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To: Cincinatus' Wife

Calling all Freepers.

My son came to us last week and said he was interested in joining the military and wanted our advice as to which branch to join.

I am at a complete loss as neither my spouse nor I have ever served.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.


11 posted on 06/04/2006 6:58:11 AM PDT by babydoll22 (The facts ma'am, just the facts. I don't want to know what you feel!)
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To: babydoll22
The one where the enlisted send the offices off to die, while they hang out well behind the lines. ;-) The Air Force.
13 posted on 06/04/2006 7:08:24 AM PDT by Jotmo ("Voon", said the mattress.)
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To: babydoll22
Don't know if you (or those from other branches) really want to hear this, but here goes. When ours was making his decision, his father's advise was:

"Odds are you'll go over, you might as well learn the best and right way to do things."

I concurred. We made sure his head was on straight, that he really had a good clear realistic, unglorified picture (seek out some vets-old ones are the best, they've got the wisdom of sages), and then, all that was left to do was cover him in prayer before he left home and we've never let up since he left. God bless you all.

15 posted on 06/04/2006 7:21:53 AM PDT by freema (Proud Marine FRiend, Mom, Aunt, Sister, Friend, Wife, Daughter, Niece)
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To: babydoll22

Invite the recruiters(one by one) to your house and sit around the kitchen table with your son and see what each branch has to offer...then decide.....make sure everything you want is written in the contract.....Good luck....and thank your son for wanting to serve....HOO'AH..


17 posted on 06/04/2006 7:26:41 AM PDT by mystery-ak (Army Wife and Army Mother.....toughest job in the military)
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To: babydoll22

Air Force if you want an education and decent living conditions. Navy is you want good chow Marines if you REALLY want to see some action. I was drafted, so I had no choice - but I enjoyed my service with some of the best soldiers in the world.


18 posted on 06/04/2006 7:40:27 AM PDT by pgobrien (82d Abn Inf pings......)
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To: babydoll22
I think the first question to answer is .. What do you want to do?
I know a young man, waiting for orders to go over to Iraq .. that started out wanting to be a sniper and ending up a machine gunner in the Marines.
His motivation for joining in the first place was a sincere desire to do something in/to/for the Middle East because of the homocide attacks on us on September 11, 2001.

So the second question answered is .. Why?

After that ... then check out the different branches.

19 posted on 06/04/2006 7:41:22 AM PDT by knarf (A place where anyone can learn anything ... especially that which promotes clear thinking.)
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Depends on what he is interested in.

Is he planing to be career military or just four years?

20 posted on 06/04/2006 7:44:08 AM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Every lady in this land hath 20 nails on each hand five and twenty on hand and feet)
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The Navy because it offers everything the other branches have and a lot more that they don't. (Even if they are about to screw up the uniform.)
21 posted on 06/04/2006 7:56:35 AM PDT by VRWCtaz (Conservatism is about promoting opportunity and Liberalism is about controlling outcome.)
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To: babydoll22; StarCMC; Jack Deth; BufordP; bmwcyle; patton; IGOTMINE; 68-69TonkinGulfYachtClub; ...
My son came to us last week and said he was interested in joining the military and wanted our advice as to which branch to join. I am at a complete loss as neither my spouse nor I have ever served. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

First, I commend you for raising a fine young man who is looking to serve others. I was in a similar predicament years ago, although I came from a Navy family and thought I'd go that route. But I decided to talk to the four Dept of Defense recruiters (Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines) and listen to their pitches. (I didn't talk to the Coast Guard back then, but I'd certainly recommend your son check it out. Its already important mission is IMHO even more important in this terrorism environment.)

I ended up choosing the Marines and really enjoyed my service. But I can also say that I ran into some awesome people in all branches. Your son's desires will likely decide for him. (For instance, technical training might push him toward the AF or Navy, while physical challenges/fitness/leadership may push him toward the Marines or Army).

Since neither of you have any preconceptions, I'd recommend going to each recruiter's office with him, or calling them on the phone with him on another line. (Only if he's comfortable with this approach.)

