Posted on 05/29/2022 6:31:36 AM PDT by Aquamarine
An amazing secular defense of the traditional family unit approach.
Unfortunately, without God being involved, the only thing keeping it together is the the two saying “yeah, let’s stay together another day.” The permanence of that relationship cannot transcend themselves. The government doesn’t care what they do to each other and their kids.
(Marry a woman significantly wealthier than you.)
Heh 😋
“‘Armed with the Pill, and with every man knowing that, pregnancy was no longer a reason to say no to sex. And men exploited this mercilessly. Now, for them, no always meant yes.’”
So it’s man’s fault for women acting like sluts.
Today women have made themselves like the proverbial cow that gives her milk away for free. And men want the milk more than the cow.
At its essence marriage was a trade of sex for security.
In today’s world men can get sex without commitment and women can get a certain amount of security and independence on their own (through education, working, personal protection, etc).
Hence the low rate of marriage and high rate of divorce.
All this has been facilitated by technology. The pill and other birth controls, including abortion, high tech, internet etc, that have made brute strength much less important in getting a job, thus opening most jobs to women. And of course, giving women the right to vote has caused a major upheaval in societies values and priorities. Technology is a great disrupter of traditional values.
Whether all thess changes are good or bad remains to be seen. One thing is for sure though, the family is being destroyed and in the process generating millions of dysfunctional and bitter kids - and we’re starting to see the impact of that.
This is true... it doesn't help that they were raised by single, unhappy, unwed mothers.
Very long time married to same person. I agree about the lopsided laws that favor women, especially when children are involved. Personal observation of many long marriages and very short ones. There are faults and shortcomings on both sides that call for tolerance. Divorce has gone from infrequent to common and childless marriages have also become common. Love and a common interest in life helps to strengthen a marriage. It is a partnership that combines mutual as well as self interests. The older generations had a strong religious concept of marriage and the current generation seems to view it as a legal agreement only. Sexual attraction combined with the overwhelming marketing of all things sexual lure both sexes into a false expectation of having it both ways. Being faithful to a spouse is more challenging now than in past generations. Of the many reasons for marriage failure the prime one is a void of spiritual influence on how we commit to marriage and children. Just my opinion. Divorce is warranted at times but always has an impact, one way or another, on children as well as others.
And by fathers who completely abandoned any responsibility for the child's upbringing. If the father isn't going to take any part then don't blame the mother for doing the best she can.
Divorce is financially brutal on men in England. You could lose everything including your kids. There is great financial reward for women to divorce there if their husbands have a reasonable amount of income and/or property.
If I were an Englishman I wouldn’t get married unless I found a woman from another country and moved abroad.
Notice that if there is a very physical dirty dangerous job that it almost always men who do it.
Somebody got conned.....
Congratulations! :)
“Notice that if there is a very physical dirty dangerous job that it almost always men who do it.
Somebody got conned.....”
And that’s how most jobs were as recently as 100 years ago.
Now with the advent of mechanization of everything, computers, the internet, the economy shifting from manufacturing to the much less strength demanding “information”, most women can compete with men on an even field with men. And men’s strength advantage is no longer a big factor as to who gets the job. Intelligence agreeableness, empathy, attitude have come to more important than brute strength. Hence the changes you’re seeing in the workforce.
What’s ironic is that almost all this mechanization, automation and technology that has made employment of women easier (even favorable) has been invented by men, so men in a way are responsible for knocking themselves out of their high perch.
Also
https://freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/3856130/posts
Bill Galston, who served as President Clinton’s domestic policy advisor and is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, explains in crisp language, “It is no exaggeration to say that a stable, two-parent family is an American child’s best protection against poverty.” He explains that to avoid living in poverty in the United States, one has to meet just three primary requirements:
Finish high school.
Marry before having children.
Marry after the age of 20.
Only 8 percent of people who fulfill these three criteria are poor, while 79 percent of those who fail to do so will be impoverished, regardless of their race. Isabel Sawhill, Galston’s celebrated colleague at Brookings and a tireless advocate for the well-being of inner-city children, makes this bold statement: “The proliferation of single-parent households accounts for virtually all of the increase in child poverty since the early 1970s.”
I don’t have any million dollar ideas yet but catering to older unmarried miserable women is going to be a gold mine. Especially when the gen x women in about 15 20 years. Someone else already makes boxed wine and cat accessories.
A woman who has her husband to rely on won’t vote for the democrats.
Not every snake will bite you if you put your arm in a nest of vipers. If you don’t want kids, it isn’t worth getting married.
I am very guilty of exploiting the “pill and cheap sex” culture the sisterhood created. For years, after college a simple drink at a club could get a woman in bed. And occasionally when one seemed to be interested in long term relationships they were so toxic and bitter, as was I, it always ended. When I cleaned up and gave up my fallen state I did meet a great woman in Eastern Europe (when I lived in Germany) but lost my residency to make room for Merkel’s new Germans... Now. It’s just not worth it. It is not worth my time or money.
Not all Soy Boys out there.
Make um miss you.
The facts are valid, but he may be falling (at least in part) into the “correlation is not causation” trap.
Those most likely to become single moms are more likely to lack the good judgement to succeed in other aspects of life.
In the old classic “The Heavenly City” Edward Banfield argued that the biggest difference between rich and poor people were their time horizons.
Rich people were more likely to think about the long term consequences of their actions while poor people were more likely to go for what made them feel good at the moment.
I have been watching some “Cops” reruns and you see this at work.
Most citizens will be polite to cops at a traffic stop even if they are not happy at being stopped. They have concluded that being polite and cooperative is most likely to lead to the best possible outcome.
However, some folks have an “attitude”. They are ticked off that they are stopped and may run or fight or yell....that makes them feel good at that moment, and they don’t consider the longer term consequences.
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