Didn't see this posted. Forgive me in advance if it's a double post. Just found the whole scenario interesting
1 posted on
12/01/2003 8:35:06 AM PST by
billbears
To: billbears
Sad, but hardly a suprising outcome.
To: billbears
An unfortunate situation all around. I wonder whether the 9/11 payouts had anything to do with making a widow with 4 children more appealing than one's original wife and 4 children.
3 posted on
12/01/2003 8:40:19 AM PST by
Tax-chick
(It's hard to see the rainbow through glasses dark as these.)
To: billbears
Interesting that she expects lawmakers to fix it. And completely predictable.
4 posted on
12/01/2003 8:40:55 AM PST by
Wolfie
To: billbears
I wonder how much the big cash payout we gave those widows is helping these guys decide to ditch their families and go join new ones.
5 posted on
12/01/2003 8:41:01 AM PST by
krb
(the statement on the other side of this tagline is false)
To: billbears
"The department saw this happening - knew from mental-health experts that it could happen - and did nothing to intervene," Mary Koenig said. In this modern "anything goes" society of ours, how can anyone possibly expect a government department to pass judgement on what these men are doing? If the FDNY had "intervened" in any way, they'd be accused of imposing their morality on people.
7 posted on
12/01/2003 8:45:26 AM PST by
Alberta's Child
("To freedom, Alberta, horses . . . and women!")
To: billbears
The Florence Nightingale syndrome. Falling in love with the one who takes care of you
9 posted on
12/01/2003 8:47:19 AM PST by
boxerblues
(If you can read this.. Thank a Teacher..If you can read this in English ..Thank a US Soldier)
To: billbears
"The department saw this happening - knew from mental-health experts that it could happen - and did nothing to intervene," Mary Koenig said. And what exactly did she expect the FDNY to do? Forbid a firefighter from dating someone? As tasteless as it might be for a married firefighter to leave his wife for a widow in mourning, what goes on in the personal lives of city employees is no business of city departments...
10 posted on
12/01/2003 8:48:40 AM PST by
Lunatic Fringe
(I'm normally not a praying man, but if you're up there, please save me Superman.)
To: billbears
There is only one way to console a widow.
So9
13 posted on
12/01/2003 8:51:48 AM PST by
Servant of the 9
(The voices tell me to stay home and clean the guns.)
To: billbears
I give this 30 posts before someone calls the firefighters that left their families Democrats. The post about
the CEO of Boeing resigning turned immediately to Tom Daschle's wife being involved.
14 posted on
12/01/2003 8:51:58 AM PST by
lelio
To: billbears
I didn't leave my family. I left my wife." Jeez, is this guy a Clinton or what?
Hey buddy, if you and your wife life in different houses and your kids are now visiting you instead of living with you, you've left your family.
To: billbears
What the article doesn't address is how many families broke up before 9/11 and the spouses involved became involved with other members of the FDNY. The numbers are probably close to the number of families after 9/11. Situations like this have been going on for years in fire fighter, military and law enforcement families. Its unfortunate, but true that the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence.
25 posted on
12/01/2003 9:02:12 AM PST by
Cate
To: billbears
There is nothing surprising about this at all. It's good old-fashioned "transference." Take one man, one woman, put them into a situation charged with intense emotion (loss of buddy, loss of husband), with lots of dialogue about the intense emotion, and lots of helpful behavior, and pretty soon they will be "in love." It's time to tear up that "unwritten contract," and let emotionally neutral professionals help the widows.
To: billbears
Koenig said that when her husband began to disassociate himself from his family, she made repeated entreaties to his captain to intervene. After speaking with both Madeline Bergin and Gerry Koenig, the captain ordered Gerry back to his own family. But the order didn't stick.
By what authority did she think the Captain could "order" him back to his own family?
By what authority did she think ANYONE could "order" him back?
30 posted on
12/01/2003 9:09:11 AM PST by
Neets
To: billbears
Since those guys are heros, the state should let them have more than one wife.
34 posted on
12/01/2003 9:17:40 AM PST by
stuartcr
To: billbears
Why did these women allow their husbands to go alone to comfort the widows?. I would have tagged along, kids in tow, for every bereavement session.
37 posted on
12/01/2003 9:21:34 AM PST by
CaptainK
To: billbears
"The department saw this happening - knew from mental-health experts that it could happen - and did nothing to intervene," Mary Koenig said. Well good, because it's none of their damn business. This'll be an interesting topic.
45 posted on
12/01/2003 9:42:37 AM PST by
Doohickey
(The ultimate paradigm of government is the public restroom)
To: billbears
Perhaps this is a result of affairs already underway BEFORE 9/11.
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