I've probably blabbed enough. :-) Good luck on his decision, and below I included a nice one-stop shopping link for more info. Of course check out each individual service's sites as well.

www.usmilitary.com

24 posted on 06/04/2006 8:33:36 AM PDT by Coop (FR = a lotta talk, but little action)
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I would ask him if any appeal to him, because I bet deep down he already knows.

What is he looking to get out of the experience? Skills, or adrenaline? Does he like the idea of water, land, or air?Let him know that with great grades in college and good eyes he can fly.
26 posted on 06/04/2006 8:38:31 AM PDT by Vision ("America's best days lie ahead. You ain't seen nothing yet"- Reagan)
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Go Navy.

(Commander USNR Ret.)

27 posted on 06/04/2006 8:39:18 AM PDT by Non-Sequitur
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How old's you're son? What are his goals? My dad and 11 of his 7 of his 8 brothers and sisters were all military, most of them career...I wasn't 'pushed' into the Army, but raised with a sense of values that compelled me to want to go in (although I left after 10 years for personal reasons). If your son's not that certain, I would recommend he enlist check it out for a few years, see a little of the world. I'd be willing to bet that after that his life goals will assume a much sharper focus.

If he's pretty positive the military is what he wants, and he still has a year or two left in High School, have him start looking seriously at the Academies and ROTC programs at civilian colleges and Universities....and emphasize that his academic performance between now and then will be a factor of major consideration....

29 posted on 06/04/2006 8:45:17 AM PDT by Joe 6-pack (Que me amat, amet et canem meum)
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Don't listen to these guys - there is only one service - the 82nd Airborne Division.

The rest are wanna-be's.....

(time to LRRP out of here!)

30 posted on 06/04/2006 8:45:54 AM PDT by patton (What the heck just happened, here?)
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To: babydoll22

My son is sitting on an airplane at this very moment. His flight to Quantico, VA to begin officer candidate school takes off in about 2 minutes.

I'm not sure I have any advice. If your son wants to join the military, God bless him. It's not an easy decision to make.


34 posted on 06/04/2006 8:59:12 AM PDT by Dog Gone
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To: babydoll22

Foreign Legion


40 posted on 06/04/2006 9:05:48 AM PDT by dakine
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To: babydoll22

What a way to hijack a thread!

What service your son shoudl go to depends on what he wants to do and what sort of man he is already.

If he wants to fight, he should probably join the Army or Marines. They do the fighting. Twenty years ago I would not have recommended the conventional Army at the same level as the Marines; today I would. A young man does not need to be in the Marines, SF or paratroops to be with good peers and great leaders. Of course, in any of those elite forces he gets valuable bragging rights.

If he is more interested in something else, like saving money for college, or learning a trade, the Air Force is the best bet. It has the most technical fields (although few of them translate into a specific civilian job). There are a few gems in there though. A military trained air traffic controller can step right into an FAA job on leaving the service, and the FAA is hiring (Army, Navy and AF all have this specialty).

The Navy has some challenging jobs but it is also the least egalitarian, most feudal service. While the physical conditions (housing, food) of Army service are the worst, the navy can be an unpleasant place for a free man, unless he is an officer. In recent years the "travel" has become a lot of riding around in the ship with not so many visits to exotic ports. One good thing for the education minded, on the bigger ships (especially carriers) they have college classes... professors and everything.

If he wants to help his country and people there is one more service that deserves fair consideration: the Coast Guard. I was talking to a young man a while back that said his job -- rescue swimmer -- was the best job not only in the service, but the world. And he meant it. For that job, you need to be smart and strong.

But there are a lot of different jobs and with a smaller military, most of them make a real contribution to the safety and security of the nation.

Finally, a young man looking to "find himself" probably belongs on active duty (rather than in college burning mom and dad's money. The college will still be there in four years). But for some people the reserves or Guard are a better option. That lets you combine military service with civilian living.

