Everything is peachy in Obamaland.
Wonder if they surveyed the parents, who I imagine are considerably less satisfied.
I'm just waiting to see what happens to Generation Fail when mom and dad can no longer support them. I guess they will just turn to Big Daddy Govenment and the Democrat dream of "every man a dependent" will finally be realized.
Whistling past the graveyard as the society/culture continues its unabated descent into a 3rd world cesspool of shared misery
How else are they going to get to go to all those rallies and protest the evil capitalist system. /sarcasm
How else are they going to get to go to all those rallies and protest the evil capitalist system. /sarcasm
To tell you the truth, I’ve got mixed feelings on it. With the way the economy is going, my family is starting to consider what to do with my grandmother’s house when she passes.
Talk seems to be leaning in the direction of moving my uncle and my cousin and wife into the house. That’s 5 people in that big ole 5 bedroom house and 4 of them are couples which will leave 2 free bedrooms.
I lived in the same house with 3 generations when in my 20s. Its not ideal, but ya do what ya gotta do. 3 generations or more under one roof is standard procedure in almost all places in the world except america, and was standard procedure here in america up until the around 1960.
We just keep lowering the bar, we make the tests easier, we make the demands on our children lower, and then wonder why other countries are picking up our manufacturing base, why we are importing H-1B Visa Engineers and Software programmers.
Then, we wonder why business’s here are failing.
It’s going to get much worse, before it gets better.
It’s very common in many ethnicities or cultures. I think if both sides are happy, it can be beautiful and keep them close. All those empty rooms, a responsible child can keep the house safe while you travel, the child can be saving up for a better house when he marries.
It depends on the people. My brother stayed there til almost 30 when he married, and then he bought a nice home. He left to attend college and law school and lived at home as he started his career.
I wish my elderly parents WOULD live with us. I treasur thm and I like having different generations and ages around. But they refuse.
It depends on the individuals. If its mostly a responsible adult, mutually satisfying thing, it can be a “family compound” and provide times for true family closeness. If it’s a pothead on the couch with chips all around him, that is different. He needs a kick out of the nest.
Not so awesome for Mom and Dad.
A "young adult" I know told me that the majority of his mid-to-late-20s male friends still live at home and the majority of the corresponding females he went to school with have their shit together.
No surprise here. Time Magazine doing what it can to make unemployment and living with your parents a fun thing to do during the Obama regime.
I’ve told my kids that they are welcome to come back and live with us, but that it’s not a party house. To live with us, they must be productive (working, looking for work, or waiting for a job to start); they must be supportive (help with regular chores, with home repairs, and with yard work, plus pay 25% of their income in rent to us); and they must be respectful (as polite as was expected when they were kids, plus continuing to follow our rules for what happens under our roof). Under those conditions, they are welcome when they are in need or just to save for a down payment.
What a great way to prolong adolescence.
(Been there did that ‘til 25. Push ‘em out sooner.)
Society has shifted back - we are all newly arrived immigrants to these expensive shores now. Young adults used to live with their parents - to build up savings to buy a house - wait until they got married and start out with money in the bank, etc.
The American dream is still there, like immigrant families of old, it will take decades to achieve independence in this strange new world.
I think it can be mutually helpful. My ne’er-do-well brother-in-law now lives with my mother-in-law. He is a college graduate who was out of work for a year and is now underemployed as a produce clerk in a supermarket. But he is a great “house-husband” for my MIL. He has fixed up a lot of things around the house, is always respectful, does most of the cooking, and adores his mom’s really spoiled cockatiel. I thought he was going to be just a mooch, but he is good company for Mom, and now we don’t have to worry that no one will be there if she falls or gets ill.
Is my BIL as productive as my husband? No. Did he successfully get married and have kids and build a life for himself? No, and that’s not great for him. In many ways, his is a case of arrested development. But as to whether the two generations can live happily together as adults? These two people do.
Pathetic. That’s what it is. Pathetic. If my kid wanted to live with me at the age of 30 I’d have kicked his ass out and disowned him!
In this economy people will likely have to double up. Some of the parents can’t make it, or the kids can’t make it- or both so in that case it makes sense. If done right it works for everyone. This is different than grown children that live off the parents because they are not responsible, don’t want to grow up- that is just wrong.
Some people are doubling up with friends instead of family. My oldest daughter and a friend of hers rented a really nice house and it is cheaper for them than it was each having their own apartment.