Posted on 11/27/2018 6:08:59 AM PST by Kaslin
FWIW, I consider myself a feminist. To my mind feminism is about equality of opportunity, NOT outcome. What’s being promulgated the last few decades is not feminism. It’s feminazism. And for women who bought into it hook, line and sinker only to have it bite them on their butts...Sigh, they have my sympathy. Hopefully the younger generations will learn from their elder sisters’ mistakes.
I get this was posted by a career woman who never had a family. But the same can be said by millions of women who DID marry and have children.
Only to divorce the husband.
Yes, there's more to a woman's life than raising children. And there's more to a man's life than studying hard and working hard to be a viable bread-winner for a family, or serving in the military and risking death to preserve our nation. But men are taught that doing so is part of their duty as men.
If our society does not, somehow, convince a sufficiently large percentage of women from the right-hand side of the Bell Curve to have kids, and a similarly large percentage of men to be providers and fathers, then our society will collapse.
Betty Friedan was a poor housewife and she worked to death doing laundry and dishes, right?
Nope!
She was well-off, had a FULL-TIME MAID, and barely ever did any housework.
“I wasn’t political, I was a completely unremarkable American housewife” —100% B.S.
She also for a time dated a communist working on the atomic bomb with Oppenheimer, at UC Berkeley.
"Settle": to marry somebody whose status is below what you think you deserve. Unspoken and unexamined is whether SHE is somebody who Prince Charming would pick as the best HE can attract.
At a company I used to work for, the boss's secretary was thoroughly gorgeous. She said she wanted to marry a wealthy CEO, and would not settle for less.
Years later, I met her again. She was 40-something, unmarried, and working as a waitress.
“Makes a very strong case that Feminism was started by barren women who did not have kids, did not want kids, or had kids and felt no maternal love for their children. Feminism is an effort to disparage love, marriage and children — an effort pushed by jealous, bitter women.”
The word you’re searching for is “Lesbians”
No, she isn’t the perfect leftist.
This woman has the ability and strength to admit that she’s wrong and that’s a rare trait, even among conservatives.
My heart goes out to her with compassion because she is facing a life which will grow more lonely with each passing year and with gratitude because she is reaching out to try to help other young women to avoid making her mistakes.
I’m 45 and just split from my wife. I’ve been with my wife since she was 17 and this is the last thing I ever wanted. I’ve never strayed. I’ve only been with her. Now I have to start over and I’m dreading it. It’s not the money. I make plenty of it and the divorce is so far amicable. It’s not physical. I work out everyday and have been told I’m decent looking. It’s that the entire dating thing is foreign to me. It makes me tired thinking about the whole dating process. I’ve also found that I kinda like being alone at home which I also find a tad scary. I don’t want to end up alone. I woke up late last night wondering how the hell at 45 do I find myself single and essentially homeless because we just sold our house. Do I join a dating app? Do I go to bars? Where do I start?
My circumstance compared to the lady in the articles circumstances are different but ultimately we are in the same place. Older and single. I understand her fear.
Get a grip on yourself man. Life is fun so enjoy your damn self and quit worrying about it.
“Older and single. I understand her fear.”
Older? Hardly!
My father in law married at 47——a younger woman,and had seven kids.
A beautiful marriage,they adored eachother.
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Your right. I do have to get a grip on myself. Just feeling a tad overwhelmed at the moment.
Pursue your passions enjoy your freedom and start to relax and the women will show up and ruin your life again. It’s magic.
The calculus shifts decidedly in favor of males later in life since there are fewer of us. If you’ve kept yourself up, are even halfway decent looking with good income you will have absolutely no problem. Weed out the grifters and feminists though, a good prenup agreement prior to remarrying is a must. As far as meeting women, I’d suggest church or hobbies/activities that interest you, then you’re at least starting out with something in common. Forget going to bars, those are not the females you’re looking for. Same for dating apps. And don’t sweat it so hard, the world has changed and not for the better, women on the whole have gotten really messed up with feminism and a gimme attitude, but there are decent women out there, go to where they are.
I know a lot of women like this. In fact, I fairly certain that in some of the big cities, it’s the rule rather than the exception. It’s sad, they aren’t even necessarily militant feminists, they just did what they thought they were supposed to, finish your education and start a career before settling down, and then they look up and they’re over 40, never been married, nobody’s interested in them.
Don’t go to bars; I’m not even sure about cruises. I would find a community or church volunteer activity where you will meet involved, happy people. Or join a special interest club where you’ll meet someone with similar interests. If you’re religious, go to church and get involved.
It’s not scary that you enjoy being alone now and then; you’ve been through an enormous life change. But don’t let negativism close your mind to the possibilities out there.
Do something that makes YOU happy and engaged, and you’ll be a very interesting person to somebody else.
Cannot wait for that time to come.
I know a lot of women like this. In fact, I fairly certain that in some of the big cities, it’s the rule rather than the exception. It’s sad, they aren’t even necessarily militant feminists, they just did what they thought they were supposed to, finish your education and start a career before settling down, and then they look up and they’re over 40, never been married, nobody’s interested in them.
It takes a lot to proclaim you have been wrong. To want to help others not make the same mistakes as yourself. Spending your life working your tail off to make a living is something you believe will be helpful. Even if you raised children who now live far away and you are now alone for any number of reasons, it is sad.
When my two sons were growing up, my wife and I never brought one of those infernal gaming systems into the house. That's not to say they didn't pull games up on the web but we drew the line at the separate gaming platforms as they seem as addictive as crack cocaine and my observations of households that have them suggest that they have adverse results on schoolwork, discipline, attention spans, family relations, etc. I suppose you can say that about a lot of things but that's one particular area my wife and I drew a line in the sand on and both our sons grew up with no major issues and are both now out on their own and totally self-reliant.
I just think it's sad to see a grown man slumped on a couch playing those games.
Will correspond in private, I have some guidance for you.
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