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Black Fathers Matter ^ | June 23, 2020 | Katie Kiefer

Posted on 06/22/2020 4:19:23 AM PDT by Kaslin

Fathers matter. A child without a good father figure grows up with a disadvantage that cannot be erased by money, education or fame. Activists claim that whites and police are primarily responsible for holding blacks back. In truth, black father figures are the foremost differentiating factor in their offspring’s quality of life.

69 percent of black children are born to unmarried mothers, according to the latest data from Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). In contrast, the CDC reports that 28 percent of non-Hispanic whites are born to unmarried mothers. 

The CDC statistics account for a mother’s marital status at the time of her child’s birth. However, some mothers marry later in life. And, a small percentage of mothers cohabitate with their child’s parent—but never marry. Nevertheless, even as black children grow up and become teenagers the majority (54 percent) never experience life in a household with two parents. 

Pew studied American households with children under the age of 18 and found: “The living arrangements of black children stand in stark contrast to the other major racial and ethnic groups. The majority – 54 percent – are living with a single parent.”

Only 31 percent of black children under age 18 grow up in a household with two married parents (by a first or second marriage). In contrast, 71 percent of white children grow up with two married parents (by a first or second marriage).

African American economist Walter E. Williams shuts down “today’s arguments that slavery and discrimination decimated the black family” in his book, Race & Economics. Williams writes: “years ago there were only slight differences in family structure between racial groups. The percentages of nuclear families were: black (75.2 percent), Irish (82.2), German (84.5), and native white American (73.1).”

Major research shows that both the woman and child fare better when the woman is married to the father when the child is born. A nationally representative Princeton University study overlapping the Bush and Obama administrations—highlighted in my book—found that 65 percent of unmarried couples were separated within five years after the birth of a child. Absence of a father took a toll on the mothers and children: five years after the parents spilt, the fathers saw their children once a month, at most.

Girls are statistically more likely to grow up and choose male partners like their own father-figures—which is a major reason why good fathers are so empowering to young women. And boys who grow up without father-figures are statistically more likely to become men who repeat their fathers’ mistakes.

You blame the system? Where was his father?” actor Denzel Washington responded when asked about minorities facing higher incarceration rates. “It starts in the home. And, ‘Yeah, well, my father got locked up!’ Well, where was his father? …If a young man doesn’t have a father figure, he’ll go find a father figure.”

Washington matches his actions to his words on this topic. He’s been married to the same woman for 37 years, and they have four children. Last month, Washington pulled his car roadside in West Hollywood and helped police peacefully diffuse a situation with a homeless African American man.

We must rebuild our culture so that all our youth can easily obtain a good father figure—ideally a biological father, but if not—then a step-father, uncle, godfather, teacher, pastor or mentor in whom they find empowerment, wisdom and guidance. Cultural revival will begin in the home, and in our places of worship.

We all need male role models—yet Democrats and Black Lives Matter (BLM) diminish father figures—while blaming “racism” or “white privilege” for our broken society.

Fathers Don’t Matter—According to BLM

Spend 60 seconds perusing the “What We Believe” section on the official Black Lives Matter (BLM) website, and you’ll be astounded to learn that heterosexual black men—particularly black fathers—are excluded from BLM’s supposedly inclusive movement. 

BLM’s website explicitly (three times) mentions the importance of “mothers”—while never mentioning fathers. In case there’s any confusion, BLM emphasizes that “men” are absolutely not at the “center” of its movement.

Direct quotes from BLM’s website:

“We build a space that affirms Black women and is free from sexism, misogyny, and environments in which men are centered.

We dismantle the patriarchal practice that requires mothers to work “double shifts” so that they can mother in private even as they participate in public justice work.

We disrupt the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure requirement by supporting each other as extended families and “villages” that collectively care for one another, especially our children, to the degree that mothers, parents, and children are comfortable.”

BLM would be more honest if it changed its name to Overthrow Heterosexual Black Men and Black Fathers. Of course, OHBMBF is not marketable and few would support such a ridiculous-sounding movement. So, they call themselves Black Lives Matter. Because who in their right mind doesn’t agree that black lives matter?

Moynihan Report

“Brilliant,” Barack Obama once called the late Daniel Patrick Moynihan. 

Unfortunately, despite eight years in office, America’s first black president didn’t take steps to help solve the issue of broken black families about which Moynihan famously warned in his 1965 report titled, The Negro Family: The Case for National Action.

Moynihan was a liberal Democrat in his day. Today, his words sound more like those of a conservative Republican. Which shows you how far afield today’s Democrats have strayed from their original moral values.

Nearly 25 percent of black children were born to unwed mothers at the time Moynihan authored his report. This situation drove him to declare a national crisis:

“At the heart of the deterioration of the fabric of Negro society is the deterioration of the Negro family. It is the fundamental source of the weakness of the Negro community at the present time. There is probably no single fact of Negro American life so little understood by whites. … The family is the basic social unit of American life; it is the basic socializing unit. By and large, adult conduct in society is learned as a child.”

Today, nearly three times as many black children (69 percent) are born to unwed mothers. Sadly, today’s Democrats share none of Moynihan’s concerns. 

