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Advice Column About a Disinvited Wedding Guest Is the Perfect Example of How Entitled the Left Has Become
Townhall ^ | 07/02/2023 | Rebecca Downs

Posted on 07/02/2023 9:23:34 PM PDT by SeekAndFind

Last Thursday, an "Ask Amy" advice column published by the Chicago about "very politically progressive" overly sensitive and entitled liberals so absurd that people were asking if it was even real. There's no indication it's parody, though, and it just goes to show you how crazy the left can be. In this specific instance, it happens to be about a bride and her mother who disinvited the bride's uncle, and yet the mother wrote in because they still wanted the wedding gift from said uncle. 

Amy Dickinson, who does the advice column, put the mother in her place, though she was nicer about it than she could have been.

The mother, who goes by "Angry in Philadelphia," explains that her daughter, the "very politically progressive" one, asked her to not invite her uncle to her wedding, the brother of "Angry in Philadelphia."

Now when it comes to a pretty strong word like "unsafe," you'd think that the uncle was accused of behaving in some kind of inappropriate behavior. Nope, he just happens to subscribe to a different set of politics. 

"My daughter is very politically progressive, as are many of her friends, and although she and Dave have always had a good relationship (I thought), he is a conservative voter and has supported candidates we all abhor," the mother explains.

The mother wrote what she claims is "a very nice note," she even sent him a card with pictures of the wedding, "all in an effort to make him feel like he was not being totally left out." If anything, that's just rubbing it in, though. It makes it worse.

"Angry in Philadelphia" gets more insufferable from there, though:

That is just one problem.

Another problem is that Dave has not sent my daughter and son-in-law a wedding gift.

In the past, Dave has given family members wedding checks in excess of $1,000.

She says she was counting on receiving the same type of gift.

My husband says I should drop it – but I can’t. Dave’s behavior is upsetting and embarrassing to me.

The bride made her mother disinvite the mother's brother, but was still counting on him for his gift. That's some kind of gall. It's amazing that this "Angry in Philadelphia" considers her brother to be the "embarrassing" one. Even though she's writing into an advice column, she still closes with a demand of sorts. "Please don’t tell me that I’m the one who started this by not inviting my brother to the wedding. After all, he’s a grown man, while my daughter is young and just starting out."

Fortunately, Amy puts her in her place, in part by referring to the bride as "delicate" when recapping the situation. "You then rub the excluded guest’s nose in this wedding," she also points out. Again, that's not any kind of effort at all. 

Perhaps where Amy may most get through to the mother is that she explains what "will enter the Bridezilla Hall of Infamy," as she gives the mother a directive. This includes how the mother does likely seem afraid of her own adult daughter. Amy had also pointed out in her response that this mother was doing her "dirty work" for her adult daughter, going on to later explain:

In short: Brides who are too afraid of family members to invite them to a family wedding don’t then get the pleasure of receiving their money.

You seem almost as afraid of your daughter as she is of your brother, but I hope you’ll find a way to courageously tell her that the Bank of Uncle Dave is closed, at least to your branch of the family.

Amy closes by reminding this "Angry in Philadelphia" that it's not "Dave" whose behavior is embarrassing. "So far, your silent brother is the only family member who is behaving appropriately. He’s steering clear, which is exactly what you have asked him to do," she closes. 

It would have been great if Amy put this woman further in her place over burning bridges over political differences, but in some ways she pleasantly surprised. Still, as one person opined, Amy was too nice in many ways.

Family drama like this is very real, especially when it comes in our politically polarized society, and these "very politically progressive" sensitive souls who want to have their cake and eat it too. This was family gathering for a wedding though, not a political rally. These are not inherently political events. Politics doesn't belong in every facet of our lives, or at least it shouldn't. In a way, though, it is reflective of how terrible polarization is, and how selfish "very politically progressive" people can be, where politics does revolve around everything, and daring to disagree means you make people feel "unsafe." 

If "Dave" can't reconcile with his family, here's wishing him the best. He may be better off. Plus, as our friends at Twitchy covered in one of their multiple articles about this "Uncle Dave," there's people out there on social media wishing him best at least. 



TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: advise; entitlement; guest; wedding
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1 posted on 07/02/2023 9:23:34 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
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To: SeekAndFind

The Left thinks we’d feel so sorry to be locked out of a
Leftist social event.

They did this guy a favor. He should just move on and never
look back.

Look at what the Left is doing to this nation, and try to
realize they are proud of it. They want to destroy anyone
who doesn’t agree with them.

That’s very unhealthy thinking.

Has anyone else notice how filled with hate, those who
accuse others of hating, actually are.

These are just evil people. There’s no other term for it.

They would load Trump and US up in boxcars in a instant,
if they could arrange it.


2 posted on 07/02/2023 9:28:54 PM PDT by DoughtyOne (I pledge allegiance to the flag of the USofA & to the Constitutional REPUBLIC for which it stands.)
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To: SeekAndFind

Liberals are scum for sure, but this is so far out there that I doubt the story is true.


