TL;DR Women don't know how to raise kids any better than their husbands. Being a woman does not give you "special" knowledge.
This, based on my experience with three of my own kids, is an enormous point. My wife and I have had serious fights about this, and it stems from the false concept promulgated by feminism, government literature and court practice and pronouncements, that women know best. Yes, mothers are nurturers and children need nurturing, but they also need to be trained and taught many things and some that are unpleasant. Women who launch into their husbands based on the premise that "He's wrong because that's not the way I would handle it" commit two serious logical fallacies. One is the assumption that she's right which is highly subjective, incredibly self-centered and likely wrong. Two, they assume that the child only needs what his mother gives and that there couldn't possibly be any other need. I've had to pointedly refute my wife that that thought is directly contrary to the fact that The Lord established that each child have TWO parents NOT one. In addition, few people understand human nature and even few believers understand the origin and nature of the Flesh. So they have zero discernment when their kids act up or have problems and are truly clueless about how to deal with the kid. When this goes further and wives set them selves up in opposition to their husbands they insult their husbands in a devastating way. If they do it in front of the kids they are literally fomenting disrespect and rebellion.
I know that this will make some of you cringe and I'll probably be labeled as sexist, but Eve's primary failure after believing the Enemy's lie was a failure to check with her husband. Based on her observation everything was good. Had she consulted with Adam first, things would have been very different. The basic principle established in Genesis 3 is that the Enemy works through the woman to destroy the man.
To add to this there are strong data points that many (not all) single mothers raising kids (not widows) have done quite poorly. Generally speaking men who’ve had to take on the role have performed better.
There are many exceptions. A good thread I somewhere last night suggested many younger 20s women are interested in having families and settling down. They are more likely to take their advice from old Deloros down at church than the 45 year old never married, never had kids lady popping benzos.
I happen to know a terribly sweet, misguided lib who at 45 is Uber-fit and feminine in every way. Ideal 2nd wife type outside of the clueless political views. I suspect she’d even turn into a good conservative wife. However cucks, being cucks she wants to adopt an African-American child or at least black. Hey it’s nice she wants to give someone a good life but I’m 48 and if I wanted more kids I’d populate the earth with my excellent genetics. I really don’t want to adopt. I’d tried to explain virtue signaling to her but no dice. Now this woman despite her being a lib tells me privately she has no interest in dating a black man. So she won’t date a guy but wants to adopt? Regardless she is a basket case and I’d have to ignore her attractiveness because what happens if I go along with it and she goes bonkers? By the way for me I’d only adopt if I had a barron wife or was firing blanks. If I choose to have more kids I’d try with someone younger than 40 first. Once I had to adopt I wouldn’t be choosy.
I’m not to sure about your last point. Adam blamed God, indirectly, and Eve, by saying, “The woman You put here with me gave to me, and I did eat.” Eve was deceived, but Adam knew it was wrong, and did it anyway.