided then that I would never be a victim again if I had any say in it.
I don’t think there is as much psychological manipulation in those instances so maybe men tend to stay in those relationships for a much shorter period of time? OTOH, I can see some staying simply because they’re too embarrassed to admit that’s what is going on.
Either way, abusers of all stripes have a great knack for confining their victims in a cage of the victim’s own fabrication. Built entirely out of shame, humiliation, fear, desperation, dependence, hope (that things will change), insecurities, etc.
Get real..shes afraid for the money
Probably not, I'm sure there's language in his contract that protects the Ravens from having to continue to pay his salary......
But I love him....and his money!
Isn’t this guy still getting $25 million?
Probably not, I’m sure there’s language in his contract that protects the Ravens from having to continue to pay his salary......
They can’t touch his signing bonus. Aaron Hernandez got his from the Patriots. The Patriots tried to stop it but the courts overruled.
I agree.......My neighbor and good friend was terrorized by an ex-girlfriend who worked in the same Ford plant as he did.
Following their break up, she stalked him continuously.
She vandalized his car numerous times, appeared in church behind him and started harrassing him during the service, broke into his house numerous times and even attempted to run over the responding officer who appeared on scene.
Most of the above occuring after he had obtained a useless restraining order against her...........
Unfortunately the courts and law enforcement did nothing to protect him from her and he finally snapped.
His original sentence was life in prison but after serving six years, his case was finally accepted by the State Supreme Court which ordered a new trial.
The original trying judge refused to allow all the exculpatory evidence against the deranged woman to be used as a defense.
The new trial resulted in the jury still finding him guilty but sentenced him to 8 years in prison with time served. So two years later he was finally a free man............
Knowing my friend and his wife as I do, the travesty is not what he did and which he ultimately has to live with for the rest of his life, but how the system failed both him and the deranged woman's family as she was allowed to continue her attacks unfettered...........
...by far-right tea party republicans and the Koch brothers.
Rainbow November - The NFL will have a gay old time.
Most men simply think in a different way than most women. It’s wired into us from thousands of years of (usually) having different roles in society. But I can tell you that in the cases of a woman abusing a man that I’ve been near, there was no less “manipulation” by the woman, than that from the man in the better known man abuses woman cases. Ditto for the one abusive gay relationship that I know of.
In my experience, which may not be the last word(!), in most abusive relationships where a physically weaker male is involved, he will “get out” after 2 or 3 attacks. This is not 100% of course, but it is the strongly dominant trend in “situations” I know of, in over 2 generations of being aware of such ugliness... Something about being “the hunter”, I suppose?
I would also point out an area which doesn’t appear to apply to you, or the Ray & Janay Rice situation, but does apply to a wide variety of poor choices: Some persons simply fear / dislike solitude more than a bad relationship. Predators know this, and can sense it. Sometimes the “prey” even tells them in words.
You are so lucky to have such a true friend, and even luckier, you eventually listened. (No news to you, right?) Too often, the true friend is the one who gets rejected, sometimes “for life”... :-(
Oh my goodness, what a terribly sad situation!
The system, and society in general, just doesn’t seem to know what to do with crazy people anymore. And they seem to be everywhere. We see it every day in the headlines.
I can only imagine how your friend must’ve felt. I didn’t have it nearly that bad but I certainly felt my ex was holding all the cards. I felt alone and abandoned by “the system”. I was basically told there wasn’t much the law could do until he hurt or killed me. We’ll, that just makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside!
Even things designed to help can make it worse. A friend moved back here from Florida because she was hiding from her ex who put her in the hospital more times than I can count. She moved out in the boonies to hide from him and had a nice, generic rural route address. Even if he somehow got her mailing address, he’d have to search miles and miles of county roads and isolated farms to find her. Then they switched to 911 addresses. She was terrified. Now, if he got her address, he would know exactly where she was.
Same with Google Street images. When I see that, what I think is “a crazy ex would be able to study your house, where the doors and windows are, how close the neighbors are, bushes to hide in, etc. all without you knowing it or ever leaving their house.”
My best wishes to your friend. I hope he got his life and happiness back!
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