3 posted on 07/02/2023 9:30:18 PM PDT by imabadboy99
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To: SeekAndFind
further commentary here:

https://freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/4164877/posts

https://freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/4164315/posts

4 posted on 07/02/2023 9:31:39 PM PDT by kiryandil (China Joe and Paycheck Hunter - the Chink in America's defenses)
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To: imabadboy99

I can believe this happened.

You figure that something like 750k women get married a year. More than 50% of women who voted in 2020 voted for Biden. More women than men suffer from mental illness, narcisism being one such mental illness, or personality trait that may as well be a mental illness. Others are neurotics.

The law of averages dictates that at some point a leftist woman with an extremely negative personality trait or mental illness who is getting married will feel so threatened by a conservative who has a history of making good points effectively at family get togethers that she will not make want him at the wedding.

So yeah, I can believe this happened.


5 posted on 07/02/2023 9:56:39 PM PDT by CheshireTheCat ("Forgetting pain is convenient.Remembering it agonizing.But recovering truth is worth the suffering")
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To: SeekAndFind

I’m backing Uncle Dave on this one.


6 posted on 07/02/2023 10:10:03 PM PDT by No name given (Anonymous is who you’ll know me as)
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To: DoughtyOne
SJWs always lie.

SJWs always project.

SJWs always double down.

7 posted on 07/02/2023 10:17:02 PM PDT by grey_whiskers ( The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: SeekAndFind

I wish everyone would refrain from using the word “progressive.”

Call them what they are....communists!


8 posted on 07/02/2023 10:38:48 PM PDT by july4thfreedomfoundation (Disband and Defund the putrid FBI. America does not need an out of control Gestapo)
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[Another problem is that Dave has not sent my daughter and son-in-law a wedding gift.]

Yeah, Dave gets to save the $1,000, an airline ticket, rental car....

Good for Dave.

There’s probably some reruns on MeTV and there’s always pizza.


9 posted on 07/03/2023 1:00:46 AM PDT by SaveFerris (Luke 17:28 ... as it was in the days of Lot; they did eat, they drank, they bought, they sold ......)
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To: SeekAndFind

[Another problem is that Dave has not sent my daughter and son-in-law a wedding gift.]

Dave?

Dave?

Dave’s not here!


10 posted on 07/03/2023 1:01:32 AM PDT by SaveFerris (Luke 17:28 ... as it was in the days of Lot; they did eat, they drank, they bought, they sold ......)
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To: SeekAndFind

No doubt this is the early beginnings of 1933, left fester, it boils beneath until there comes a time when those in control pick up the flag and make it legal as they are doing now with protected classes and forced acceptance of the mentally ill and literally point the finger at the problem.... you


11 posted on 07/03/2023 2:40:29 AM PDT by ronnie raygun
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Agreed…


12 posted on 07/03/2023 4:40:25 AM PDT by DoughtyOne (I pledge allegiance to the flag of the USofA & to the Constitutional REPUBLIC for which it stands.)
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To: SeekAndFind

Sounds familiar. Gave my niece $5K cash for their wedding. Never heard a peep about it.


13 posted on 07/03/2023 5:06:28 AM PDT by glorgau
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To: SeekAndFind

Bummer Jerry Springer is dead. They could have gone on that show to work things out.


14 posted on 07/03/2023 5:07:45 AM PDT by maddog55 (The only thing systemic in America is the left's hatred of it!)
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To: SeekAndFind
It's true. It happened to Mrs. D and me a few years ago. We were invited to Mrs D cousin's wedding. (This lady could make AOC look like Milton Friedman in economics). Anyway, we were invited, then when Mrs D said that she's voting for Trump instead of the murderous witch (Hillary), she disinvited us, but still wanted a gift from us. We gave her a gift, a note saying her wedding gift ($1,000) went to Trump. 🤓

Still haven't talked to us since.

15 posted on 07/03/2023 5:08:00 AM PDT by Deplorable American1776 (Guns don't kill people, LIBERALS DO!! Support the Second Amendment...)
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To: SeekAndFind

Unfortunately, there were likely several people shot and killed over the weekend for even more petty grudges.

“Dissing” is probably right up there with drug trade as the leading cause of death in the hood.


16 posted on 07/03/2023 5:12:04 AM PDT by IamConservative (I was nervous like the third chimp in line for the Ark after the rain started.)
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To: imabadboy99

Not true?

Have you ever had a discussion with a Liberal?


17 posted on 07/03/2023 5:19:43 AM PDT by SMARTY (“Liberalism is totalitarianism with a human face.” Thomas Sowell)
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To: Deplorable American1776

lol...Nice!


18 posted on 07/03/2023 5:22:53 AM PDT by mad_as_he$$
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To: SeekAndFind

LOL. This sounds like any teenage girl. I hate you, now give me some money.


19 posted on 07/03/2023 5:26:07 AM PDT by Opinionated Blowhard (When the people find that they can vote themselves money, that will herald the end of the republic.)
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To: SeekAndFind

So they want $1000. I’m sorry Dave can’t do that.


20 posted on 07/03/2023 5:29:00 AM PDT by radmanptn
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