PFL
A young woman I know well started feeding her new husband cake and then smashed it in his face. His parents were shocked. No one thought it was funny. He looked hurt, then retaliated. It was an unpleasant moment that enshrines who this particular young woman is. Narcissist.
As soon as I began seeing “funny” videos of this trend I knew the future for the “happy couple”.
Jamming or rubbing the cake in your new partner’s face is showing the world how much you respect that person.
The more aggressive the couple gets, the more trouble they will have in the future.
Is this true for all, I am sure there are exceptions, but I feel embarrassed for any newly wed couple that fall prey to this “harmless prank”.
Speaking of pranks, the funny video shows have a lot of clips of couple playing “pranks” on each other (or more likely, just one being the prankster.) Some of these pranks are harmless but lot of them are just plain mean spirited.
In a few years, my bride and I will be cutting into our 50th anniversary cake, and like our first one, neither one of us will be smearing into each other’s face.
I can only wish that my late wife(Elizabeth)and myself had been”counseled”by this most “Observant”Observor!!WE made a LOT of Mistakes!!!
He makes a lot of good points. When I come across people who are rigid and unyielding and who refuse to compromise/see the other side of something, I frequently find they are not married. I think when the Bible says “a man will leave his father and take his wife” that this is a sign of maturity and normality in people. People who are unable to find a mate and get along with them have problems in other areas of their lives as well. The pastor obviously see signs of this in people during the wedding cake ritual.
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That being said earlier this week we celebrated our 26th anniversary. What did we do? She wanted to go out and eat at a dumpy little Mexican restaurant that has absolutely delicious food that rivals any Tex-Mex restaurant in South Texas, which is where we met and were later married. We couldn't have had a better time at a 5-Star restaurant.
THis guy is right......it’s CRINGE WORTHY when they smash cake in each other’s faces.....it’s actually disgusting. At what other times do you smash each other in the face?
That’s a thoughtful blog. Thanks for the link.
I let a couple know at intake a number of conditions that must be met for me even to consider conducting their wedding. One of those is the wedding cake. I will not go forward, I say, unless they agree there will be no “cake face”. I don’t apologize. I don’t soft sell it. I just tell them that’s the standard, that I find the rubbing of cake in someone’s face or hair so disgusting and contemptuous that they will commit not to do that, or any hope of a wedding in a church that I pastor is out the door.
And I will NOT sign the solemnization paperwork until after the reception. Blast away. I don’t care. They can go to the justice of the peace.
My first husband did it to me without warning. Horrible marriage. Current husband and I agreed it is not a pleasant practice, and we shared bites respectfully.
Interesting observations. I think these couples are fortunate to have a Pastor who understands human nature so well.
I don’t like generalizations but this was interesting. There may be some truth to it. Regardless, I happen to think this smashing the cake in each others’ faces is one of those stupid wedding traditions....right up there with the garter and bouquet tosses. We did the cake, but kept it low key. We passed on the latter.
At one of my son’s wedding, the knife broke as the couple tried to cut the cake.
Three months later he found her in bed with another guy.
This pastor may be on to something.
Shoving cake in the face, starting your marriage with an insult.
The bride is usually in her church among people that have watched her grow up from a little girl to a beautiful woman. Here she is in her most radiant, she is in love, is displaying her husband for them to see, sharing the moment and him with the congregation. It is an act of absolute disrespect toward her and those people for a bridegroom to shove cake in her face in front of those people in order to get a few cheap yucks from his frat brothers or drinking buddies.
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That was so long ago I don’t remember what we did.