The decline of marriage: A glimpse into an unsettling trend

Christian Post ^ | 01/09/2024 | Virgil Walker

[ansel12]

For men, marriage is very high risk and the odds are against them, the odds are that they will lose everything, their loved woman, their children, and the accumulated assets and material goods of their working lives.

[PGR88]

Everything Jewish/Christian tradition has said about marriage and sex for 3500 years is there for the benefit of both society, and the individual.

We will need to re-learn it, with a lot of peril in between.

[escapefromboston]

No one can take Marriage seriously ever since they legalized “gay marriage”. Though it’s more of a symptom than a cause.

[Sacajaweau]

My son lost everything and wound up in debt. And we’re talking thousands and thousands of dollars.

[ozarker]

Reward things you want more of, tax things you want less of. Look at Hungarian model; get married, stay married, have kids, cut your taxes. Have at least four kids and stay married, never pay taxes again.

[ansel12]

Divorce is overwhelmingly done by the female.

In modern America marriage is high risk for the male and a trial period for the female, in most cases, she walks away with what made the time invested worth doing, the children, the home, and the same address and social circle, after taxes child support and the best car, etc.

Basically, you have the marriage and the family life Christmases and laughing children and home life, and then one day the man is kicked out and sent away, a replaceable part that was on trial and is interchangeable.

[aMorePerfectUnion]

Hence, the “passport brothers.”

[Zuriel]

Workplaces are big marriage wreckers. A brother of a school classmate of mine worked in offices at the two largest employers in a metro of about 350k people. This guy said those two places were riddled with broken marriages.

Then one summer (2004?) I was part of a trucking crew on an asphalt parking lot repaving job. We were about to start when a fire alarm went off at this large office building. It was just a rehearsal.

Out of the doors came hundreds of men and women (probably 2/3rds women). We were in their staging area, so they were standing around nearby us for about 5 minutes, until they went back inside.

The chatter on the cb was typical male comments about the many ‘chicks’ in short skirts and high heels. Tight apparel was the norm. Tons of makeup and high dollar hairdos.

Those men from that office building were probably led to tempting thoughts often during the day, seeing those younger women always glammed up, compared to their wives household appearance.

Glad my wife didn’t work in such places.

[MeganC]

The author utterly neglects to mention the effects that birth control, abortion, and militant lesbian feminism have had on marriage and family.

[Worldtraveler once upon a time]

---- "The decline of marriage: A glimpse into an unsettling trend"

The options seem clear. One may worship God, the State or the self (which usually includes a preoccupation with the self's genitalia).

The sham "marriages" involving celebrating the self and the selves' genitalia is a perversion of the traditional sense of marriage.

An intended perversion, for the sake of perversion itself.

[nickcarraway]

MGTOW are feminist tools.

[alternatives?]

The modern church, like society, is catering to women. It is interesting the article notes the problem of men claiming to be Christians in church prying on the poor women but nothing about women claiming to be Christians prying on men. The modern church is full of cougars, however, like this article, the modern church is reluctant to chastise women. These wayward women are referred to as born-again virgins after using their youth to pursue Chad and now are willing to settle for a boring, steady, dependable man. The modern church is all too ready to forgive this lifestyle choice and blame the men for being reluctant to embrace and reward this lifestyle choice. The article has a section labeled unrealistic expectations of men. Polls show young men would be happy to find a woman that meets 80% of their expectations but young women are not. Young women have longer lists as well but to the modern church, it is a man’s problem. Is there any wonder why 61% of attendees at the modern church are woman?

The article also does not mention the role of anti-men family courts and laws contribution to the problem.

Perhaps there needs to be a collapse, before strong men will be able to fix it.

[Bayard]

Ill say it, Women have become Harlots and to them Marriage is a sex contract.

Since its not about values and anything other than money for sex its no wonder men don’t get married.

[txeagle]

While this article generally travels in the right direction, the dated statistics and references.....MGTOW.com has been gone for just about 2 years......it highlights the timidity with which most modern churches approach relationship issues, and with just about as much misandry as the secular community.

A church is no longer a place for men to seek relationship advice. Or a relationship, for that matter.

[DoodleBob]

Prescinding from out-of-wedlock procreation…

Children are not getting married. Why?

A child depends on the parents for or just religious formation. but for modeling appropriate behavior.

Let’s go to the tote board to see how married folks are modeling behavior.

Divorce is THE most destructive element to the family and society….more than the gays, more than Ukraine, more than Soros. It is clear, yet few rail against divorce anymore.

Why? Marriage isn’t considered an irreversible bond in our culture anymore. The Commandments are no longer binding. Going to hell for sex outside of marriage is a figment of the imagination. God will forgive you; actually God is a woman…

The progressive era and the advent of socialism brought on by the Depression got that started. Marriage became disposable…it is reversible, it can be undone. It’s caustic to women, and quoth Marx and Engels, “(t)he bourgeois sees his wife as a mere instrument of production. He hears that the instruments of production are to be exploited in common, and, naturally, can come to no other conclusion than that the lot of being common to all will likewise fall to the women.”

