Oh my goodness, what a terribly sad situation!
The system, and society in general, just doesn’t seem to know what to do with crazy people anymore. And they seem to be everywhere. We see it every day in the headlines.
I can only imagine how your friend must’ve felt. I didn’t have it nearly that bad but I certainly felt my ex was holding all the cards. I felt alone and abandoned by “the system”. I was basically told there wasn’t much the law could do until he hurt or killed me. We’ll, that just makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside!
Even things designed to help can make it worse. A friend moved back here from Florida because she was hiding from her ex who put her in the hospital more times than I can count. She moved out in the boonies to hide from him and had a nice, generic rural route address. Even if he somehow got her mailing address, he’d have to search miles and miles of county roads and isolated farms to find her. Then they switched to 911 addresses. She was terrified. Now, if he got her address, he would know exactly where she was.
Same with Google Street images. When I see that, what I think is “a crazy ex would be able to study your house, where the doors and windows are, how close the neighbors are, bushes to hide in, etc. all without you knowing it or ever leaving their house.”
My best wishes to your friend. I hope he got his life and happiness back!
He did and his current wife, who was his girlfriend during all his tribulations thankfully stood by him and supported him........they are a wonderfully happy couple now.
As a side note, my last girlfriend's second husband was a mean drunk and a wife beater and the last straw was when he broke her jaw and kicked her out of the car on I'94 between Detroit and Ann Arbor..........
I can't imagine the fear you and other women go thru with abusive partners knowing that the system can't really protect you........