My own background colours my own opinions, of course. As a college dropout, I joined the Army in the 1970s intending to do four years and go back to school. Somehow I wound up getting into it, and served 8 years active, 8 years reserve, and over 10 in the Guard. Along the way I finished the college degree, while getting a lot of training that doesn't apply well to civilian life. (I can disassemble a BAR, construct a 1/4 wave HF antenna, treat severe deceleration trauma, construct an anchor point in earth or snow for hoisting a vehicle up a cliff, and name all the pieces of a Madsen submachine gun... I can command a unit of up to battalion size in about six languages. None of which impresses dates).

As a mother, you will worry about risks. You know, it's a rough age for young men. The ones that are not facing IEDs in Anbar will be learning lessons about drunken driving and other youthful risk-taking behavior. At least in the service, like the Boy Scouts, there are some adult leaders.

And their moms worry about them, too. I was in my 40s in my last tour and my elderly mom was still worried sick the whole time. Sorry, Mom.

By the way, when he comes home from basic training -- whichever service he selects -- he will have much new vocabulary. You are STILL his mom and don't need to tolerate that!

Best of luck

d.o.l.

Criminal Number 18F


48 posted on 06/04/2006 12:12:25 PM PDT by Criminal Number 18F (America has no native criminal class, apart from Congress -- Mark Twain)
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To: babydoll22
My son came to us last week and said he was interested in joining the military and wanted our advice as to which branch to join.

It all depends on what skills he wants to learn. I joined the Air Force because I loved technology and Aviation. (the quality of life the AF provides was a good bonus!)

49 posted on 06/04/2006 12:18:25 PM PDT by operation clinton cleanup
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Go Navy, Go Submarines


51 posted on 06/04/2006 12:43:16 PM PDT by bmwcyle (Only stupid people would vote for McCain, Warner, Hagle, Snowe, Graham, or any RINO)
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I was just home from basic in 1968 at the height of Vietnam. My cousin, a year+ younger than me had come to me saying he was entering the Navy and would train in Tennessee and all the training and benefits he would/could get. His mother BEGGED me to talk him out of it and I did for her sake (funny, no-one from his side of the family had ever had to go in the military). 9 months later, he was in a car accident with some low-life with a fast car (426 Hemi) and flipped a dozen times in a field after leaving the road at 120 +.

He didn't die; he broke his neck and his mother/father spent the next 30 years dealing with caring for him. He died in an automobile accident a few years later.

Your situation? I don't know what to tell you other than to let him make his own decision. If you brought him up right, he'll make the right one. Interceding in someone else's future should be left to those with wings.

54 posted on 06/04/2006 1:02:24 PM PDT by Gaffer
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"I (state your full name) do solemnly swear to uphold and defend the Constitution of the United States of America, against all enemies, foreign and domestic, and to bear true faith and allegience to the same. I will obey the orders of the President of the United States, and the orders of the officers appointed over me. I take this obligation freely and without any mental reservation or purpose of evasion. So help me God."

I don't care what color your son's uniform is -- when he says those words, or some form therefore, he's OK in my book. And you must have been pretty good parents for him to see and respond to the need of our Nation.

As for my service, I'm just an old Army guy. Now at the twilight of my career, I'm mighty glad to see more men coming up to replace old Reagan Cowboy's like me.

Here's what you can do...get a copy of the oath of enlistment, or oath of commission, and read it. Learn what each word and phrase means. Then teach it to him, and tell him what it means to you. If he understands the oath, and desires to fulfill it -- that's a man you've raised! A mighty fine man!

81 posted on 06/04/2006 4:58:08 PM PDT by ReaganCowboy (History books are written by winners.)
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My son came to us last week and said he was interested in joining the military and wanted our advice as to which branch to join

First, how athletic is he? The Army and Marines are very physical. Beyond that what does he want to do with his life? What are his interests? The reason they are behind in enlistments is that they are replacing some of the military that Clinton got rid of., so many fields are going to be available to him. Be patient. Be persistent and make the recruiter earn his paycheck. Some jobs do not translate well to the outside world, others ensure you have a job when you get out. Feel free to get with me with whatever questions you have. I come from a long military family and live in a military town. I'd be happy to help your son get the most out of his military experience.

83 posted on 06/04/2006 5:10:58 PM PDT by bad company (The fight will not be the way you want it to be. The fight will be the way it is.)
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