Posted on 07/24/2018 11:14:28 AM PDT by servo1969
I love women. Not in the social justice warrioresque "We must praise women as strong, capable CEOS and STEM graduates who can do anything men can do, but in heels" way, but in an old-school way. It's easy to respect a mother who watches out for her children, a wife who is loyal to her husband, or a sister who cares for her brother. I love a beautiful woman. I love a sexy woman. I love a woman who gives off that amazing feminine energy. As a man, being around a woman like that is just good for your spirit.
All that being said, this is not about the more wonderful traits of women. To the contrary, it's the kind of warning about women that fathers used to give their sons, but that's frowned upon today. You see, in our society we can hammer home the faults of men until they become stereotypes, but we're not supposed to point out the similarly damaging, but often very different flaws of women that young men need to worry about.
I think lions are extraordinarily beautiful and powerful creatures, but I also know if you make a wrong move around one, you can lose an arm. Women are much the same. They are magnificent but dangerous and since men pursue them, they need to understand what they're getting into.
Men don't like to admit this, but the first thing they think about when it comes to women is beauty. Not only are we drawn to it, but it's a status symbol. When a man has an attractive woman, other men think more of him. In fact, it can become such a powerful draw that some men put beauty first and second -- and whatever comes third doesn't matter. This is a mistake if you plan to be with her beyond a date or three because beauty fades for all of us, but it fades faster and harder for women. Moreover, beauty in and of itself only attracts for so long. As the old saying goes, "No matter how good she looks, someone out there is tired of her sh*t." Point being, make sure you judge a woman on a lot more than beauty alone because the time is going to come when one way or the other, that beauty is going to fade in your eyes.
Men tend to be famously ruthless about relationships a few dates in when women fall for them way too early and the men only care about sex. On the other hand, women tend to be much more ruthless than men when a relationship is ending. This is hard for a lot of men to believe because they can't imagine the sweet, uplifting, nurturing woman they were in a relationship with is taking them to the cleaners in divorce court or using their kids as a bargaining chip after the divorce.
Women tend to put the same kind of emphasis on status that men put on beauty. That doesn't mean it's the end all and be all of everything, but it does mean status is a lot more important to women than it is to men. What that means is that as a man, if you ever stop performing at the level your woman is accustomed to, you may lose her regardless of everything else. Lose your job, get demoted, take a big pay cut, lose your moxie somehow and women are much more likely to walk away than a man would be with a woman in the same situation. That doesn't mean it's a given, but it does mean that going backward in status as a man risks your relationship with a woman.
There are exceptions to every rule, but the most stable woman is as emotional as an unstable guy. Women are more emotional, more hormonal than men. Women are, at best, more tolerant of drama than men and at worst, they seek it out. They will become upset for no good reason, act irrationally, and are more prone to things like anxiety than men. The point of this is not "women are unstable and bad," it's that women are very different in this area and you need to be ready to deal with it. At times there's going to be crying, no matter what you do. At times, your girlfriend / lover / wife is going to become angry at you even though you've done nothing wrong. Wise men learn that there are times to ignore things women say rather than get in a fight because ten minutes later, their mood will improve. To men who aren't used to it, all of this can be freaky, but it can also help keep things fresh and exciting once you learn to navigate it.
If your woman is stronger than you, she may still date you. She may love you. She may even marry you one day. However, on a fundamental level, she will not be able to respect you if you are not strong and competent enough to lead her. Women don't want to be the ones who make all the decisions and wear the pants in the family and if you force her to do that, it will wear on her and she will come to resent you. How will that resentment play out? At best, probably unhappiness and at worst, cheating, divorce or contempt that's so bad that you wish you were divorced. I'm not telling you to be a jerk, but I am telling you that if you are not a stronger person than your woman, you will ultimately be sorry.
This is very thought provoking.
It’s good for men and women to understand each other, as a basis for a happy marriage.
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I could never stand airheads.
# 6. Women are master manipulators and will stop at nothing to get their wants and needs met.
But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these:
8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry directly; being sincerely Your affectionate Friend
More head room.
***Beauty is fleeting but cooking ability lasts a lifetime.***
1930s
My mother was beautiful, but my dairy farmer father saw her other attributes as bonus points. She could milk the cows and drive the milk delivery truck. She could collect eggs, kill chickens, pluck and cook them. Plant, grow and cook vegetables. Washed laundry by hand, until he fashioned a primitive washing machine for her.
It worked ‘back in the good old days’ but women do not do heavy physical, time consuming labor at home anymore - so they have time and skill for “outside the home” work.
If you aren’t focused on a common set of values, your relationship is doomed.
Absolutely right on the money.
But you missed two:
1. P*ssies are for shooting out babies.
2, Asses are for crapping.
I think Jessica Tandy was always beautiful no matter what her age.
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I’m going to go out on a limb and guess that Mr. Hawkins isn’t married...anymore.
Feel free to add to “THE LIST”!
6. Once a woman’s heart turns against you, there’s no getting it back....ever.
[[As a woman, I guess I have the freedom to say that I don’t know how men put up with us!]]
Cuz we secretly need someone to wipe our noses when we get a cold, and to find the things in the refrigerator that are right in front of our noses, and to handle the bills, and and and-
This is a very good point! Also, hormones! I’ve had to take all the hormones for a long time due to a pituitary tumor. So I can make sure I’m on the most even keel. When hormones are out of whack for women AND FOR MEN, it changes a lot of things. Especially moods and happiness. When they are not taken orally they won’t cause cancer etc.
This is very true.
A side note about looks, women aren't the only ones whose looks fade with time.
Some of the very men who complain so much about women's looks need to check out a mirror once in a while.
Why men think they are entitled to lookers when they look like something that fell off the turnip truck is beyond me, but next time, men feel inclined to complain about a woman's looks and weight, they should check themselves in a mirror with the same scrutiny.
So they don't have Miss America? More than likely, they are not Mr. America either.
7. Liberal women age fast....The emptiness and anger eventually eeks to the surface of the skin and is reflected in the eyes.
(real life experience)
I know a fairly wealthy guy who gave the advice, “If it’s got boobs or wheels, rent it. It will only give you problems.”
Re the beauty thing: powerful or popular men tend to only choose the most facially, figure-perfectly beautiful women on the planet and nobody else. Rock stars marry supermodels, sports stars marry the prettiest actresses and singers. While these women are absolutely lovely to see every day, I also wonder if these men do it for their friends and other men, as in “only someone of my status could have gotten her.”
Very true.
And something I've noticed seems to be that some of the hottest women when they were younger age the worst.
Many of the more average women younger maintain their looks longer and age better, and it's not about hygiene and skin care. Just nature.
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