Posted on 10/30/2008 8:52:07 PM PDT by restornu
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I know its like talking to choir
I pestered my parents so much I got to date at 15. I wish they had made me wait till 18.
It was the rule in our household for our kids (and the last one just turned 18). In fact, it was worse than that. We had to meet (face-to-face) any young man who wanted to take our daughter out. Needless to say, the few dates she did have were with real young men who weren’t afraid to abide by the standard.
At least the suspense and pain are less.
/johnny
“Out” is too big a place to take my daughter.
That was a sticking point for my kids, as well.
My 21 year old daughter brought a man to the house that I didn't approve of on sight (he had obviously fallen down in a bait shop, on the metal lures isle). I held his hand extra long in the handshake clench, and when he asked how I was... I replied... "Bout half tight, somewhat pissed off, and packing. How about you?" We never saw that young man again.
/johnny
The 16 rule was in place when I was growing up. Of course, I was so busy with sports and clubs and schoolwork I didn’t have time to date. I had a total of two dates in HS and both of those where double dates. Didn’t really date until college.
I think kids that are into early dating probably don’t have much else going on in their lives. They’re bored and the parents are AWOL.
Church “rule” is 16. Like hell. My daughter ain’t datin nobody till she’s 21 or moved out and I can’t say anything about it anymore.
Kids are trying to grow up too fast these days.
I've told mine they are on restriction until they're 27. They say “Oh, DAD!!” but they smile.
My mom was pregnant at 15, and delivered me about a month before she turned 16. I met their mom when she was 15, started dating her when she was 16, and married her shortly after she turned 17. It was pretty damned rocky for quite a while, and being a decade older than her really didn't help much. We've now been married for closing on 27 years, and finally we're both all grown up now. I am NOT letting that happen to my kids.
My father-in-law thinks it is hilarious that I have TWO daughters... Now, I'm afraid I can see his point.
Early dating does nothing but inculcate a child with the idea that relationships are made to last no more than 4 weeks and be ditched at the first sign of difficulty.
She resists some of these rules a bit, but not much. She's a typical teenager, testing the limits and if Mom & Dad really mean what they say. Her first dating experience was a bad one - she broke the rules, the date was unauthorized and she did not have a double or chaperone. My wife was inspired to be at the right place at the right time to save her from a bad situation. My teen learned from that and has been more eager to comply.
How do your children deal with other teens bugging them about not having an interest in dating. My son has tried to explain to his so-called best friend many times that he has other things to focus on and he doesn't get it. He has had other kids imply he's gay, because he;s not a girl crazy twit.
As a youth I was very boy crazy, so am very proud of my children for being able to focus better than I did.
I think the date has gone the way of the dodo, at least for teenagers. When I was a teen in the 90’s, nobody “dated”- kids tended to hang out in mixed groups and couples would come out of that setting. But the whole boy-girl date was fairly rare.
I have 3 daughters and they know the rule; no dating until you are 17 and the young man has to come and ask me nose to nose.
Thats the rule no execptions.
Mrs. RB and I are in agreement on that one and our daughters 12,10 and 5 understand.
at least until they turn 16.....
In our house, our daughter knows she can’t date until she has a CHL license [that’s 21 in Texas]; and I take it as a personal mission to ensure that she shoots better than any guy she does date.
Good comments from Mr. Card. Chaperones are good, too. My daughter went on a date (bowling) that included her little brother and the boy’s little brother.
Courtship is a word we've used many times when explaining things to our teenaged daughter. It will become a more prominent thing in her dating when she's over 18. We will encourage her to spend time in a natural, family environment with her suitors, not rely upon "dates" where each person is not themselves but dressed to impress, eating out all the time, and engaging solely in entertainment.
How do your children deal with other teens bugging them about not having an interest in dating. My son has tried to explain to his so-called best friend many times that he has other things to focus on and he doesn't get it. He has had other kids imply he's gay, because he;s not a girl crazy twit.
It was a problem when we lived in Arizona. But we just recently moved to Utah and most of the kids their age are supposed to have these same standards. So, it is easy for them to explain their standards to others since most of their friends have heard such standards explained multiple times in church.
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