Posted on 06/16/2009 12:31:57 PM PDT by reaganaut1
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For my first trip out and about since learning I was pregnant, I went to meet with the director of an adoption agency. He was so supportive and sweet that I walked away choked up but not in tears — it was the first day I didn’t cry. Even though the adoption agency can pay my medical costs and set me up with adoptive parents for maternity shopping, grocery shopping, birthing classes and all kinds of programs, it didn’t feel like enough. I told the director how scared and lonely I’ve been and he just said, “I know. I can tell. We’ll take this one step at a time.” So many of the comments urged me to consider adoption but I already feel so attached to the little zygote inside of me (my friend named it Ziggy) that I don’t think I could carry a baby to term just to give it away. The mere thought of handing my child to someone else, as altruistic as it is, breaks me.
That shifted my thoughts to keeping the baby. My parents have also been reading through the comments and they’ve gained a new insight too. Sure, a baby would be wonderful to have at the Thanksgiving table, but what about the rest of the year? Even though they would love a grandchild, I think they’re starting to understand how hard this will be for me.
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If I’m not there to turn in a policy paper or a memo, someone else’s child might not get their mosquito net or child support check. What I do matters, not just in my own small world, but in the big picture.
(Excerpt) Read more at parenting.blogs.nytimes.com ...
you killed your baby
that’s all that matters
you could have taken your pregnancy as a sign that you were not meant to do this dumb axe graduate program
that something else was in store, that someone else was guiding you not your own peabrain
too late
you feel guilty? you are, but there is forgiveness if requested
you don’t feel guilty? you are still guilty
adoption is not always a great answer either, the children suffer
Would it be unreasonable to substitute monster for mother in your last sentence?
You may say what you like, but I stand by my choice of words.
Nonsense.
As bad a life can be sometimes, most people—the vast majority—will cling to it. Very few people commit suicide, even those who are suffering great pain.
Based on that observation, I think we can safely conclude that babies, if given the choice, would prefer adoption over abortion. Of course, those who describe themselves as pro-choice don't actually believe in giving the baby a choice in the matter.
Perhaps monster is harsh, but mother does not seem quite right either. Doesn't a woman actually have to give birth to be a mother?
Nitpicking aside, I agree with what you wrote: She did kill her own baby, and she did so deliberately. That fact remains, regardless of what one may choose to call her.
The article (and the associated comments) left me cold. There is something, well, creepy about the way the author describes her decision. I try to empathize, but simply cannot imagine acting that way.
Not only cheering, but telling her what a wise beautiful thoughtful and accomplished young woman she is.
We are trying to adopt.
So your grandson’s life is so worthless that you would equate it to a dead baby in a landfill somewhere? That makes absolutley no sense. With life there is always hope. He has a chance for happiness. The aborted baby never had a chance.
I have found that for some ridiculous reason, both men and women are reluctant to give their children to someone else to raise, but they are ok with killing their child. Basically, if they aren’t going to have it, then no one will. It is frustrating, but not uncommon. For all its faults, adoption is a far better alternative than death. There are millions of happy, well adjusted adopted children in this world, and even more adoptive parents who are grateful for the opportunity to be a parent.
On a side note, my wife gave birth to twins this morning. They were born at 1:07 and 1:22 am today :) Two girls. No names yet. We knew they were twins, but didn’t know what gender. Mom and baby girls are fine, even though they were not due until July 30. Sorry for going off topic. Just a proud dad.
Congratulations!
Congratulations! Hope they are all doing well.
As far as I'm concerned, the fertilized egg is a child and the man and woman who contributed the sperm and the ovum are his father and mother. Everything after that (including birth) is just growth and development.
I did see your earlier post, and it is quite possible that this was contrived to serve an agenda of the author.
The considerations and conclusions that were expressed, if not by the subject of the piece, were then developed by the author. Still cold, calculating, selfish and ghastly.
Add in that the comments were moderated, which allowed the author to further shape her agenda.
I've read some of your thoughtful measured replies - I suspect you'll make an understanding protective and "fun to be with" father. Happy Father's Day ga medic. Congratulations on the birth of your daughters.
Thanks. I didn’t put it in the post, but these are my 6th and 7th children. It was a big surprise to say the least. My youngest is 12. They are all doing well though. Alexandra was 3’12” and Isabella was 4’1”, which is pretty good for 33 weeks.
I used to be fun and protective, but now I just feel old. They are beautiful though, and I feel incredibly blessed to have them. I really appreciate the well wishes. Happy Father’s day to you too.
It's just sad. I read further the comments and see mixed views about adoption. It's not always the best thing possible, but at least this gives the baby a chance. This one has no chance. None. For all we know, that could be the next Dave Thomas, Dante Culpepper, or Curtis Joseph.
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