Posted on 03/12/2008 4:55:51 AM PDT by ciocia
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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So true. You also can't make someone do what they must to save themselves from a bad situation. It can be very frustrating for those who try.
You are both very, very wise. It doesn’t help that I’ve been successful in the past year losing and keeping off the weight that so many ladies experience after menopause.
I wish she would go to my doctor. Bio-identical hormones are the answer. And the extra weight is bad for her. She’s already had a heart attack.
You left something out. If you said _______ ?
Again,
I think the issue is what is healthy and attractive to you and to her? I know many women who I think look gorgeous, have excellent BP, labs, genetics etc....but they have hubby’s who push them to ‘loose a few pounds’ or “take that dance class to sex up our marriage”. My reaction is always “Do it for yourself first.”
You have a valid point about TV, but then again, I don’t watch sit-coms that much. I do deal, care for, work with and teach a lot of females, so yeah, I hear their side of things.
>>>>>SCHNORT!!!<<<
Yer bad.
Bad bad bad bad bad!!!
I'll take you one better. Sex in marriage is rarely about sex. Its about intimacy, and a marriage cannot survive without intimacy.
“yes”
However unattractive the TV wife is, the TV husband is more so, physically and otherwise. If you remember Roseanne's TV husband, he was a huge and hugely unattractive guy. And a whiner.
When was the last time you saw a fat TV wife with a thin TV husband? Never. It's always the reverse, and the message is clear: Any fat, balding pig of a man can get a babe. And wives? The best you can do is a fat doofus ten years your senior.
Of course, TV sitcoms are largely written, directed, and produced by men. They create for TV what they desperately wish to be true in real life.
“But God forbid anyone point out that Roseanne is a whiny unattractive cow.”
I think plenty of people have made that observation. :)
-——When I went on ‘regular’ HRT at 29 I gained 40 pounds in 6 months, and nothing change (yes, that was my epiphany and made me a more compassionate RD)that is when I learned a lot about metabolism, hormones and well..... BioID HRT worked for me too-— my weight will always be ‘high’ mostly due to my wonderful Austrian Peasant Baby Factory Genetics ;)
The biggest thing anyone needs to do is take care of themselves and mostly, accept themselves—— not hold themselves up to an unrealistic standard. And if you’re healthy size 14, stay the hell away from anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself.
Obviously I don't watch sit-coms either as my reference was for a show that was on 10 yrs ago. However the media in this country is consistent. Criticize men all you want, but women are off limits (I think part of the reason for that is that men can take it)
I personally don't care, but I notice because of this cultural brainwashing, many women are insulted when criticized, even if it's constructive.
I’ll take you one up....it’s about trust——
You can’t be intimate with someone you don’t trust-— sex with them becomes creepy beyond words.
I'm sorry to hear that your friend is in such poor health, but that may be the one place that she can start on the road back. Perhaps small efforts,like walking short distances, are the way for her to start, although with her history of heart problems she needs to see her doctor first.
It's difficult, if not close to impossible to make changes in one's life when one is feeling unwell.
Some men are just scum. Your ex was obviously one of them. With your attitude, you will likely find the kind of man you deserve. Just make sure you get an emotionally healthy one.
I know from personal experience, it’s all in how the critque is offered. If it’s done in a constructive way, with lots of praise for all the good things put in too, then it’ll be heard.
If it stands on its own, it comes off as an attack. Just my 2 cents.
I never learned anything by ignoring critisicm. Usually the sooner a person recognizes a problem with their behavior, the easier it is to change. God tends to makes the hurdles higher if you keep ignoring them.
Poor health all the way around, it seems. She doesn’t come in until 9:30 every night after working until 7:00 or 8:00 and then going to the gym.
I was going to call the husband and chew him out. I guess I should be glad there was no answer last night, except that means he was probably [guess where?]
Barbra Jean and Brock in the TV show Reba.
I honestly believe it’s differences in self-value etc. And how they were raised—— sometimes teasing was a way of being acceptably cruel or as a way to do harm covertly, so any remarks are taken at more than face value.
I’ve dealt with anorexics who’ve been triggered by nothing more than a ‘chimpmunk cheek’ remark from a parent or been thrown into a tailspin by a dance teacher who threatened to cut them from the troupe because they’d gained 3 pounds.
Their total value is in their appearance, weight etc. Do I think they’re overly sensitive? Yes, but that’s who they are, so I work within those parameters. What they look like is who they are—— no division, no separation.
Same for the women in your life—— if they are what they look like, if they are sensitive about their appearance, toughening them up ain’t gonna work. You’re going to have to work within the parameters of who they are.
Intimacy and trust are not the same thing, but they are certainly exclusive as far as intimacy goes. You may trust someone without being intimate, but you can never be intimate without trust.
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