[Republic of Texas]

That's true, but our culture never worries about men's sensitivities when it comes to criticism. It makes women too sensitive. If a guy is fat, no one, him, his friends, spouse or family hesitates to point that out. That simply cannot be done with a woman without being labeled a sexist pig. Even if it is true.

I never learned anything by ignoring critisicm. Usually the sooner a person recognizes a problem with their behavior, the easier it is to change. God tends to makes the hurdles higher if you keep ignoring them.

[najida]

I honestly believe it’s differences in self-value etc. And how they were raised—— sometimes teasing was a way of being acceptably cruel or as a way to do harm covertly, so any remarks are taken at more than face value.

I’ve dealt with anorexics who’ve been triggered by nothing more than a ‘chimpmunk cheek’ remark from a parent or been thrown into a tailspin by a dance teacher who threatened to cut them from the troupe because they’d gained 3 pounds.

Their total value is in their appearance, weight etc. Do I think they’re overly sensitive? Yes, but that’s who they are, so I work within those parameters. What they look like is who they are—— no division, no separation.

Same for the women in your life—— if they are what they look like, if they are sensitive about their appearance, toughening them up ain’t gonna work. You’re going to have to work within the parameters of who they are.