[Marie2]

I have a pastor friend whose wife has apparently lost her mind. It has been very hard for him. You have my deepest sympathies. I hope it helps a little to know you are not alone in your situation.

[chris_bdba]

Is there any chance that you can move back to where you came from and back to family? Right now it doesn’t sound like a stroke to me but mental problems. Your daughter needs you most right now. You need to find out if there is more to why she doesn’t want anything to do with him other than what you can see. He may have had converstions with her that scared her or who knows what.

[heartwood]

I am so sorry. I’ve been through the hell of living with someone paranoid, my father.

Your daughter and you have each other. My advice: be very open in discussing your husband’s illness with her. Secrecy, not being able to talk, not being able to say how afraid I was, made things nearly unendurable for me. Counselling at your church might help.

And you do have my prayers, for strength and comfort, and for your husband that he be safe and find the help he needs.

What I say now is frightening, so please forgive me, but I don’t belive in being too afraid to say anything. Please consider if your husband could be a threat to you and your daughter, either because he sees you as a threat, or because he might think he was saving you by killing you. My father seriously considered killing his three children to keep us safe.

May God uphold and protect the three of you. May He give your daughter understanding. May He heal your husband. In the name of Christ, amen.

[franky8]

The Lord be with your husband, daughter and you.

[rightly_dividing]

Prayers up.

[Between the Lines]

My prayers for your family.

I would suggest that you move back. Quite often when a man up and moves his family for no apparent reason the real reason is that he wants to remove them from their support system of family and friends and to reduce the influence those family and friends have on his family. Moving also serves to remove his family from their known resources like law enforcement, doctors, schools, etc. so that they will have to establish new resources.

Men do this to have more power over their families. With their resources and support systems severed the family has to rely on him much more than they would otherwise and it increases his influence over his family.

Please move back to where you have friends and family. You need them now more than ever. Your husband will still know where to find you. God bless.

[fatima]

He should not be allowed back in unless he has the brain scan.We just went through this with someone close.Prayers for All,God bless,Fatima (((((Hugs)))))

[Mrs. Don-o]

I realize that in order to get an involuntary psychiatric commitment, you need proof that your husband is a danger to himself or others. This may be worth pursuing: have a frank talk with his sister and with anyone else who might have had recent contact with him (someone from work, a friend). See if he has said anything,--- anything, no matter vague it may have been--- that would indicate that he has considered killig himself, or that he thinks others are threatening his life.

Any statement of his along these lines may be enough for the law to take action.

Or if he is neglecting his own well-being in terms of not eating, not sleeping, not taking medications, not dressing warmly in bitter cold weather, and so forth. This may constitute a danger to himself, sufficient to justify involuntary psychiatric evaluation.

I strongly urge you to seek advice from a psychiatric social worker. If you don't know wher to find one, try your nearest hospital.

I am praying for you, mouse1. You must make a plan and you must be proactive about it.

I promise prayers daily for him, for you and for your daughter.

[mlizzy]

Do you have clergy to speak to? I would take that step first. Sometimes they can come up with something you do not know about.

My father had a stroke and became extremely paranoid. Eventually it was found out that he had pressure on the brain and he needed a shunt put in. Afterwards, his memory returned slowly, and came back almost completely in time. My brother, on the other hand, had a strange occurrence, "seeing" visions. He may of had a stroke because his blood pressure at the time was skyrocket, and his behavior was odd at best.

Your husband needs that brain scan. Tell him you will make sure he gets the proper drugs so that it is not anxiety-provoking and clear that with the nursing staff. They DO have drugs they can give someone who is terrified of that procedure.

I'll be praying for you along with the rest of the FReepers. And you remember to pray too and seek some help for your husband and safety for yourself/daughter (if you are concerned about that) soon.

[iowamark]

What a sad story! Brain injury and mental illness do happen and do cause such tragedy. I will pray for all concerned. I hope that you can stay strong for your daughter and yourself; and that hopefully, your husband will get treatment.

[BlessedBeGod]

Prayers on the way for you and your family.

[TASMANIANRED]

Prayers lifted.

[MinuteGal]

Sometimes a very-well-hidden brain tumor is causing the problem. But I don't know how to get him to submit to a brain scan. His paranoia will kick in. It's like a Catch-22.

I'm praying hard for you and your family. It's a terrible situation. I suggest you nose around for an attorney experienced in how to get refuseniks legally into hospitals or doctors' care.

Stay strong. YOU DID WELL in coming here for advice and support from your caring freeper family.

Leni

[Salvation]

You have my prayers for the healing of your husband, your marriage and consolation of your daughter.

You might be interested in this along the way -- Beginning Experience -- a weekend retreat in your area to work through grief and reach the healing that is possible for those who have experienced the loss of a loved one

[Salvation]

 

 

 

   

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[fieldmarshaldj]

I’m sorry to hear about your situation, prayers for a positive outcome.

[LonePalm]

Prayers up for you, your husband, and your daughter.

Notre père, qui êtes aux cieux!
Que votre nom soit sanctificié. Que votre règne vienne.
Que votre volonté soit faite, sur la terre comme au ciel.
Donnez-nous aujourd'hui notre poindre ce jour.
Pardonnez-nous nos offenses, comme nous pardonnons aussi a ceux, qui nous ont offensés,
et ne nous soumetez pas à la tentation, mais délivrez-nous du mal.
Car c'est à toi qu'appartiènne, le régne, la puissance et la gloire, pour les siècles des siècles.
Amen.

Je vous salue, Marie, pleine de grâces,
le Seigneur est avec vous, vous êtes bénie entre toutes les femmes,
et Jésus le fruit de vos entrailles est béni.
Sainte Marie, Mère de Dieu, priez pour nous pauvres pécheurs,
maintenant, et à l'heure de notre mort. Ainsi-soit-il.

Garde la Foi, mes amis! Nous nous sommes les sauveurs de la République! Maintenant et Toujours!
(Keep the Faith, my friends! We are the saviors of the Republic! Now and Forever!)
LonePalm, le Républicain du verre cassé (The Broken Glass Republican)

[onyx]

My prayers are for you and your daughter, mouse1 and also for your husband. He needs immediate medical help.

[mimaw]

Prayers for your family. Get your daughter some counseling.

[mimaw]

Prayers for your family. Get your daughter some counseling.