Democrat presidential candidate Joe Biden made a big deal about visiting a BLM protest site--and posting a photo of himself kneeling before a black man and his young son. Apparently, Biden doesn’t know (or care?) that BLM doesn’t support black men, specifically fathers. Biden did know it looked good—to his followers—on camera.

Meanwhile, Democrats all over America—from Chicago to Mississippi—are targeting black churches. Could it be because Christian pastors largely encourage men to be good fathers? Or because pastors frequently serve as father figures for children without active fathers?

Democrats should heed black street preacher Bevelyn Beatty in Seattle last week: “You want to see black men get killed substantially like you’ve never seen before, put Joe Biden in. …Democrats... use our cause. ...How did Black Lives Matter turn into something about LGBTQ? ...Not only that, we really don’t support abortion. …Not only that, we’re not about feminism. …Black Lives Matter can’t save you. Only Jesus will save you.” 

But stubborn Democrats don’t need to listen to me. They can listen to liberals. 

Like Daniel Patrick Moynihan. Or CNN’s Don Lemon. Prior to going irrational in 2018 and declaring that "the biggest terror threat in this country is white men,” Lemon said this in 2013: 

“Black people, if you really want to fix the problem [of violence within the black community] … More than 72 percent of children in the African-American community are born out of wedlock. That means absent fathers. And the studies show that lack of a male role model is an express train right to prison and the cycle continues.”


The Privilege Blessing of a Good Father

The single-most “privilege” I had growing up was having a good father. Except it seems disparaging to my father to refer to him as privilege; because he was a blessing

BLM and Democrats love to throw out the term “white privilege,” but the construct is increasingly being used as a willful distraction from the truth. 

Without my father, I’d be a very different woman. More than anyone—my father gave me confidence in myself; my values; and my beliefs. Therefore, I absolutely know that without my father, I’d be a woman with lower self-confidence and, consequently, a woman with lower expectations of myself and others. 

My parents were not wealthy. They supported five children on a single income (my father’s). My Dad willingly gave up expensive hobbies from his bachelor life once he married so that my parents didn’t need to send us to daycare. 

My mother homeschooled us, and my Dad was the school “principal.” My siblings and I shared everything, from bedrooms to toys. Most of our clothes came from garage sales. We never felt deprived—because we were well-loved. 

Besides supporting us—and coming home to us every night (to help with homework, mow the lawn, rake leaves, or shovel the driveway)—my Dad took us to church every Sunday and had high expectations for our behavior and academic performance. My Dad was never inebriated or high. He never had an affair. He kept himself in physical shape—and encouraged us to do the same. He worked hard. He prayed a lot. He read to us. Basically, he set a good example.

By achieving good grades in high school, I attended college on nearly-full scholarship. I wrote a book, published by Random House. I’m getting married this year—and am waiting to have children until after marriage. All four of my siblings have gone on to do very well for themselves.

I credit my father. And certainly my mother. But fathers lead (or don’t lead) a family—and research indicates that fathers play a greater role in a child’s ultimate success (or failure) than mothers—regardless of whether the child is a son or daughter. The nuclear family is society’s most basic group. And a group without a leader will flounder, including the individual members of that group.

Thank You, Fathers

While a higher percentage of white children have father figures—the recent riots show us that many children of every color need better parenting.

As young whites and young blacks came together to riot in the streets of Minneapolis to destroy diverse neighborhoods and businesses owned by first- and second-generation immigrants, I had to ask: Where are these young people’s fathers? 

“People are motivated to change and improve when they are shown visions of victories that are possible—not constantly reminding them of injuries to be avoided,” former civil rights activist and African American leader Bob Woodson recently told Epoch Times:

A good father empowers his child to overcome challenges in a healthy way—rather than “venting” via burning, looting and fighting. Our young people don’t need fewer police. Our young people desperately, urgently, need more and better father figures.

Thank you—to all men who play the role of father, grandfather, godfather, uncle, pastor or mentor—with courage and grace. You make our world a beautiful place by your integrity, strength and example. Hoping yesterday was, and every day is, a Happy Father’s Day!

TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: blackamerikans; blackcommunity; family; fatherhood; fathersday; lawandorder

1 posted on 06/22/2020 4:19:23 AM PDT by Kaslin
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To: Kaslin

I was raised by wolves and when I hear people talking about their love for their parents, I wonder what it would have been like to have been raised by loving adults.

2 posted on 06/22/2020 4:22:55 AM PDT by yldstrk (Bingo! We have a winner!)
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To: yldstrk

According to an Animal Planet special I watched both mother and father wolf bring up pups.

3 posted on 06/22/2020 4:27:50 AM PDT by freedumb2003 ("DonÂ’t mistake activity for achievement." - John Wooden)
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To: Kaslin

The lawlessness of the fatherless Black male has destroyed the USA.

4 posted on 06/22/2020 4:28:25 AM PDT by blam
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To: Kaslin


• In 1965, 76.4 percent of black children were born to married women.

So what changed the equation?

