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I'm not sure what to say about this really. I think it would hard for me to request this type of photographic service if I was in that situation.
1 posted on 04/20/2006 11:13:09 AM PDT by Incorrigible
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For your review


2 posted on 04/20/2006 11:13:25 AM PDT by Incorrigible (If I lead, follow me; If I pause, push me; If I retreat, kill me.)
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I personally doubt I could handle something like that. The sad thing is that couple is from our hometown. Craziness.


3 posted on 04/20/2006 11:15:53 AM PDT by underdognewsgrl ("As many soaring voices, forever changed by Your mercy. It was beautiful." RIP Five Iron Frenzy)
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I fully and completely understand why someone would.


4 posted on 04/20/2006 11:16:31 AM PDT by wideawake
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Doesn't sound like the healthiest situation. It seems like it would just reawaken grief more and more. If a loved one of yours died, would you want pictures of them right after they died? Granted, you would have other types of pictures. But, this just doesn't seem healthy.


5 posted on 04/20/2006 11:17:15 AM PDT by Blogger
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For a couple of years I worked with mothers of newborns who were unlikely to survive.

The picture is invaluable and gives the mom something to hold onto when her baby is gone. It eases the suffering to have the picture.

One friend whose baby was stillborn was not even allowed to see the baby when it was delivered and for years and years she was so saddened by that fact.

6 posted on 04/20/2006 11:21:29 AM PDT by OldFriend (I Pledge Allegiance to the Flag.....and My Heart to the Soldier Who Protects It.)
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This is really sad, and being a new parent myself, I completely undertand why these unfortunate mothers and fathers would want to have their stillborn infants' memories preserved through photography before they are lain to rest.


8 posted on 04/20/2006 11:23:41 AM PDT by Virginia Ridgerunner ("Si vis pacem para bellum")
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As a father of three (one of them a sweet little 7 month-old girl) I can understand why a parent would want a photographic record of their child in this situation. Despite the fact that that baby is no longer with them, it was nonetheless a human life, nurtured in the womb and loved by both parents, and it seems a natural thing to want some way to remember their baby by.

My heart grieves for those parents who have had to go through such an ordeal.
9 posted on 04/20/2006 11:23:47 AM PDT by reagan_fanatic (Someday we'll look back on all this and plow into a parked car)
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The photograph of a still born child or a older deceased infant/child was highly prized in the late 1800's and early 1900s. This is not new to our society.

If it provides comfort to the parents, who am I to judge if they should have such photos?


11 posted on 04/20/2006 11:25:42 AM PDT by texson66 ("Tyranny is yielding to the lust of the governing." - Lord Moulton)
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I have been in the situation.

Mom didn't want to see the baby she lost.

We carefully dressed and wrapped him in a blue blanket.

The photo's were for a few months down the road when Mom changed her mind.

Most of them do.


12 posted on 04/20/2006 11:26:36 AM PDT by TASMANIANRED (The Internet is the samizdat of liberty..)
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Being a young fella with no kids, at first glance I thought this was pretty creepy. After reading some of the posts here, I think I can understand.

I'm not sure if it would be for me, but I'm glad that it helps some people.


13 posted on 04/20/2006 11:26:44 AM PDT by samson1097
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I don't know, maybe I'm wrong but I think this might be due to the movement away from God. They think a photo is all they have or all that ever existed of that Soul. Then again, if I had a child that died shortly after birth, I'd probably like a photo myself... not much difference. A terrible loss anyway you slice it.

jw


14 posted on 04/20/2006 11:26:56 AM PDT by JWinNC (www.anailinhisplace.net)
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A friend has a few photos of her full-term stillborn daughter and they give her great comfort. But she keeps them privately tucked away. I can't imagine displaying them in the living room.


16 posted on 04/20/2006 11:27:42 AM PDT by T Minus Four
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There are parents who have devoted websites to their stillborn children. My wife (ever the cynical one) showed me one impressively sappy pink fluffy page with a midi file playing a melody over the top. Yikes! Seems to me that that's a little over the top.


17 posted on 04/20/2006 11:28:45 AM PDT by ThinkPlease (Fortune Favors the Bold!)
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This thread is hard to read without tearing up. I'm for whatever gives comfort. If pictures do it, then bless those who take them.


18 posted on 04/20/2006 11:29:44 AM PDT by najida (They who dance are thought mad by those who hear not the music.~Anonymouse)
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When my daughter died of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, the hospital no only provided a Polaroid camera but the materials to allow us to do and and foot prints. I prefer the pictures of my smiling little girl while my ex has those Polaroids.

I used to help out in a support group and the horror stories of callus a-holes wondering aloud what all the fuss about 'a dead baby' made me wonder why the murder rate is not a lot higher. I had a Chiropractor tell me my daughter would have lived if I had taken her into him for a 'chiropractic adjustment' -- and to this day I am amazed I did not remove his skull from his neck.

19 posted on 04/20/2006 11:29:48 AM PDT by pikachu (For every action there is an equal and opposite government program)
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I'm a volunteer hospital chaplain.

I sat in an Emergency Room recently with a young father who held one of two twins.

The twin that the father held had been still-born.

I remember him telling me that he wanted a few minutes to hold his daughter. Because, he said, he would never have that chance.

So I completely understood when he told me that he wanted to have a picture or two of this daughter he would never know.

22 posted on 04/20/2006 11:34:41 AM PDT by chs68
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Thank you for making me tear up!

No, really, as a woman just days (hopefully) away from giving birth, I can completely understand the desire for pictures if something were to happen to my baby. I cherish the 3D photos I have, but I think I'd really want some of us holding her in our arms.


25 posted on 04/20/2006 11:37:52 AM PDT by elc
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Having lost a baby during early pregnancy, I can assure you that I wanted nothing more than to cling to any memory I had of my baby boy. I had nothing, though. I would do this.


27 posted on 04/20/2006 11:39:30 AM PDT by arizonarachel (Praying for a January miracle!)
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Oh my heavens this is the saddest thing I have read in ages, it makes me want to cry.


29 posted on 04/20/2006 11:42:16 AM PDT by 3AngelaD
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I guess you have to be Catholic or something. It's the open verses closed casket thing. I'm big on open caskets but I know my sister in law about had a fit when the minister at the cemetery asked that the casket with my father in law in it be opened one last time (it had been closed at the church ceremony) so that the family could say goodbye. At my father's funeral, casket opened, all were invited to go up and say goodbye and in the case of the grandchildren and children, put something in the casket. I put a rosary, the grandchildren put a family photo. just a cultural thing. I didn't throw myself in the grave or anything.


31 posted on 04/20/2006 11:51:19 AM PDT by Mercat (It's still Easter!!!)
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