Don’t worry son or daughter….you don’t need to do much discernment because you can always lawyer up like mom and dad did. Oh, and friends and family will happily applaud like a circus seal if you dump your spouse. There are Facebook groups and all kinds of social outlets geared toward starting life anew. Indeed, half of your friends and family are also in a state of mortal sin-it’s not like they’ll tell you to save your soul and work out the problem.

Then we have “research” showing that the kids turn out ok because they don’t see Mom and Dad fighting, that single parenthood can be good for the kids self-esteem, and other nonsense.

Sure…and the shots are safe and effective. Marx and Engels are smiling in hell.

I get that some spouses are tough, and there is mental illness and substance abuse. Guess what? That all existed prior to 1934. Divorce was shameful. It was a one-way ticket to hell. People worked out their problems. The same mindset that says “I’m against divorce except for cases of ____” is the same demonic mindset that says “I’m against abortion except in cases of _____.”

Where did the kids learn of this hypocrisy? Mom and Dad. Thou Shalt Not isn’t negotiable.

Many folks are sure riled up by abortion, 5 year olds getting reassignment surgery, and so on. Fair enough. However, almost every time I turn the mirror and point to divorce as THE primary driver of societal collapse and amorality, I get crickets.

We need to get people into a pre-1934 marriage mindset. From there, children can grow up in a home that isn’t lead by hypocrites, where religion is seen as VITAL as opposed to a buffet where they can pick and choose morality.

[drSteve78]

The author utterly neglects to mention the effects that birth control, abortion, and militant lesbian feminism have had on marriage and family.

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Add in a strong dose of selfishness and lack of any kind of religious faith, and suddenly finding climate change causes to be useful focus in exchange for faith in God, and you have the recipe for today’s modern society.
Which is now being countered and overrun by illegals and zealots.
We are doomed. Having Grace and Redemption, I’m satisfied that i am getting too old to GAF.

[drSteve78]

MGTOW is just a coping mechanism.

[Zuriel]

**The author utterly neglects to mention the effects that birth control, abortion, and militant lesbian feminism have had on marriage and family.**

The ‘pill’ is easily the leader in causing reckless sexual behavior. I dated several girls that admitted to taking it, (maybe because I looked like I was game to get it on). I promptly stopped seeing girls like that. While I was attracted to them, I was not interested in getting an std, like my cousin did.

My wife, not religiously instructed on morals while growing up, still had good values. One was waiting until wedding night. She had told me early in our dating that she would never take the pill, saying, “I’m not going to mess with my body’s natural design. Besides, the pill causes a woman to retain water, and can cause high blood pressure.”

Yet we did manage to naturally hold off on kids for the first 2 years. (Which was helpful in her transition from city girl to farm wife/hand).

[alexander_busek]

This article contains so many half and three-quarter truths as to boggle the mind. Here a small sample:

Historically, a woman might receive attention from within her circle of 150 friends, with 45% being male. Now, a woman can post captivating images on her social media platforms, leading to thousands of likes, hundreds of comments, and inbox messages from men worldwide.

Even decidedly modest and innocent images will garner plenty of online compliments. An average-looking, small-town woman with a substantial online presence can expect to receive a HUNDRED TIMES more compliments (some polite; some bawdy) in a year than her counterpart fifty years ago would have received in person over the course of her entire life. Even if she never bothers to follow up on any of them, the psychological damage is done; she will perforce have a highly inflated sense of self-worth and SMV (Sexual Market Value). Her sensitivity to REAL, in-person male attention will dull. This inflated sense of self-worth is amplified by feministic media messages ("You go girl!" "You're a queen!").

As of 2022, that age [of women to marry] has risen to 28.6 years. The choice to delay is causing many to ponder whether women’s true desire lies in a wedding rather than a lifelong partnership in marriage. Interestingly, the median age for men to marry has also reached a new high of 30.5 years. Men’s unrealistic expectations As men choose to marry later in life, they face [...]

Men are not "choosing" to marry later in life - rather, they have no choice. Only after women enter the "Epiphany Phase" at roughly age 28-29 will they consent to marry anyone but a multi-millionaire super-Chad.

Also, at 28.6 years of age, the newly-married bride has already lost half of her fertility. Half of her eggs are spent, and within seven years, she will be facing Geriatric pregnancy. Quite a catch for the lucky young man who "wifes" her up, yes?

Although premarital sex does not directly cause divorce, relationships by women with multiple male sexual partners are more likely to end in the woman, whose ability to bond has been burnt out, filing for separation or divorce.

There, fixed it!

Having 5-12 different sexual partners prior to marriage does not negatively affect a man's ability to pair bond. The same number of sexual partners has a devastating impact on a woman's ability to pair bond - thus increasing the likelihood that she will become dissatisfied with the marriage and file for divorce.

Divorce has also influenced the decision to marry.

Only for men, who will bear the brunt of the unfair divorce court decision. The modern career woman has nothing to fear from a divorce. After all, she "don't need no man." She has her job, and gets half his financial assets.

Regards,