'Honey, You Repel Me': Advice For Couples in a Sexless Marriage

Wall Street Journal ^ | Thursday, May 15, 2003 | SUE SHELLENBARGER

[WaveThatFlag]

A few times in my 12 years writing this column, I've stumbled on a topic so unsettling to readers that it demanded a follow-up. Last month was one of those times, when my story on the problems of dual-income, no-sex marriages drew a torrent of e-mail that read as if I'd jabbed an open wound.

[cake_crumb]

"Yep, the Michael Rivero Full-Metal-Jacket BODY CONDOM! Prevents STDs, unwanted births AND keeps the CIA from reading your thoughts! Just be sure to use enough lubricant - PAM works best!"

FOFLOL!! (now I need to go refill my coffee cup..)

[najida]

Agreed,
I was thinkin' the same thing.

[ItsOurTimeNow]

"Joe, you've put on some weight, haven't you?!"

"C'mon! It's my Holiday Weight!"

"Uh, yeah, but it's May 15th."

"Well, it's a holiday somewhere!"

[dark_lord]

:-)

[whereasandsoforth]

That's what I mean. Sex is great. But why build a life around it? I have sex and enjoy sex. I have been married and faithful to my wife since I was sixteen years old. We have been married 32 years. We have four kids. Sex must have played a part. But she is 50 now and I am going to be 49 next month. We love each other. We don't have to have sex to show it. It is a treat! Our respect and love transcends the need for genital contact. If I never had sex again, I could be satisfied. I love my wife and will never stop. She is my wife. Forever and ever. I agree that mariage is based on sex. That's what founds it. The delicious part is the maturity that is found in the years that follows. A man and a woman bonded so that they never want to be apart. A pair that share children. They share grandchildren. If sex guides your life, you are an idiot. You have lost out on the other 99.99% aspects that make it special. After all, you can do that by yourself. Loser.

[Phantom Lord]

Bart Simpson: I wash myself with a rag on a stick

[Woahhs]

Maybe the woman eats because you are too busy admiring your pecs in the mirror and are neglecting her emotionally.

Blame the guy...how typically female.

[Delbert]

No need to get so uppity. and all of the women who put there kids in the nursery up at the gym? They are all pre disposed to holding on to weight? No they realize the importance of being physically fit. She was in great shape, and now she is not in great shape. And my attitude towards her is not harsh , I couldnt tell her this in a million years, because It would certainly hurt her feelings. Here in an anonymous forum I can speak my mind to somewhat like minded individuals. I do not admire my pecs in the mirror, I liek the feeling of being in good shape and taking the best possible care that I can of the body and life that god has given me. I have been in a similar thread like this in the past and got ganged up on by all of the overweight chicks. Figures.

[cake_crumb]

"And if a married couple wants to use "toys" then that is their business. They don't tell you how to have sex and you shouldn't tell them how to either. Unless your directing the film of course."

LMAO...this thread is HYSTERICAL...(need to go refill my coffee cup...and blow my nose...and wipe the coffee off the other half of the desk...)

[Rebelbase]

"Women adored Ben Franklin and Ben Franklin adored women. When word got out in Paris that Franklin had a weakness for pretty ladies, everywhere he went, mademoiselles presented themselves to have their neck kissed by the noble savage. They were charmed by his witty sense of humor and his pensive manner. It was said that Franklin with "equal ease could... charm alike the lightning and the ladies." Link

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[Dan(9698)]

>>>...It is nothing more than a big fat LIE!

She sees through you. You should help with the work around the house and with the kids because it is your house and kids also.

If you only help to "buy her love", she feels like something she doesn't want to be.

You help beause it is your responsibility, your job.

You take your wife out on dates and woo her because you love her.

When you try to connect the two it turns her off.

I know, we have raised 7 kids and I helped a lot. I changed hundreds of diapers, I have gotten up in the night with one of the kids a lot. Kids were not just her responsibility.

We also have a good relationship as friends and have had a very good sex life. (7 kids, don't forget.)

They are all adults now, and we still enjoy each other.

[WaveThatFlag]

aluminum foil transparent

In the future, Scotty will use transparent aluminum to house humpback whales...

I said "hump"

[dirtboy]

In the future, Scotty will use transparent aluminum to house humpback whales...

Are you saying that Star Trek is a Trilateralist plot as well? It DOES have a lot of globalist themes...

[SouthParkRepublican]

”Your attitude towards your wife is extremely harsh”

It’s not his attitude, it’s his opinion, and he’s perfectly right in thinking that child rearing is an “easy out” so long as he is doing his part by making sure his wife has time to exercise.

As for using genetics as an argument, it is another excuse. If your son or daughter was not the brightest kid in class would you tell them it’s ok not to try? No you tell them to try and hope that when they are older they will realize they just have to try harder than most.

[Born Conservative]

Describe to me, in twenty words or less, your last orgasm.

I'll try. Uh... Ung... Ah... Ah... Ahhh... Uh... AHH.. UUUHHH... AHHRGH... Oh, cripes, get that damned dog off the bed!

I can certainly relate to that!

[SouthParkRepublican]

LMAO!

[Reeses]

I'd say the smartest women DO have children.

There is a inverse relationship between a woman's intelligence and how many children she will probably have. There're many fortunate exceptions but it's true in general. The evolutionary effect is brainy women are becoming more rare as a percentage of the population. Thanks to the invention of the pill and feminists selling the idea that women can have it all, female intelligence in general is a self-limiting trait. The good news is there's a growing supply and demand imbalance. Brainy women in the future will be in very high demand.

[Scothia]

I have been in a similar thread like this in the past and got ganged up on by all of the overweight chicks. Figures.

What makes you so sure I am an "overweight chick"? Just because I called you on your ungracious attitude?

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