Posted on 12/04/2016 1:25:39 PM PST by ameribbean expat
It was incredibly humbling to recognise that I had something to do with why my marriage was failing and perhaps even why my first marriage failed. But it was also empowering.
I didn't know I'd been disrespectful to my husband or even that I'd been controlling and critical.
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My husband gives me wonderful gifts every day.
Very true.
A woman wishes to be desired, and a man wishes to be admired. More couples need to remember this and act accordingly.
TL;DR Women don't know how to raise kids any better than their husbands. Being a woman does not give you "special" knowledge.
This, based on my experience with three of my own kids, is an enormous point. My wife and I have had serious fights about this, and it stems from the false concept promulgated by feminism, government literature and court practice and pronouncements, that women know best. Yes, mothers are nurturers and children need nurturing, but they also need to be trained and taught many things and some that are unpleasant. Women who launch into their husbands based on the premise that "He's wrong because that's not the way I would handle it" commit two serious logical fallacies. One is the assumption that she's right which is highly subjective, incredibly self-centered and likely wrong. Two, they assume that the child only needs what his mother gives and that there couldn't possibly be any other need. I've had to pointedly refute my wife that that thought is directly contrary to the fact that The Lord established that each child have TWO parents NOT one. In addition, few people understand human nature and even few believers understand the origin and nature of the Flesh. So they have zero discernment when their kids act up or have problems and are truly clueless about how to deal with the kid. When this goes further and wives set them selves up in opposition to their husbands they insult their husbands in a devastating way. If they do it in front of the kids they are literally fomenting disrespect and rebellion.
I know that this will make some of you cringe and I'll probably be labeled as sexist, but Eve's primary failure after believing the Enemy's lie was a failure to check with her husband. Based on her observation everything was good. Had she consulted with Adam first, things would have been very different. The basic principle established in Genesis 3 is that the Enemy works through the woman to destroy the man.
Meanwhile on the reservation...
How to impress an Indian Woman....
Wine her,
Dine her,
Call her by her Indian name,
Hug her,
Support her,
Hold her in the moonlight,
Surprise her,
Compliment her,
Smile at her,
Listen to her,
Laugh with her,
Cry with her,
Romance her,
Believe in her,
Cuddle with her at a 49,
Shop with her,
Give her many Pendleton Blankets,
No Indian Time,
Keep a job through Pow-Wow Season,
Carry her chair at Pow-Wows,
Give her beautiful Indian jewelry,
Buy her flowers,
Hold her hand,
Don’t eat too much fry bread,
Give her many horses,
Keep the run down cars out of the yard,
Bead for her,
Play beautiful flute music for her,
Set up camp for her,
Hunt for her,
Give her lots of groceries,
Sing beautiful Indian Songs to her.
Have her balance the check book
and never asked how much is left !
Rub her feet, then ankles, knees and...
HOW TO IMPRESS AN INDIAN MAN
Show up nude with fry bread !!!!
Wow! I dig this; always have. And I am very happily married to the love of my life.
Well, it does explain the low divorce rate in strictly Muslim countries. Talk about some surrendered wives... LOL!
“Gifts? Married women get gifts?”
That was a miss print.
You can’t have Mr. Mercat. He’s mine. We’re coming up on 47 years. Wow. He just confirmed that “we’re a team.” But IMHO the secret is that he makes the important decisions. I keep a certain level of veto power but basically I don’t want the responsibility of making the decisions. Up until l999 I tried to control everything... shoot, even up to 2003. I failed. I discovered two people - Dr. Laura and Jesus Christ, not necessarily in that order. I’ve still got a long way to go but I discovered that I love letting go and letting God. I also discovered that he makes a much better parent and the kids (haha 35-40) do better with him than with me.
Also, as a trial attorney (now in recovery), I learned that the worst thing I can do in a personal relationship is use my skills to win the argument.
It usually doesn’t start until married. Then the guys that have this kind of a wife need to deal with both them and the family court system which is rigged.
If the system wasn’t rigged most guys wouldn’t put up with it.
Incentive to marry is way down among a lot of males due to govt intervention.
It’s what the women’s vote caused.
To add to this there are strong data points that many (not all) single mothers raising kids (not widows) have done quite poorly. Generally speaking men who’ve had to take on the role have performed better.
There are many exceptions. A good thread I somewhere last night suggested many younger 20s women are interested in having families and settling down. They are more likely to take their advice from old Deloros down at church than the 45 year old never married, never had kids lady popping benzos.
I happen to know a terribly sweet, misguided lib who at 45 is Uber-fit and feminine in every way. Ideal 2nd wife type outside of the clueless political views. I suspect she’d even turn into a good conservative wife. However cucks, being cucks she wants to adopt an African-American child or at least black. Hey it’s nice she wants to give someone a good life but I’m 48 and if I wanted more kids I’d populate the earth with my excellent genetics. I really don’t want to adopt. I’d tried to explain virtue signaling to her but no dice. Now this woman despite her being a lib tells me privately she has no interest in dating a black man. So she won’t date a guy but wants to adopt? Regardless she is a basket case and I’d have to ignore her attractiveness because what happens if I go along with it and she goes bonkers? By the way for me I’d only adopt if I had a barron wife or was firing blanks. If I choose to have more kids I’d try with someone younger than 40 first. Once I had to adopt I wouldn’t be choosy.
As far as I know most women will act as this woman did...if you let them.
nor would I respect a man would tolerate from me. I also would not treat any man I loved that way.
Bingo. No one does.
They bring nothing to the table in a relationship, except childish demands. They can't cook, they don't know how to run a household, they want to work if they want to work, but are content to spend their husbands' money if they don't, all the while bitching that they're not treated fairly. And when the marriage inevitably fails, they walk away with half of everything even though they've contributed nothing.
And heaven forbid there are any children ...!
Still laughing! Thats funny but soooo true
:) yeah it is. :)
I’m not after your Mr. Mercat. But if you know a forty-something single fellow like him, put us in touch! ;-)
I’m not to sure about your last point. Adam blamed God, indirectly, and Eve, by saying, “The woman You put here with me gave to me, and I did eat.” Eve was deceived, but Adam knew it was wrong, and did it anyway.
“I’m not after your Mr. Mercat. But if you know a forty-something single fellow like him, put us in touch! ;-)”
I’m a bit short on knowing those kinds of guys but I’ll keep an eye out. Will he have to move to Branson?
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