By the 1960s, American society was riddled with generations of “white guilt.” In reaction and repentance sparked by Dr. King’s nonviolent civil disobedience and the systemic introspection of social norms by whites, Americans overcompensated with sweeping entitlement programs under President Johnson’s “War on Poverty,” and by turning a blind eye to accountability on longstanding values and principled behavior within the African American community.

While affirmative action and desegregation jump-started social change, the unintended consequences of shifting the cultural incentives upside down were ignored.

5 posted on 06/22/2020 4:30:54 AM PDT by 21twelve (Ever Vigilant. Never Fearful!)
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To: Kaslin

Definition of confusion-Fathers day in the black community.

Yeah I know it is not PC but it is nonetheless true and all good humor has an element of truth and I am also sick to death of watching otherwise very decent people cower in the face of the miserable PC thugs.

6 posted on 06/22/2020 4:32:21 AM PDT by billyboy15
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To: blam

I was listening to a Christian radio station and the folks were talking about how it was difficult being raised by lousy dads. The one gal talking finally was able to deal with it somewhat when she remembered ONE thing that her dad did that showed her that he loved her.

I wasn’t/aren’t the best dad, but it is really sad when so many kids start off with such a huge negative balance sheet. And mostly due to the liberal democrat’s ideas and policies.

7 posted on 06/22/2020 4:35:54 AM PDT by 21twelve (Ever Vigilant. Never Fearful!)
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To: freedumb2003

And..wolves stay married to this same wife!

8 posted on 06/22/2020 4:51:15 AM PDT by Recovering Ex-hippie (n)
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To: Kaslin; 21twelve
Data from U.S. Census reports reveal that between 1880-1960, married households consisting of two-parent homes were the most widespread form of African-American family structures. Although the most popular, married households decreased over this time period. Single-parent homes, on the other hand, remained relatively stable until 1960; when they rose dramatically.[]

A study of 1880 family structures in Philadelphia, showed that three-quarters of Black families in America were nuclear families, composed of two parents and children. In New York City in 1925, 85% of kin-related Black households in America had two parents. []

In 1991, 68% of Black children in America were born outside of marriage. []

In 2011, 72% of Black babies in America were born to unmarried mothers.[][]

85% of all children who show behavior disorders, and 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes []

In 2015, 77% of Black babies in America (aside from immigrants) were born to unmarried mothers. []

9 posted on 06/22/2020 4:58:44 AM PDT by daniel1212 (Trust the risen Lord Jesus to save you as a damned and destitute sinner + be baptized + follow Him)
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To: Kaslin

One could look at the father statistics a number of ways. Since Moynihan’s report the non hispanic white fatherless number exceeds the 65 black fatherless number 28% to 25%. The whites have adopted the black fatherless virus and the results are the same. Read Murray’s “COMING APART”. 28% of the white population of 200 million is more than 68% of the black population of 42 million.

Dan Quayle was right and Murphy Brown was wrong.

The fatherless effect also works in girl’s fates too. As the father of 2 girls I know fathers watch carefully the character of who their daughters bring home. 15 16 year-old mothers are a drain on society in multiple ways. Black culture in this regard is deadly to social welfare.

Accepting the results of all this, which BLM does assigning the blame for criminal behavior to other causes and racism, means real solutions are not found.

Police “ brutality” is rare amd punished when it happens. Fatherless family brutality white or black is accepted as part of modern life.

10 posted on 06/22/2020 4:59:32 AM PDT by JeanLM (Obama proves melanin is just enough to win elections)
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To: Kaslin

Father’s Ray in the hood...…...very confusing.

11 posted on 06/22/2020 5:23:08 AM PDT by kenmcg (tHE WHOLE)
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To: Kaslin

Someone read my tagline!

12 posted on 06/22/2020 5:46:04 AM PDT by Uncle Miltie (Black FATHERS Matter)
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To: yldstrk

I wish I was raised by wolves.

Fathers Day is tough.

13 posted on 06/22/2020 5:52:28 AM PDT by Uncle Miltie (Black FATHERS Matter)
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To: Kaslin

“Fathers Don’t Matter—According to BLM

Spend 60 seconds perusing the “What We Believe” section on the official Black Lives Matter (BLM) website, and you’ll be astounded to learn that heterosexual black men—particularly black fathers—are excluded from BLM’s supposedly inclusive movement.”

This needs to be front & center, blasted from the rooftops, a major talking point for black conservatives & conservatives in general: BLM is actively working to further disenfranchize black men! The organization thinks black children growing up without fathers is a good thing!!

14 posted on 06/22/2020 2:05:51 PM PDT by mumblypeg
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To: 21twelve

These statistics are the part of the “honest conversation about race” the Left will never allow. At the first hint of any quantitative evidence that black Americans bear responsibility for their own outcomes, they shut you down with their favorite word: racist.

15 posted on 06/22/2020 2:15:07 PM PDT by workerbee (==)
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To: Kaslin
Black Fathers Matter

Those are very powerful words.

Even though there is opposition to the words All Lives Matter I feel they are as powerful as the words Black Lives Matter. I wonder what the reason would be to oppose Black Fathers Matter.

16 posted on 06/22/2020 3:24:22 PM PDT by MosesKnows
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