I honestly believe it’s differences in self-value etc. And how they were raised—— sometimes teasing was a way of being acceptably cruel or as a way to do harm covertly, so any remarks are taken at more than face value.
I’ve dealt with anorexics who’ve been triggered by nothing more than a ‘chimpmunk cheek’ remark from a parent or been thrown into a tailspin by a dance teacher who threatened to cut them from the troupe because they’d gained 3 pounds.
Their total value is in their appearance, weight etc. Do I think they’re overly sensitive? Yes, but that’s who they are, so I work within those parameters. What they look like is who they are—— no division, no separation.
Same for the women in your life—— if they are what they look like, if they are sensitive about their appearance, toughening them up ain’t gonna work. You’re going to have to work within the parameters of who they are.
I do not try to “toughen” women up, or on certain subjects, I will not be honest with a woman because they usually don’t want honesty. That’s the difference between women and men I suppose. If a man asks for your honest opinion, they really want your honest opinion. I think the hyper-sensitivity that our culture places on women does them, and those around them a disservice.
I never asked to be this way, she did it for her, and I keep encouraging her. She says "Not bad for a 50-yr-old." And I say, "Heck baby, you make a lot of 20-yr-olds jealous."
I get and give a LOT of attention for that.
Now it's my turn to knock off 30-40 pounds.
“Same for the women in your life—— if they are what they look like, if they are sensitive about their appearance, toughening them up ain’t gonna work. You’re going to have to work within the parameters of who they are.”
You are so smart. Are you a therapist?
I once met a very, very nice man whose wife left him because she was self-conscious about her own weight issues! Left him for a man closer to her [larger] size!
What a maroon!